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writes:I was with this guy for 4 and a half years and although he initiated the break up I knew it was for the best. Our relationship was very volatile when i was good it was great but when it was bad it was awful. The bad out weighed the good. Although I knew it was for the best I loved him so I was devastated as I did hope we'd get married one day etc.We kept in contact for a few months after but things turned nasty and I did not speak to him and have not spoken to him since. 6 months after breaking up a close friend of mine told me he was engaged to someone else who I'm told he met during our reltionship but was not the reason behind our split.That was 3 years ago and they got married last year.Last week his sister has got back in contact with me and I've seen pictures of him and his wedding day.I haven't been with anyone seriously since we split due to work and because I haven't found anyone worth spending my time with. I wonder whether I need closure or if I'm still in love with my ex but when I saw pictures of his wedding I was surprised at how well I've handled it.......I felt nothing but I'm scared if I see him all these feelings will come flooding back and I'll be back to square one but if he contacts me should I try and confront my fears and speak to him so I can move on or should I ignore him like I have done for the past 3 years?Help!! Very confused.......
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 I think you just need closure, and his marriage should be that. Since you could keep your cool when you saw his pictures, I think you could handle seeing him again. Maybe you're sad at the distance that has grown between you too, but you don't sound like you're in love anymore.
Move on, dear. That's all you need.
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