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female
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writes:I am having a hard time coping with the fact that I cheated on my boyfriend.Him and I have been together for 2 years now. I honestly do love him. I could never ask for anyone better than he is. Of course, he has his flaws just like everyone else...lord knows he is stubborn, he loves to argue and has to be right and is irresponsible when it comes to school. But i cannot complain. I have my faults that get to him. I cry way too easily and let things get to me more than i should, alongside nagging him about school ha. All of this said, him and I are perfect for each other in the long run. by the way, my boyfriend and I have never had sex, we fooled around some and then decided it was best to save ALL sexual activity for after we marry. It is our personal choice. Despite all of this, I gave in to my weaknesses twice with an ex of mine (who goes to the same college as us) that I used to be very connected to. When i say that I cheated, I mean that we made out and he went for more but I wouldn't. Since that, I have realized that I cannot imagine my life without my present boyfriend. He is my sunshine and honestly, life wouldn't be worth living if I lost him. It has been months since i was unfaithful and I have tried to put it behind me. During the short time that I cheated, Mine and my boyfriend's relationship went downhill, we argued non-stop and it seemed that we were on the verge of a breakup. I know this was my fault because I was so stressed out about what I was doing to him. I have, however, re-built the relationship since then. We once agin have a strong connection, I am not around my ex anymore (until we start school again) and I will NEVER let him get to me again. My question is this...even if i have put the fact that I have cheated behind me and re-built the relationship, should I make sure to tell my boyfriend? Or should I not tell him since I have made things better? I don't want to tell him and things blow up in my face, like him deciding to leave me or something...but if it is best to tell him then I want to do what is best for us as a couple. I don't know if i could take him being so disappointed in me that he would leave me and I would have thrown away all of the commitments we have made to each other.Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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reader, BlondeBabe x  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 This is really hard as you dont want to lose your boyfriend. . .
I think it may be better to tell him as one way or another he will find out, there will also be abit in your concience constantly reminding you what you have done.
Its sounds so harsh but its true its happened to one of my friends and i have seem it to many times to count it.
In the end its your choice and no one can tell you what to do. . .
Tell me how it goes.
Good Luck x
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