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*shyCole
writes:so i know i ask questions about my love life alot, but its complicated. especially now.he used to be such a sweetheart, always caring and making me feel so special and loved and he always used to do stuff with me like go hiking, or swimming in a pond or just playing in the rain, but slowly he changed from that person and i miss that person so much.He broke up with me after a huge fight, he said im up his butt and bitchin alot about us hanging out and having fun. which we never do anymore. he usually waits untill i leave his house or wherever he's at to even get out of bed. And if he doesn't do that, then he's eating something, or playing video games. but when i leave, he gets drunk, pops fireworks, run around and does crazy fun stuff with his friends, and even starts bon fires and makes smorez. (he usually stays out in the country) so i dont know how im not supposed to bitch..he leaves me to go with his friends and even when he says hes gonna hang out with me, he'll sleep untill 3 in the afternoon and then go to the mall and im not invited. he says its because his friends have no gas or theres no more room in the car, but thats ALL THE TIME. he says they never want to take him to my house cause they wanna hang out with him. he even lets them make fun of me, not in the funny "haha" friendly teasing way, but he lets them call me a bitch and mke mean fun of me. he says he does that to him too but still. he never stands up for me when someone is either being mean to me or if hitting on me, once a guy i know was holding me and trying to kiss me and he didnt do anything about it all, i had to fight the guy off myself. He flirts and acts like he's single so its like i have to fight girls to get his attention and it hurts. I asked him to stop flirting so much and asked him to tell them that theyre flirting too much. he said ok, but it still kept happening. well I finally said i was done trying in the relationship if all i was gonna get for it was shit. he said, "well i dont want to be with someone who doesn't try, so I'm breaking up with you." and he still insists I could have stopped the break up, when i dont see how. Well this isnt the first time he's left me over something so stupid. and like an idiot, i let him come back to me 2 days ago cause he missed me and loved me...and at first i didnt want to, but it somehow ended up with us having make-up sex, even though i kept insisting it was too soon and i needed more time to think. (that was my fault, i feel so stupid)heres the real kicker.My crush, a boy who's been there for me everytime he put me through shit, the guy i have so much fun with all the time told me he really liked me like an hour after we got back together. he still doesnt know we had the make-up sex. then he found out from a friend who thought i was still single that i really liked him too, but instead of being angry like i thought he would, he's just trying to make me feel better and telling me it'll be okay and everything will work out, and is even ecouraging me to hope the best with me and my bf, but if he screws up one more time to call it quits. i skipped school today to get away from them both..i have no idea what to do and i feel like a horrible person!! what do i do?? please help me.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Yes he might say he loves you very much, but they are only words anybody can say those words. Its a persons actions that show if they really love you or not, and all his actions are showing is that he is using you when he wants something then he goes of with his friends and flirts with other girls. Dont tolerate this behaviour as you will only keep hurting yourself in the long run.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 And he would be doing you a favour ! Let's hope is true !
So you could stop making a fool of yourself and catering to the sexual whims of this spoiled brat .
He SAYS he loves you very much, ...but, if all he does is disrespecting, flirting with other girls and blowing you off to be with friends.... then it can't be true, can it ?
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reader, AshyCole +, writes (21 January 2011):
AshyCole is verified as being by the original poster of the question he says he loves me very much and he's sorry and that thing will change, but if i break up with him now he'll never want anything to do with me again =/
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (20 January 2011):
Well hunny its clear your boyfriend doesnt appreciate you at all. He choses his friends over you and cant be bothered spending quality time with you. It sounds to me like he just wants you so that he has someone to have sex with without having to do all the other relationship stuff. You need to think things clearly here and ask your self what you are getting out of this relationship. It sounds to me like you would be better off with the other guy and at least you will be happy with him because he will hve fun with you. Its your decision though so take time out and really ask yourself who would make you happier and care about you the most. goodluck.
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