What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 10 October 2007: Me, my wife and this guy all attended high school together so any reunions etc. I have to see him. I saw him at one previously, thought he acted odd and quizzed my wife again and got another denial. If this had been someone I didnt know or never had ... (read in full...)
What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 10 October 2007: Very insightful answers. Thanks. It is partially about me and I know that. There is something very personal about a situation like this when you went to a small high school with the guy in question but frankly that's not really my wifes fault and ... (read in full...)
What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 10 October 2007: a 3 month grudge, a 20 year lie.... (read in full...)
What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 9 October 2007: Dude, not only did I know her but we had already slept together and she claimed she loved me at the time. I saw her the next day, she lied about it for years and I have had to see this guy without knowing the truth. If it happened before we met ... (read in full...)
What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 9 October 2007: actually, she did regularly lie about it even after we had to be around the guy. Thanks for helping me clarify "anonymous".... (read in full...)
What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 8 October 2007: "trust me with this" LOL. She didnt confess to anything .......I busted her red handed. She lied to my face for 20 years about it. I suppose you like it when your significant other does that. Thanks.... (read in full...)
What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 8 October 2007: sorry, rememebered almost nothing,she had a flash in the middle of the encounter apparently, nothing leading up to or after... (read in full...)
13 years of marriage, she tells me now about a one night stand before we got together.
Q. I'm totally freaked out. My wife of 13 years just admitted that a few days prior to our getting together she had a one night stand(drunk) with a high school friend of ours who she barely knew. She has NEVER told me this even though we dated for 4 ...
A. 7 October 2007: Thats an interesting and thoughtful response Eddie. I would have been with my future wife either way. I find your story about the party very interesting. I wonder how this husband of the woman you were with in high school would have felt if you had ... (read in full...)
13 years of marriage, she tells me now about a one night stand before we got together.
Q. I'm totally freaked out. My wife of 13 years just admitted that a few days prior to our getting together she had a one night stand(drunk) with a high school friend of ours who she barely knew. She has NEVER told me this even though we dated for 4 ...
A. 4 October 2007: It was before we got together(3 weeks). She was 18 and according to her she had barely any recollection(just a flash in the middle, nothing leading up to or after) because she was so drunk. Because of the unsusual circumstances she wanted to block ... (read in full...)
13 years of marriage, she tells me now about a one night stand before we got together.
Q. I'm totally freaked out. My wife of 13 years just admitted that a few days prior to our getting together she had a one night stand(drunk) with a high school friend of ours who she barely knew. She has NEVER told me this even though we dated for 4 ...
A. 4 October 2007: Past relationships are private even if you have to be around the guy in question, you know him very well, and it occurred literally day before you got together. If it was anonomous MAYBE but not when its part of your immediate social circle. Most ... (read in full...)
Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?
Q. Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?? During High School she had sex with 3 guys. 2 of them were boyfriends and one was a friend who she had a crush on. She had sex a total of 4 times in high school. A few weeks be...
A. 21 September 2007: Thanks for the response Daniel. It actually happened a few weeks before we started dating and over 5 years before we got married.. She was so drunk that she remembered almost nothing from the encounter except kissing him and then a flash of him on ... (read in full...)
Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?
Q. Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?? During High School she had sex with 3 guys. 2 of them were boyfriends and one was a friend who she had a crush on. She had sex a total of 4 times in high school. A few weeks be...
A. 21 September 2007: It wouldnt have mattered but it was my right to know before the wedding.If she'd have been honest this would hav been a dead issue years ago.She intentionally and knowingly withheld that from me. Men(and woman sometimes) are funny about things ... (read in full...)
Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?
Q. Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?? During High School she had sex with 3 guys. 2 of them were boyfriends and one was a friend who she had a crush on. She had sex a total of 4 times in high school. A few weeks be...
A. 20 September 2007: Thank you Mandy. Finally a level headed responce. Everyone handles things differently and has their own sensibilities.I know you are so right. Strangly I feel closer to my wife now than I did before and the anger at her is completly gone. I think ... (read in full...)
Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?
