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writes:an addition to the thing I posted before, I'm having second thoughts about my realtionship. My partners nanna dies about a month ago, and my nanna passed 4 days afterwards. We both went to one anothers nannas funerals, both in the same week and both realized how important family is and we made a photo album and agreed a married life would be best. But i think i was emotional at the time of losing my much loved nanna and have now realized that life really is short and if i saty with my partner I am only going to grow to resent him for not letting me fulfill my dreams and passions. after reading another question on here about choosing between partners or dreams i have realized that the whole reason this affair is happening with this other guy is because I am not fulfilled in my dreams. I want to be a pilot, I want to ride big motorcycles around the world and I want to be free, but my partner is preventing me from doing all of that and I don't have any friends because of him. it just clicked. I have to leave the love of my life so that he doesn't turn out to be the person I resent the most for holding me back. i have to do this at the right time thought because we have a savings account and have things planned but maybe once all thats passed I can address him and end it? What do you think? Has anyone ever been in this situation before?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 July 2010):
I think you should go be a pilot, I think you should go ride that motorcycle around the world, and I think you should be free.
Young people (and I'm one of them, just 22), often believe they've found the love of their life at a young age. But the chances are that they haven't. I thought I had when I was 16. I hadn't. I thought I had when I was 18. I hadn't. In fact, it concerns me that you have no friends because of your boyfriend, because that seems a bit controlling.
Myself, I made a decision to go into a job that I wasn't totally happy with for the sake of keeping others happy. Surprise, here I am later and I ended up losing my job because of the recession So I set up a company, and that didn't go well and I'll have to close it shortly (I'm just getting my money's worth for the stuff I've paid for). So, I'm looking at my life and I'm going to change direction and do what I should have done in the first place.
Another guy will come along in your life. Another life will not come along, so go and live it.
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reader, johannabanana  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Ending something is final and I think what you want to do is take a break see other people. Tell him you have some things to sort out on your own. without him. Take your time try to find what you see fulfills you and just see how things go... If you realize he is all you needed after getting your head straight then you can get back together with him. Don't say never again until you're sure you mean it. A little freedom and maybe you won't resent him after all.
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