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*tarburstGrin
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together four and a half years. We had a huge fight last week (about a lot of little things, both of us wanting attention, affection, more time together, etc.) and he told me to give him his house key back and he threw mine at me. He even blocked me in my driveway so I couldn't leave, and because I didn't want to fight with him about these things and I wanted to give it a rest and go, he got angry, moved his car, and proceeded to exchange keys and take all his things out of my house. Then I wrote him this in an email the day after: I know we love each other very much. I love you and I don't want you to go away. I talked to my therapist today and he said we may have confusion and/or insecurities possibly from our pasts that cause us to be confused about how to make you and I feel loved. Based on what he shared, It would be a good idea to get professional help and ask someone to help us to understand how to address our hurt feelings and pan out the confusion because I know I don't want to go through this hurt and I am sure you don't either. It could be good to understand what we experience individually. It wouldn't be too scary, we both have pasts that hurt us though and we don't want that to keep happening to each other. Let me know if you are willing. I really hurt right now and I don't want to wait too long because I can't handle the hurt. xoxo, And he replied:I love you and I am sorry that I hurt you. It is never right to yell at someone, swear at someone, or treat them in a way that causes them pain and I apologize for doing those things to you. Right now I do not want to talk to any therapist or counselor. I have been to many counselors in the past and I do not think it is what I need currently. I just need time to think and sort through the things in my life that cause me stress and pain and carry over into our relationship. I do love you.What does this mean? Will I talk to him again? Is he breaking up with me? Does he just want a break? Is he waiting for me to respond? Let me know if you need more details.
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reader, StarburstGrin +, writes (27 July 2011):
StarburstGrin is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your answer, what should I say? What should I make my reasoning for contacting him? He doesn't seem to want to do anything but take this time to sort out his pains?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): Contact him again.
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