What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 13 February 2018: @cindycares
i think the why is moreso for her sense of closure. Since we both know that she will never get it from him (even if he did muster up something, we could never know the truth based on his lying history) I think she needs some kind of ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 9 February 2018: so she just recently pulled the plug on the relationship with this man. It has been a 3 year battle but now with the change of duty she was able to cut it off however, as the person on the outside, she is so broken its almost as if it worst now then ... (read in full...)
Why is he becoming distant?
Q. Why would a man pull away just because the relationship can't go anywhere? Why can't he just live in the moment? I'm asking because if a man really likes a woman, how is it so easy for him to pull away? It seems backwards. If I really like someone, ...
A. 24 June 2017: no, he is not with anyone else. I'm not looking for advice, i just ant to understand how its easy for a man to pull away from a woman he really likes because of the fact that it wont go anywhere. since it cant go anywhere, why not just enjoy it for ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 29 July 2016: @cindycares
i understand. if i had to look at this honestly, i would have to admit that there isn't a way for this to work out. i do have to move on, in my mind i know that. i expected to hear the latter (him moving on) which i was prepared... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 29 July 2016: @cindycares
you are right, we had another talk today and he admitted that he thought he was over it but the distance between us has made it worse. he says that i look even better than i did before and he doesn't trust himself around me. he asked... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 28 July 2016: i spoke with him today and he said that he cant be around me... I'm just so done. i guess i will never understand. if i am not over someone, i would want tone around them not the opposite.... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 28 July 2016: @aunt honesty
i understand and you are right, i dont want to go through this emotional turmoil... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 27 July 2016: @aunt honesty
so now he is messing with my head?... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 27 July 2016: he also gave me a compliment telling me how i looked cute and that he was thinking of adding me back to social media. this was all over the phone then in person he acts like this, does this shed a little more light to my confusion and as to why i ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 27 July 2016: @aunt honesty
thank you, i will try. i dont ever call him, all contact was and is initiated by him. he confuses the hell out of me which is part of the reason why i pulled the plug. you never know with him.... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 27 July 2016: @cindycares i see what you are saying. the reason i take it so personal is because i feel like its ok for us to talk as long as its on his terms (when he calls or when he approaches me) but when i do it, I'm met with the actions mentioned above ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 26 July 2016: @aunt honesty
so what do i do about it, do i just not talk to him to not make him feel awkward?
normally, when someone isn't over someone, they wouldn't reach out to them at all, but he does so i thought he was over it.
i still have fe... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 25 July 2016: @honeypie,
you are right, i am driving myself crazy trying to figure him out. I'm just going to forget it. id be lying if i said it didn't hurt though.... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 24 July 2016: @honeypie
i know that u dont know the exact answer, i just asked for advice. why do care? because unfortunately breaking up with someone does not erase feeling, thats why.
the man offered to help me move which means he would have to see me i... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: @honeypie
how can i accept it if he was just acting cordial and friendly a few days ago? no one is answering my questions.
im not asking advice on what to do, i am asking fir understanding of the situation.
... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: @garbo,
he does not have autism... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: @janniepeg,
he was fine a few days ago on the phone and was able to have a normal conversation but then in person i get the hand shake, no eye contact and fidgety behavior, it doesn't make sense, thus my confusion.... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: what i don't get is the flip flop behavior, he called me and intimated a platonic conversation so i assumed we were on the same page but his flip flop in behavior makes it confusing.... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: @aunty bimbim,
what do you mean he is not interested in platonic talk, that is what we just had a few days ago, what would be th e difference between having one then and having one now?... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 19 March 2016: @honeypie i cannot thank you enough for your elaborate responses. i let her read it and she just broke down into tears. hopefully what you said above will be enough for her to let all of this go like you said for the sake of her career and reput... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 19 March 2016: @cindycares
i see what you are saying and like i stated before she isnt happy and is trying to get out. distance may be the only thing that will help her ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 19 March 2016: @honeypie i never said that she was innocent and i have said that she knows that she is wrong but you're not acknowledging the fact that she is trying to get out of this because she is not willing to play second fiddle. I'm sure all woman can at... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 18 March 2016: i don't want to beat a dead horse I'm just saying that from everything I've read online about married men and cheating,one thing remains the same. once caught, married man throws other woman under the bus, cuts contact and goes back to wife and ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 18 March 2016: @cindycares
its not textbook in a sense because every time she walks away, he literally begs her to come back. i've witnessed it myself and can now understand from the outside why its so hard for her to stick with her decision. he really did soun... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 15 March 2016: we do know he is not going to leave his wife which further more questions why he needs to have her in his life especially when he says he loves his wife. how can he love his wife and do this to her? he shouldn't be concerned about my friend if he is ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 15 March 2016: she said she has thought about it if she was the wife and of course she wouldn't want anyone to do that to her. she said she didn't intent to fall in love with him or get involved with him it happened before she even knew it was happening. she wants ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 13 March 2016: she fell in love with him which makes it worse and then becomes the question of why he pursued the relationship in a way for her to fall in love if he never had any intention of being with her. that is a cruel thing to do. she told me that in the ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 13 March 2016: @ivyblue can you explain how his wife knowing about the far empowers him to continue emotional manipulation?... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 12 March 2016: i understand what u all are saying but to help her, can you all shift the answers to some insight so she can see that he isn't any good. maybe if i let her read the perspectives of others about his behavior, she will be able to remove the rose ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 12 March 2016: his wife already knows about the affair and there were no consequences for him for his cheating. she is now more attentive to him and trying very hard to fix his marriage. how can he fix his marriage if he is worrying or chasing after another woman. ... (read in full...)
What support and advice can I give to my friend who has been trying to break up with her married lover? He does not want to let her go.
Q. so my best friend is involved with this married man. she is very naive and had just spent the last 3 years healing from a very bad emotional abusive relationship. she joined the military as an officer and at her first duty station, she was paired w...
A. 12 March 2016: thank you for your answers and would love to hear more perspectives. why would anyone want to do something like this to another person. she is such a sweet girl and i understood exactly how she got caught in this. she trusted him and then got caught ... (read in full...)
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