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writes:Okay guys let me explain. Back in january I got on a teen chatting site as I used to for about 4 or 5 months and met a girl (who I will call M from now on). I didnt take M seriously, she was just fun to talk to. She stopped getting on because she had semester exams and got back on around the 20th of january. We both found out we were catholic, I admired her love for painting, we wanted to have kids and a nice peaceful family and we started liking each other. I told her before that I didnt like online relationships due to previous experiences, but I gave her a chance. During the following week things were SO perfect its hard to describe, but we both had fun and late at night things started to get a bit more horny and it was just sooo fantastic. She had time because of a one week break. we videochatted on msn, and she was beautiful in every sense, super nice, and the perfect woman, or so i thoughtAfter that week I travelled to the United states (im from argentina) with my family on vacation. M is from the USA too, so I felt closer to her, we were actually about 9 hours away. i promised i would mail her a letter, she gave me her cell number and adress.2 days after I arrived i found an offline message she left me in MSN saying she was sorry and tht she was dating her friend Zack. I immediately felt heartbroken, and kept sending her messages on msn basically expressing sadness and asking "why did u do tht...u said we would have kids"a few days later she got on and said that her sister had changed her msn password and tht she started messing around with her contacts. using an online thing to see who had blocked me on msn, it said she did actually block me. weird. i dont think y her sis would have blocked me. and how she knew my nameshe explained to me tht her sis knew who i was (she did actually tell her sis about me before and i know tht) but its weird tht she did this because i thought M and her sis got along so well.we talked a couple more times. i mailed her the letter, which she loved and she proved she got it. she said she would be leaving to see colleges and her brother for 4 days, but she actually never got on after wednesday tht week and so i spent 6 days (until the next tuesday) without news from her. in offline messages i said tht i missed her loved her and expressed disconfort as she hadnt told me precisely the days she would be away, on tuesday february 21, i saw an offline message saying she wanted to take a break, tht i was too intense for her, like obsessed and tht i needed to calm down. todays the 2nd of march right? well, we havent talked since then. i waited a way and emailed her asking"how long is ur break going to be" but she didnt reply. fed up and suspicious, i made a fake account (i know, not really cool) on the site we had met a month ago, put up a random pic and added her to see her private info and the comments she got. GUESS WHAT? zack was a real user of this site and they had been sending each other love messages and i am about 95% sure tht is NOT her sister. M is a girl with many values, well thats what i thought at least. now i sent her an email basically telling her shes a piece of s*** and that she is a disaster, that i had moved on and the things ive realized.Did i do the right thing? im going to move on, but its hard for me to find girls i like, so its difficult to open my eyes sometimes. i like girls that have many values, I do not like hook ups, nor girls that do, but i dont like a girl who is super-religious either that would think some touching is a sin or something like that. i felt ao lucky to have found megan, now i have nothing, what do i do?
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (3 March 2011):
sebaslookingforward is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice guys. Online and long distance stuff is just not right. Im moving on
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): This woman is immature, dubious, and just outright not for you man. She will walk all over you if you dont put ur foot down and tell her off. She has no respect for you at all and she lies. How can that be ever good for a relationship? She will more than likely be bad at communication if u were ever together and faithfulness is questionable too... get rid of this woman man and find someone way more closer to you. The long distance thing is very very difficult and takes older people to understand the aspects of doing it right...no offense to you pal as you have every right to not understand some things yet. Find a good lady in ur town. You will. Be patient :)
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