Do I act on this crush or stop it going any further?
Q. i have been married for 14 years.have always had a good relation with hubby for first 10 years except for in laws who kept interfering and troubling us. After 10 yrs he slowly started drifting away and had an extra marital affair with a girl. N...
A. 5 May 2015: I would never condone an affair even if I'd been cheated on. You need to make things work with your husband or leave him, it's that simple. Not sure if you have children but please bear in mind that you'd also be cheating on them. My dad cheated... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 5 May 2015: Thought I'd provide an update to my situation. It's almost been 12 months since she moved out and we sat down together to talk and we decided to call it a day. She's no longer working, sold an horse then her parents bought her another. Her debt was ... (read in full...)
What is Appropriate/Inappropriate behavior for a relationship??
Q. I feel very confused about my current situation with my long term boyfriend, and am looking for some outside advice... We have been dating for a long time. Several years ago, I found out that that he was chatting with girls online, having c...
A. 17 June 2014: I'll keep this short and sweet. You say "Additionally, I don't believe him to cheating or that he would. " Well unfortunately HE is CHEATING. He's got some serious issues and I know it's easy for me to say this but, you need to get away from him. ... (read in full...)
Why would a good looking, successful guy be on a dating site when he can get any girl in real life?
Q. So I met a guy online a couple of weeks ago. He's really good looking (models on the side) has a good job and seems pretty successful. He asked for my number and has been been texting me almost every day ever since but has never called. He always ...
A. 14 June 2014: I was once in the same situation. Got a message off a girl that was stunning and I thought it must be a scam. I never got to meet her but we became friends on Facebook for a while and I also Googled her, so it does happen that gorgeous people go ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 12 June 2014: Hi Mark. I'm not willing to become a horse person, just to spend a bit of time there. I have helped out before and quite enjoy it. I suppose I meant once or twice per month. I'm certainly not trying to change who I am and if I had something else to ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 12 June 2014: She got a teaching job in Jan so she is earning and paying her debts off now. If I'd known how much debt she was in i wouldn't have let her get an £8000 car. She could have bought a run around and I'd have used that because I work local and her out ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 12 June 2014: To be fair she wanted the trial separation as much as me. She easily gets overwhelmed with things like work, money or any pressure situation and now her mind is in overdrive. I've told her i was hasty in telling her to get rid of 2 horses and asked ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 12 June 2014: CindyCares: Thanks for a good in depth answer from both points of view. I decided to make contact last night because not talking wasn't helpful. I got an accountant friend to work out a payment plan where she keeps all her horses and pays me less ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 10 June 2014: Candy Cares: Ok let me explain myself better. I asked if she would like a month apart to think which she agreed to. There was no arguing, it was a quiet and calm conversation and a mutual decision. I'm only trying to help her financial situation and ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 10 June 2014: Wiseowl: I made it clear to her that I would never let her sell her best horse but she needed to sell two and that's what any financial advisor would say. I know there's two sides to a story but that is the truth. Her parents will readily admit that ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 10 June 2014: Honeypie: she complains quite a lot about not having enough time to ride them now she's in a full time job. She doesn't pay stable fees because they're on her parent's land. She has said since that she isn't ready for a house and mortgage etc. ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 10 June 2014: Thanks for the reply. I don't think she does need 3 horses but her parents and friends are telling her "why should she give them up?" I've given her home truths but she listens to every word her parents say. Buying and selling horses was her job for ... (read in full...)
Shes 48, im 27, we just broke up but im really hurting, think we want different things, should I find someone my age!?
Q. i've recently broken things off with my girlfriend who i was living with. she is 48 i'm 27. for the past month of our relationship i felt unhappy but only when i wasn't with her. i thought about the future and kids which was a no no for her, think i ...
A. 22 June 2006: yes jealousy was a big problem, i always made her feel special, telling her i love her and how beautiful she was. it never seemed to make any difference. whenever i went out around town drinking with my friends which wasn't very often she would be ... (read in full...)
Breaking up with my boyfriend
Q. Last night I broke up with my b.f. of 1 yr. I’m very confused about the way I’m feeling right now… I know why I chose not to be with him. In a lot of ways I realized that we were not compatible, we didn’t want the same things for our future, I ha...
A. 19 June 2006: i finished with my girlfriend last week who i was living with and i keep wondering if i;ve done the right thing. we both still love each other but realistcly had no future, i'm having exactly the same feelings and doubts as you but if i;m honest ... (read in full...)
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