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writes:This is a question for the guys. I'm in my early twenties and I'm a virgin. I'm saving myself for the right person. Do men prefer experienced women? Are guys put off dating a woman who's a virgin. What are your views please?thanks alot Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): I wouldn't be put off. I tend to end up seeing girls of a similar age who decide to leave because they want to have fun with other guys. But that's probably because I haven't met the right person yet.
At least I would be sure that you're looking for something lasting. And would prove that you really did think I was the right person when sex eventually did happen.
Although a bit of experience does have its benefits in terms of experience and quality of sex I guess.
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reader, Emerald2000  +, writes (2 July 2009):
It's a good thing for you.
While some guys might be put off, I think they are in the minority and that would only be because they just want sex.
Any guy who is sincere and interested in a serious relationship would not mind if you were in a virgin, in fact they would probably prefer it. At least we won't have to worry about where you've been or if you're a slut or not.
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reader, fdelapena  +, writes (28 March 2009):
Actually for me personally, I would prefer a virgin more for health reasons. I really do not care for the girls experience, I am in love with her then I am in love with her. If she is a virgin, to me that's a bonus, at least I do not have to worry about any health issues I may have to deal with if I decide to marry her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): No,if anything us guys love the girl's inexperience and tight pussy.We gain the most pleasure from virgins,so I don't see why any guy in their right mind would be put off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): Ok here's the honest truth..... Guys 25 and under or guys with limited experience probably wouldn't mind because they are still idiots trying to put those notches on their belts. Older more experienced guys have no interests in a virgin. Why is this? 1) you mention the whole waiting for marrage crap. 2) you have no idea how to use it. 3) we really don't want to go through the whole guilt trip you put on us for your precious saccrafice. I'm really sorry if this sounds mean or insensitive. I'm truly not trying to hurt your feelings or offend anyone I'm just trying to give you a honest answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): I know you wanted guy advice, but I had asked myself the same question. I waited until I was 23. I had two long terms prior 4 years and 2 year and both of them said since we waited so long, we should just wait til we were married. I didn't end up marrying either, obviously. When I started dating the first I was only 16 and expectations were much different. I tried to date but as the another post said, when guys heard I was waiting they didn't want to date me because they didn't want the responsibility of taking my innocence. I still cant decide whether thats shows they were shits or not. I guess the point is, I decided I wasn't ready for marriage and was just ready for a normal semi-serious relationship that most people get to experience. The guy I lost it to wasn't anything special. I didn't even like him much, but it did take away the anxiety about it being "my first time." It also didn't hurt much when we broke up because he wasn't someone I was in love with. Since, I've been in a few relationships that have been good. Without having to worry about sex, they get to be more natural. So far, I do not regret my decision. The only thing I am unhappy about is that now I am with someone that I really like and the sex isn't very good. Had I gone in with no experience I wouldn't have known it was no good and it wouldn't be an issue. I hope this helps. Whatever you decide though, it will all be okay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): Writing as someone who is saving himself for marriage I would prefer a woman who was also waiting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): I'd hope not, to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): i kind of find it a turn on if the guy's a virgin...then you can teach him stuff :)i know your question was for guys, but i just wanted to put my two cents in :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): Why is a problem if a girl is virgin?I can't understand that..come on!
We are not sheeps..
Every person is different....is my choice to be a virgin i'm 21 and proud of that..i can't understand those girls that they lost they virginity only because to say i'm not..and then they cry of what the've done!
The only thing that make me angree is when i hear that many teen girls they've lost they virginity they start from 12...God come on..what they understand..they don't even know their body..i hate that
I know many women that they don't even remember the first time..i don't want happened that to me!
I think that shows how strong a woman can be!
When she will want to have sex then she will do it!
So..don't care about that..just move on in the way you want!
Trust yourself..Be proud of what you are!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 No.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (3 May 2008):
 Some are some arn't. If you put across to a guy about waiting for the right person, you are already making the assumptions whether they are the right person or not.
When you date a guy and you want the relationship to progress into something serious. Do not be quick to say " I am a virgin". Wait and see if the guy's intentions are honourable, this way you can sort out the men from the boys. If and when you are ready to take that step for intimacy, get a book and read about how to have good sex or sex for beginners. That way you will know what to expect when you are ready to have sex. Good luck.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (3 May 2008):
 Everyone starts out as a virgin, some meet those with experience and some like you and me (me bein 24) wait for the right person.
It isnt wrong to wait, it shows you have respect for your body and yourself and much more.
The guy for you may be experienced or he may not, who knows really.
I myself isnt put off by it at all.
Dont change what your doing for others at all tho, your doing what you think and know you want is the right way to go.
The question here is, Do you want an experienced guy in bed or experienced in something else.
Would you be put off dating a guy whos a virgin.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 To be honest, some guys wouldn't date you because you're saving yourself for the right person, which means they most likely wouldn't sleep with you. Many others would not mind, thinking that perhaps they are the right guy.
I wouldn't mind dating a virgin. First, though sex is important, your other qualities are also very important and I would focus on those first. And then, the "learning process" would be quite enjoyable.
I also think some men prefer experienced women, while others want a "blank sheet". "Experienced" is a tricky term to define here. You may have "a lot of experience", but the quality of those encounters might have made little in the way of helping you really enjoy sex. Or you may be a virgin with a very nice instinct for pleasure. Of course, you have to have sex in order to enjoy better what you're doing. But "experienced", for me, would not be so much someone who has been with many guys, but someone who has had interesting sexual experiences AND is aware of what she wants, AND is aware to share that with me and be playful.
There's an article by Tisha-1 that you might find interesting.
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