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writes: I don't know why I'm posting this. I guess I just want emotional support. I was kind of O.K. whith my one year old unemployment status. I have a Master's Degree and were I live this evidently overqualifies you for most jobs. Nobody in my country wants to hire a person with a Master's and no experience. If I'm going to work I need a good salary to pay off my credit card debts, student loans and to live independently. I'm not interested in wasting my time in a stupid job that won't pay enough for me to be completely independent. When I have money I feel I can coqnuer anything. When I don't I feel like the most insecure person on Earth. Well, 2 weeks ago my uncle came from the USA and offered me to go to his house for an udetermined time just to see if I like it there and to find a job. That was an option I was contemplating a long time ago; to go to the USA to find a job. Now that my uncle was offering me his support I felt better about the idea. I talked with my boyfriend and got kind of excited about moving or just going on vacation to send resumes. Two days ago I took my uncle's advice and sent him an email (wich I checked and truly was sent) telling him I was planning on traveling there on July and he hasn't replied yet. I'm guessing he doesn't want me there because I know he checks his email daily and replies quickly. I believe he was just talking bull when he offered for me to go and try it there in the US. Believe me it's not a matter of money because he and his partner have lots of it. That's another thing, he has a partner and I guess he discussed it with him and he dind't like the idea. I've met his partner and he is a good person who let's my uncle do whatever he pleases most of the time. They have a great 20+ years relationship. So, I'm confused about this. I know he will reply someday but I think his silence is telling me something is wrong. I was brought up as an insecure individual and at my 30's I don't see myself living alone in another country without my dog and my boyfriend who wouldn't go with me. But when my uncle offered me his help I felt good about it. But now I'm excited about the idea but with nobody to help me. I know I could find the job I want there but there are a lot of things I feel insecure about. I wish I have someone I know to help me. I've always been dependent on my parents and as much as I wish to leave the house because I can't stand my mother and my married sister visiting every day, and my niece and nephew being in our small house 5 days a week yelling and being..kids I feel insecure about my future. I just want to be an independent and succesful woman but I'm afraid to make decisions. One year of resumes rejections in my country have helped to develop in me a sense of presonal and professional insecurity Is this abnormal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): I posted this question/situation. Well, Mister leonard j.Douglas it seems you don't get the idea of this website. Your response is no good here so take it back. I don't need you or nobody telling me what they think about me but about my situation. If you don't know the art of giving good advice then I suggest you don't give any. Your purpose here is to help solve situations not to create more problems. Remember the boomerang effect.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (29 May 2007):
Dear Personal and Professional Inseccurity.
If you haven't gotten your life together in your country ,don't think that going to the U.S.of A will help you one bit. Perhaps you have let your Professionalism go to you head. Why not do a mental self-analysis, And then, Perhaps you'll see what I see. That you are here on this earth to be served, not to to serve others
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reader, cd206  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 The way I see it your best option would be to take a rubbish job in your country and then build up enough money to be able to live by yourself in America. If it's what you want then it's up to you to make it happen. It might mean having to do something not so great for a while, believe me, I know my degree is doing nothing for me in the job market and I'll be in minimum wage land before now, but I also know that I need to do these types of jobs to prepare me for an amazing job someday. If you're really that intelligent that will shine through, whatever job you're doing, and you'll build up experience slowly.
CD
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