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writes:Hello all..I'll be turning 22 in a few days and I'm not sure what to do. I've been in a pretty low place in my life lately. I don't socialize at all, I barely talk to anyone except for my bf who lives 3hrs away. I was hoping to be able to spend my birthday with him, but he ended up spending last week with me instead so that's out of the question. I can't be with my family because they think that I'm currently away at school and well, I'm not. So I'll be alone and depressed out of my mind while having the worst birthday ever. Since I live in a really small town, there's absolutely nothing to do. I was thinking about going to see a movie, and perhaps checking out a new restaurant in town but something about going out alone makes me feel lame. I don't want to go out to have drinks/dinner alone and end up looking like a total loser to everyone else! Do any of you have any ideas for me?
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (18 April 2011):
Anonymous 123 said it. You should be honest with your folks so that you can go home and spend your B-Day without...well she said it. However, if you can't bring yourself to do this, why would you look like a loser going out by yourself? I'd take my happy a** right out to eat or something. Remember, it's your birthday, treat yourself. Don't cook or some trash like that, go get a bite and don't worry so much about what people think because if you only how seldom a stranger thinks "what is he/she doing out by themselves?" HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 Its your birthday, and you have the right to spend it in whatever way that makes YOU happy. Honestly, nobody really cares and thinks you're a loser that you're eating out alone. I do it very often when I'm at university because I think its so much better being alone than making small-talk with a bunch of people I don't even like.
You havent told us though, why you're not at school, when your family thinks you are. You have to tell them sometime, you know. You cant hide forever. My two cents, I think you should tell your family the truth and go home and spend your birthday with them. That way, you wont have a heavy heart, you'll have nothing to hide and at least you'll be at home. And remember, thats what your family is for. They'll take care of everything for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): If you want to mark your birthday but dont want to go out alone. You could always get in a couple of dvd's and make yourself a special meal. Or look about for a local class or club you might like to join and make that a birthday treat to yourself. That way you would also start being more sociable. Or you could go home for your birthday, do as suggested and just tell them you miss them. Why do they think you are in school. Are you pretending to them?
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reader, higgy +, writes (18 April 2011):
You always have the option of lying to your family. You could say that "you missed them so you came home to see them for your birthday".
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 April 2011):
 You'll only look like a loser if you think you're a loser. I end up eating out alone all the time so I notice others who are alone. Some of them look embarrassed and sad, so I feel embarrassed and sad for them. Some of them look comfortable and confident and I think they must be very cool to be so comfortable eating alone. It is what you make of it, so go out with the expectation you'll have a good time and hopefully you will. No one will be judging you.
If you've left school and that means you'll have to tell your family eventually, then you may want to go ahead and tell them and spend your birthday with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): You don't need anyone to enjoy yourself on your birthday!! If you can't make yourself happy then no one else can really do it for you. Don't make a big deal over it. Just relax and treat yourself to something. It's your day rejoice and be glad in it. :)
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