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writes:I like a guy who's friends with someone i dated 5 years ago.We met recently a couple of times and got on really well. He said he would let me know when he's back in the country as he works abroad to meet up again.I was aware he returned to the country a couple of weeks ago and I didn't hear anything from him. However this week he got back to me and said that he'd been busy and sorting this out. Then told me he was diagnosed with a serious illness, he's had the op and now needs further treatment.I sent him a text the following day to see if he was ok. He didn't reply. Then i bumped into him. He gave me a hug and said he was sorry but he's dealing with a lot at the moment. Then told me that I'm a lovely person and that he would love to get to know me but he can't as right now he's concentrating on getting better. He then wants to work abroad again as he doesn't feel happy back home. During the conversation he gave me hugs a few times, I then left. He text me to say it was lovely to see me. Shall I just leave things and walk away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): I agree with the 'he's just not into you' answer. It is one of the classic 'I like you but..' type of reactions. Forget it, really, give him no further thought. But read the book if you haven't already, all the classic excuses and misunderstanding of situations are there!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Of course. What else could you do ?
He told you clearly that he is focused on himself and his recovery right now, not on dating. He told you he is planning to go back abroad. Plus, regardless of what he told you, it's what he did - two weeks before contacting you- which says that, for whatever reason, his interest is at most lukewarm.
I would not insist- the situation does not sound promising at all.
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reader, Star xxx +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Thats something only you can decide, I think he has been very open and honest with you so far.
If you like him you could stay in contact and see where it goes when he is well in himself again.
There is nothing stopping you getting on with your life as you have no commitments, but hey with someone that has been so honest from the start maybe hes worth giving some time too, they dont come along that often.
Take care xx
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reader, Mrs. Melone  +, writes (18 July 2011):
He is not that into you. Not returning texts and making excuses....CLASSIC SIGNS!! It is a good book to read plus the movie is funny.
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