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writes:How do I find out if this guy is cheating on me? Lately this guy im seein does not want to spend time with me and does not return my txts most of the time, so one night I had a feeling he was with someone else and I had to go past his place to the store and I seen another car in his driveway, how do I find out if he is really cheating on me? Reply to this Question
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 Hi Sunshine8508,
This woman gives you dirty look because she doesn't like you. I know you don't even know her, and you haven't done anything to her. She wants what you have.... Your boyfriend.....
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 perhaps she is giving you dirty looks because she is jealous? Noone likes to think of their ex moving on and finding someone else. Often we project all those negative feelings we should have for the ex, onto their new partner.
How many times have we heard about men having affairs, and its the mistress who ALWAYS gets the blame!
If you think she is really giving you dirty looks (and your not jsut reading too much into things) then ask her why.
Are you still convinced your bloke is cheating? Why are you still with him if so?
If not, then this womans looks really shouldnt matter to you.
Equally if your only seeing him, you cant really accuse him of being unfaithful.... you werent exclusive in the first place.
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reader, sunshine8508 +, writes (11 December 2011):
sunshine8508 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow come the women I think he is cheating on me with keeps giving me dirty looks all the time? Is it something he told her about me? I don't even know her I just know he has been spending time with her and they were seein each other before.
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reader, bluecow +, writes (4 December 2011):
Hiya
The car could easily be a friend, neighbour, family member, work colleague... almost anyone he knows! It certainly doesnt mean he is cheating on her.
Are you guys officially a couple? Have you agreed to be exclusive? If not, and if this is very early on in the relationship then perhaps backing off a bit would be better.
Either way I do think he is probably trying to send you a message. He is avoiding contact and not returning your calls. That to me is a clear indicator that he is no longer (maybe never was) invested in this relationship.
Sometimes men do this as they dont have the guts to finish it themselves. Its easier to get the other person to do the dumping.
Why dont you try and arrange a chat with him, ask him if he still wants to see you, and if not (or if non-comittal), then dump his ass and move on. Go out and get the man you deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): If you're only seeing him then there's no way he can cheat on you because you're not officially a couple.
You kind of sound a bit full on too. I mean you're only seeing this guy and yet you magically pass his house and check up on him and now you think he's cheating, yet you can't cheat on a person you're only seeing.
Maybe he's backing off because you're too full on OP. Just cool off and back off. In all honesty though it sounds like he's not really that into you anyway. It sounds like he's on his way out of this and is just not bothered making the effort anymore.
In my opinion cheating here is not the issue, the issue is he's starting to head for the exit from you.
OP you need to have a talk with him and find out what you have and where he thinks this is going. Because it sounds like this all stems from you not knowing where you stand. So stop speculating and get some answers. Simple.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (4 December 2011):
Hi sunshine8508,
Sorry that are feeling this way....
How long have you been seeing him?
Are you guys officially a couple?
Reading your short post I can tell for sure that he's not being honest with you. The unknown car in his driveway could be anybody, family member, co-worker, his male friend?...
What concerns me though is the fact that he's not answering your text messages? And he's not trying to spend time with you... I am not sure how close, or how serious is your relationship with him, but I think that you deserve to know the truth.
The best thing to do is to call him and have a honest. Be calm, do not pressure him... You deserve to know the truth. It's not fair that you feel this way, it's frustrating, and painful. Wondering what he's doing? Wait for his calls and replies? Nobody should live this way....
It's better to know, so you can make your decision, and if you have to, you need to move on in peace, and clear mind... Hope you feel better, and get the answers you deserve.
Good luck/best wishes
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