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writes:Ok, here goes. Look people start dating, do all these nice things, romantic gestures, use the magic words to catch someone's heart. Then when they got them on the hook and settle down, they get too comfortable. That is where the downhill to a relationship starts. You got to keep your relationship interesting! There are several ways to do that. *Keep yourself up! Don't start wearing sweatpants and tennis shoes. No matter what, you still need to keep yourself looking fly. It helps the attraction stay put. Change your look up here and there. Different is good! Change your hair color, do you makeup different, change your style up/ don't wear the same shirt a couple times a week. *Romancin! Keep the romance alive. Always think about how you could please your partner and what you think they would like. Be spontaneous. If you need some advice on how to....head to the internet or get magazines like Cosmopolitan! Examples: write love letters for them to get before they head to work, get some flowers and leave them somewhere they will see it, send ecards to their email, stick some paper on the wall that make out the words, "I LOVE YOU". Candle light dinners, etc. *Communication!!! This should have been listed as #1 because alot of people have a hard time communicating with their partner and it causes alot of bad vibes and bad vibes= bad days, bad moods and bad sex life! LOL. You have to talk, if you don't feel comfortable talking to your partner, than you don't need to be in that relationship. Your partner is like a best friend and you tell your best friend everything! If you don't communicate your needs you will never know eachother entirely, why they are in a bad mood, why they lack sexual desire, what upsets them, makes them feel uncomfortable, what makes them happy, etc. You have to have this. So many people walk away from a relationship that could have had a lot of potential if they just communicated with eachother.*BEST FRIENDS.... your partner should be your friend also. It helps when your best friend is your partner. YOu have fun with eachother whereever you are. Your there for eachother always, never let them fall and always there to pick them up. Now sometimes some people are just better friends but that is up to you to figure out. *TRUST and HONESTY...everyone knows this one. This is common sense. You can't be with someone that promises things and can't ever keep to their word. If you have no trust, the relationship will diminish as quick as you met them. Untrust is the worst feeling ever. Your mind will suffer which will drain you emotinally and cause you resentment and once you get to resentment it's hard to turn back from that unless they completely turn themselves around and work hard at gaining your trust back and that's hard for alot of people to do. Some people would just rather start all over with someone else whether they were in the wrong or not. If your in this situation and you don't think it's going to get any better and they aren't making "ANY" effort, run because you on the road to alot of heartache and mental torture. *FRIENDS APPROVAL..... be a friend of their friends. When their friends approve, it gives you big bonus points and prevents alot of gossip. If their friends don't like you they will feed your partner alot of negative things about you and that can put strain on your relationship and cause drama. *EX's are Ex's for a reason....... c'mon, why would you be friends with your ex? They are ex's for a reason right?! I don't get these people that stay friends with their ex's. You know your going to run across someone one day that are going to fall deep in love with you and the last thing you need is an ex to cause any drama or confusion. Fact: More people disapprove of ex lover relationships than accept. Don't think your going to get lucky with someone stupid enough to believe you and your ex have nothing going on. How would you feel if your partner were friends with someon that had a sexual and emotional history. Really???? Your asking for drama. If your not willing to let your ex go as a friend than maybe your not over them? Hmmmm????*Compromise...... not everyone is going to like all the same things. You have to meet in the middle with the things you do disagree on. If you don't see yourself dealing with a part of them that you dislike and they are not willing to sacrifice or change than it's time to go. If they are willing to change, lucky you, they must think your the #1 in their life and that's is great!*NO PRESSURE...... let nature takes it's course. Don't pressure sex, for the relationship to go to another level. Pressure makes things uncomfortable, awkward and annoying. You don't want it to get that way. If things are meant to be, it will happen on it's own at just the right time. You don't want to seem too needy or too crazy over someone.*TAKE CONTROL....... it's sad but true but people like a little competition. DOn't seem 100% available and at their beckon call. Sex whenenver they want, always changing your plans to meet theirs, calling all the time, etc. You have to say no sometimes, this is advice mainly for daters that are just going out. I noticed alot of people who act too needy and always at their beckon call seem to be the ones dumped quickly. There are so many ways to keep a relationship going it's ridiculous. Figure out your niche and stick with it if it works. Add to this article to keep the list going. Alot of poeple are truly clueless and need this advice to help them.
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reader, Sweetjen228 +, writes (28 July 2010):
This article was great and it seriously has me thinking dam!
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reader, missdimples3 +, writes (24 July 2010):
 wow that was good. thx for sharing.
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