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writes:I am 25 years old, and for various reasons I have not done much dating and not been sexual active. In retrospect, I realize that much of the reason why I have put off sexual activity is because I have phimosis (tight foreskin) and I think deep down I am afraid that a woman may be put off by it and not want to be with me because of it and not understand.I am in a better life position ( have a good job, going back to school, etc.) and feel I am ready to start dating and am wondering what will happen if I find someone I think is special enough to become sexually active with. Are my fears unfounded? Will the majority of women be understanding of my problem and understand it is a minor issue? (I plan on seeing a doctor once I start school) Or will they be put off or disgusted by my penis?Any advice or experiences to share?
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (25 August 2011):
 I've encountered a few men with your problem and speaking for myself, have never found anything "disgusting" about it. Granted, I'm more broad-minded than most, but I think your problem is really not something to give you sleepless nights. Will the occassional person deal with it in an immature way? Yes, possibly. But by and large, you should be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2011): Well my ex had that problem and to tell you the truth that never bother me. It did worried me that he would be in pain. I didn't want him to be uncomfortable when he was actually suppose to enjoy himself. He went to the doctor and the doctor subscribe him this cream. This cream actually worked and made everything all better.
If you are with a women that cares for you, she won't give you a hard time at all. She will actually be understanding, and caring about the situation.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (25 August 2011):
Any woman who wants more than a casual fling with you is not going to reject you because you have phimosis.
Is your condition painful? Did you know it can be treated with a steriod cream which will stretch the skin and correct the problem?
Women (in my experience) tend to be less judgemental about looks than men are. Look at this way, if you started to get close to a woman and she told you she had some kind of issue which made her worried about sex, or that she could find it painful, would you be put off by her? Or would it not matter because you care about her?
I think you've probably built up this issue over many years and in your head it has become about 100 times bigger than it actually is. I think if it is really bothering you then your first step is to see a doctor (make it a priority) and you never know, it could be sorted out before you know it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2011): Some people will be, get that into your head right now. But these people are arseholes and are easily avoided.
It will likely bother YOU more than it bothers anyone else. And if it really means that much to you, then you can always opt to be circumcised.
Flynn 24
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