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writes:This one is long and complicated. So im 17, and have liked this boy [michael] since november. its not that i liked him from november, but rather my friend [claudia] was talking about how she and he were talking about music, and it was then i realized he a) existed and b) liked the same type of music as me. for me, that was huge. so i had been thinking about him since november, but only started liking him around february. my friend [nadia] started going out with this boy [sebastian] and michael is one of sebastian's best friends. they thought we were twins and should definitely go out. i thought it a horrid idea, but then loved it. i thought about it, and started liking him. nothing ever happened though, he never hung out with us. until saturday. we were having this wine and cheese party and i had absolutely no intention of getting drunk, but once michael came, i freaked out and downed everything. i was really drunk, and at the time i thought it was great because i was talking to michael and everything. but now i look back and i feel like i acted like a crazy douche, and i made a fool of myself.even if he thought it was funny or cute, or was drunk too, i dont know how to make any more progress. im afraid this was a one time deal, and just deemed as a random time we hung out. im also afraid he just thought i was drunk and thats why i was talking to him and stuff.i know i dont necessarily know him well or anything, but our friends were right, we are basically the same person. hes so spontaneous and funny, and im in love with him. i dont want this to just fizzle out. i really wish i didnt get drunk. tipsy, maybe. but because i was drunk, i couldnt hold a conversation. my friend is having another party the 30th, two fridays from now. claudia doesnt know i like him, so i will make her aware of that, unless she already invited him. i promise i wont get as drunk. hopefully i can still talk to him.ive never been drunk before. well, not that drunk and around a lot of people. so i guess my question is, do you think he expects me to talk to him or at least acknowledge him? or does being drunk and talking to him really not constitute a friendship or even an acquaintance? have any of you had experiences like this before? any input would be lovely, i just dont know what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): You got drunk,talked a lot and embarrased yourself. It happens. You like him, you don't know if he likes you, well that happens too. You wanna get to know him better, then talk to him, if you wanna find out if he likes you, then ask him. You want him to be your boyfriend, ask him out for a date, dinner, movies or a coffee is a nice safe bet.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (20 May 2008):
 You may be reading too much into it. You were drunk and may or may not have made of fool of yourself, we have all been there. Whether he expects you to talk to him or not, do it! Don't get drunk either. You want to hold an actual conversation with this boy, not act like a fool who drinks all the time. I have been in your shoes. I was all over this boy one night when I was drunk and basically did act stupid. I was worried about it but talked to him later (when I was sober) and all was well :) It will be fine. Just joke about it, laughing at yourself always breaks the awkwardness. I would say being drunk and talking to him constitutes an acquantice. But talking to him now will build a friendship and hopefully eventually a relationship... I would not say you are in love with him though. You do not know him know him to say you are IN love, if you see what I mean. You are definitely crushing though. I just don't want you slipping up if you get drunk and saying something completely embarrassing you could not ever take back (been there too...haha) Good luck! Don't be too nervous!
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