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I've been hesitating between these two men for a year now, do I go with my heart or my mind?

Q.   I have lived with my ex-husband since 1996 we originally married in 1990, but I met a man that makes me feel "alive," Though my ex is a really nice guy, there is no passion or connection but there is financial security and I do love him and he ...

A.   14 July 2008: Sounds to me like you enjoy being with the bf more than the ex husband. You asked if you should follow your heart (bf) or mind (ex). Since your ex is aware of your bf, he may be holding back the emotional side and not trying to get hurt. I believe ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't seem to understand that in a relationship he needs to give up his bachelor ways. How do I explain?

Q.   After living 20 years as a bachelor-loving single man, my boyfriend has decided he wants us to have a serious, longterm relationship. However, he doesn't seem to understand that now that he's in a relationship, he needs to give up some of his ...

A.   14 July 2008: Actions are always louder than words, right! Tell him to show you how after 20 years his love for you is worthy of a serious relationship, and what would change in his opinion. It is of course healthy for him to continue his friendships, but in my ... (read in full...)

What can I do to stop his bold comments towards my "attractive" friend - without sounding jealous?

Q.   My boyfriend tells me that my best friend is super hot all the time.We have been dating for over a year and he always treats me good. He tells me I am hot too. While on a dinner date alone with him we talked about the night we all met the first ...

A.   9 July 2008: Ok I had a talk with him about my concerns, and basically got the your the jealous type attitude. I let him know that because he told her that she was hot before, now she looks for the attention. I said I realize she puts you in an akward possition ... (read in full...)

What can I do to stop his bold comments towards my "attractive" friend - without sounding jealous?

Q.   My boyfriend tells me that my best friend is super hot all the time.We have been dating for over a year and he always treats me good. He tells me I am hot too. While on a dinner date alone with him we talked about the night we all met the first ...

A.   9 July 2008: Thanks for the female opinion from both of you. You bring up a good point oldersister. He should handle it differently by saying something like, yea but your more attractive. But he doesn't and I don't want to teach him,then it will feel fake. She ... (read in full...)

What can I do to stop his bold comments towards my "attractive" friend - without sounding jealous?

Q.   My boyfriend tells me that my best friend is super hot all the time.We have been dating for over a year and he always treats me good. He tells me I am hot too. While on a dinner date alone with him we talked about the night we all met the first ...

A.   9 July 2008: Yes...she is encouraging him, her self asteem is a little down at the moment, acting out of character really. But he created the monster and I just don't get it really. I am not conceited, but feel that I am more attractive than her. I feel that it ... (read in full...)

My Guy Used to be on Sex Sites. Can I Trust Him?

Q.   can i just get people's opinions on this: If you'd been seeing a bloke for 6-7 months and you found out that previously (before he even got with you) he was registered on about 15 different sex sites, such as sexpals, quickflirt,sexse...

A.   9 July 2008: Interesting! I know a little about how this one feels. Funny thing he was a complete gentelman and we connected. But there was the icky side I discovered over time. He had been married 5 times, had several past girlfriends, internet dating and ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my BF I slept with his brother or just break up with him without explanation? I feel so guilty!!

Q.   I had sex with my boyfriend's brother. I know it was the worst way to cheat and I'm so scared of anyone finding out. I live with my bf but he's away a lot for his work (on a boat out at sea). His brother does the same kind of work (on a diff...

A.   9 July 2008: Yes, that's a whole other ball game, that would be the right thing to do, no matter what the outcome due to the circumstance. All you are able to do at this point is be honest, especially when there may be health issues and a possibility of ... (read in full...)

What can I do to stop his bold comments towards my "attractive" friend - without sounding jealous?

Q.   My boyfriend tells me that my best friend is super hot all the time.We have been dating for over a year and he always treats me good. He tells me I am hot too. While on a dinner date alone with him we talked about the night we all met the first ...

A.   9 July 2008:  Good advise from both of you. Funny thing is that I am not jealous of her and never have been. I personally find it unatractive to fish for compliments and thought most people are age felt the same. I guess what I want to hear is that, even thou... (read in full...)

Should I tell my BF I slept with his brother or just break up with him without explanation? I feel so guilty!!

Q.   I had sex with my boyfriend's brother. I know it was the worst way to cheat and I'm so scared of anyone finding out. I live with my bf but he's away a lot for his work (on a boat out at sea). His brother does the same kind of work (on a diff...

A.   8 July 2008:  That's a tough one. I have two sons close at age and worry that some girl will come between them since they have the same friends. I have told them both, don't let anyone ever come between your love for each other. I would be devastated as a moth... (read in full...)

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