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writes:Not really not sure how to start, I have my boyfriend of 8 months, well, recently I started suspicious that he might be having an online relationship. Hos did this happenn? well, a few months ago, he mentioned in front of everybody that this co-worker, we'll call her grayce, she invited him to go to the florida keys. That's when i started getting suspicious. After that I looked her up and found out she works in another country but for the same place that my boyfriend works for. Also looked at her facebook and in there she explains how she's so in love with somebody but he is far away out of her country. She also has a aol lifestream which she keeps it pretty updated, she says things like I miss you, and she alo posts things that I know is him. Like for example last friay he flew over to visit his sister. She put that in there ishe said, he's flying to see his sister today and I will miss him a lot. So, I know it is him she's talking about, Well, today I asked him some things about her, I asked him if he was having a relationship with somebody in another country because he traveled over there about 2 years ago. He said, he met a girl over there spoke to her for 5 minutes then somebody else told him that she was in love with him. That's what he said. I didn't tell him that i looked on her lifestream and the comments she's making. I love him and im sad if he's still eeping in touch with her, even though he denied that. how can I find out if he really is cheating me with this other girl? How can I tell him not to talk to her anymore, Do I just wait nd see?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot sure how to approach him, damn, I'm such a coward .... Anyways, he's traveling to LA for this holiday weekend starting wed. I might confront him when he comes back ... Not sure how..
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (27 August 2011):
 Yep he's in contact with her, so what are you gonna do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for both of your answers. I think both are really good suggestions. This girl lives in the philipines, CEBU. She works for the same company as him. Today i was reading her lifestream entries and she said "You're on my mind, who is on yours? I hope its me :p". Also, two weekends ago, he spend everyday with me and she wrote "I hate weekends because that's when I don't see you online", and also wrote something like "what does it mean when you're waiting for him to go online and he never appears and you're tears start rolling down?" She wrote that for that weekend because he was with me friday thru monday all days.
These are the things that make me believe he's still in contact with her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 August 2011):
 You can't ".. tell him not to talk to her any more.." any more than you can tell the wind not to blow, or the sun not to shine....
What you CAN do is tell him that you have been made aware that he has ANOTHER "G/F"... and that you have no intention of playing "second fiddle".... and that - if he wants to spend time with you, he's going to have to decide between you and this girl in that other country....
Good luck....
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (25 August 2011):
He may not be cheating but he is certainly stirring this other girl up.
You know the stuff you discovered online that she wrote is about him...so he must be communicating to her in some way and giving her cause to think she has a chance with him.
He is denying it but he is giving you half truths (men are really good at this when they are covering something up)
'He said, he met a girl over there spoke to her for 5 minutes then somebody else told him that she was in love with him'
...This ia a half truth. Women don't fall in love with men after only 5 minutes and for her to write so much about him all over the internet...he has to be fuelling the fire.He must also have spent a lot of time with her when he visited 2 years before. I wonder what country it is?
The only time he will admit there is something going on is when he decided to end things with you to be with her or if she showed up and he had to face the music.
You also need to look at how he is treating you. Is he loving, attentive and there or does he seem distracted and distant. Does he talk about the future with you and treat you like you are his number one?...
Have things changed from when you first met?
Really you have every right to be suspicious? It is also possible that the girl is being a bit of a stalker but then how would she know his movements unless he had told her.
You could try asking him not to talk to her anymore or to defriend her from networking sites...his reaction will speak volumns...look at what he does and not what he says because this will give you a clearer view of what is in his mind.
If I were you, I'd definitely be concerned because something is going on right under your nose and depending on what you mean to this guy and how much he loves you will predetermine the outcome.
Let us know how it goes.
HE IS LYING!!
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