Q. Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?? During High School she had sex with 3 guys. 2 of them were boyfriends and one was a friend who she had a crush on. She had sex a total of 4 times in high school. A few weeks be...
A. 20 September 2007: So that I wanted to know the truth means I dont love my wife?? I can't say I'm surprised that the woman's rights crowd would think that a wife is allowed to lie to her fiance(I asked again and again) about sleeping with a friend of his days before ... (read in full...)
Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?
Q. Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?? During High School she had sex with 3 guys. 2 of them were boyfriends and one was a friend who she had a crush on. She had sex a total of 4 times in high school. A few weeks be...
A. 20 September 2007: I'm one of those odd people who doesnt like their wife to lie to them about sex for 20 years. My anticipated reaction justifies her lying somehow? If you think your spouse wont like it, no need to tell. LOL. Marriages are founded on trust. Sleeping ... (read in full...)
Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?
Q. Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?? During High School she had sex with 3 guys. 2 of them were boyfriends and one was a friend who she had a crush on. She had sex a total of 4 times in high school. A few weeks be...
A. 20 September 2007: thats just peachy penta. A spouse is allowed to tell a flat out lie over and over .....again and again even if it puts her signficant other is a very awkward spot. What a wonderful trust builder. She has already repeatedly apologized and rightfully ... (read in full...)
Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?
Q. Was my wife overly promiscuous or fairly normal before we got together?? During High School she had sex with 3 guys. 2 of them were boyfriends and one was a friend who she had a crush on. She had sex a total of 4 times in high school. A few weeks be...
A. 19 September 2007: Here's the problem. We were friends when she slept with this guy she barely knew. I liked her at the time and was around her when this happened. Once we got together I asked her repeatedly about it and she denied it time and time again even after we ... (read in full...)
Was my wife the victim of sexual assualt?
Q. Was my wife a likely victim of sexual assault or rape? Before we got together when she was 18 years old she attended a 4th of July party at which she played a drinking game with somef other college students and got so drunk she blacked out. She ...
A. 18 September 2007: To beautifultrustnlover. She doesnt want to accuse him because she says he was probably drunk too and when she was blacked out she might have concented. I know my wife and she is a light weight and is incoherant when she gets that drunk. I also find ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my wife after she kept this from me??
Q. I've been with my wife since I was 19 and she was 18. We went to high school together and have a loving marriage of 15 years. Prior to our getting together ( a few weeks) she hooked up with another high school friend and I suspected they had had ...
A. 9 September 2007: Thanks rcn. She's a wonderful person ad the love of my life no doubt. If I had known 20 years ago I think we'd still be together but perhaps the timing etc. would have been different. Neither I nor her believes she was raped but when she had sex ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my wife after she kept this from me??
Q. I've been with my wife since I was 19 and she was 18. We went to high school together and have a loving marriage of 15 years. Prior to our getting together ( a few weeks) she hooked up with another high school friend and I suspected they had had ...
A. 8 September 2007: There is a sense of betrayal about this that really stings. When you ask someone point blank about something like this over and over even after seeing the guy and she just lied and lied well... it hurts. As a husband I deserved to know. Of course ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my wife after she kept this from me??
Q. I've been with my wife since I was 19 and she was 18. We went to high school together and have a loving marriage of 15 years. Prior to our getting together ( a few weeks) she hooked up with another high school friend and I suspected they had had ...
A. 8 September 2007: Trev. Lying to your husbands face about having sex with a high school friend/acquaintance that you have to see and be around is a BIG problem. I asked her point blank about it and she lied to me again and again. Also she claims she was in love with ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my wife after she kept this from me??
Q. I've been with my wife since I was 19 and she was 18. We went to high school together and have a loving marriage of 15 years. Prior to our getting together ( a few weeks) she hooked up with another high school friend and I suspected they had had ...
A. 8 September 2007: thanks for the responce. Are you saying she CAN be trusted based on what I wrote? I think she was ashamed that it happened in a random manner(she was drunk at a party) and at the time she already loved me. The lie is troubling and that she would ... (read in full...)
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