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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a major problem. This all started a year ago when my now ex-boss first kissed me, he told me he has been in love with me for some time but couldn't leave his wife(which was fine with me, I didn't ask for an excuse)As things have progressed I have grown very fond of him, I love him very much but I'm not IN love with him if you see what I mean.The problem is I have grown to rely on him for money as he has been very good to me and taken care of me from day one. I am now stuck in the habit of this nice lifestyle, calling him whenever I see a new bracelet I like etc especially when his wife rings to brag about all the latest stuff she's bought (yes she know the arrangement) How do I get out of this addictive lifestyle and start standing on my own 2 feet again? Its not that I'm skint, I can afford to live without his money, it is simply the admiration of all these presents, and knowing there's always a safety net if ever I do fall short.I guess what I'm saying is I'd like to pursue a relationship with a person I know can make me happy and settled for life rather than seeing a married man- which is what this is I guess.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (21 August 2011):
 as you are not IN love with him then this should be quite easy for you to 'escape'. just decide on the moral code you want to have and don't deviate from it. all the bracelets in the world are not gonna comfort you when you are feeling like you have prostituted yourself. you are not skint so you don't NEED him financially. like i said, what you do now just depends on the set of morals you want to live by
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (21 August 2011):
You know something, it is a universal truth that the reason people stay in bad situations is that there is something very appealing about it.
I will tell you, the perpetual desire to be admired at any cost (even to your integrity) will lead you to unhappy endings.
Do you work now? If not, get a job as the first step out of this.
But you will need to make a clean break from this lifestyle or you will never be able to have a happy committed relationship.
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