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*abbles5
writes:I have lived with my ex-husband since 1996 we originally married in 1990, but I met a man that makes me feel "alive," Though my ex is a really nice guy, there is no passion or connection but there is financial security and I do love him and he is good to me. I have been back and forth between them for a year now, do I follow my mind or my heart?
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reader, tabbles5 +, writes (16 July 2008):
tabbles5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is a very scary decision. I feel that I am At a critical crossroads. The new guy has financial issues . He is obsessed with penny pinching except he don't save, he spends it on himself. My ex is very free hearted. It is not about material items, it is about security, confort, and generosity.Who do I pick?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): Go with your heart...Money only buys "Things" but love buys emonional things...Your ex husband may be a wonderful man, but he just dosn't do it for ya....which is ok...But man #2 makes you want to wrestle wild snakes...that is who I would be gunning for. In 10 years who do you want to be snuggling with? All the luck in the world!!
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reader, Forever_21 +, writes (14 July 2008):
To be honest I'd go with you're heart if I were you. Though I've never been married, I was in a similar situation not long ago. I had all kinds of "security" with my boyfriend of 6 years but I met another guy last year. I decided to go with the one who made me happy and not worry too much about the fact that we are both poor college grads... we're broke, and in debted to school loans, but we are happy and in love! :)
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reader, Cherulee +, writes (14 July 2008):
Sounds to me like you enjoy being with the bf more than the ex husband. You asked if you should follow your heart (bf) or mind (ex). Since your ex is aware of your bf, he may be holding back the emotional side and not trying to get hurt. I believe whom ever you chose will deserve you undivided attention.
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reader, loveguru23 +, writes (14 July 2008):
Hi!
Follow your mind and follow your heart. You obviously need to know that he is your "ex" for a reason. I really wouldn't recommend living with your ex becuase it can complicate things...as you can see. If you're feeling like you have agood feeling about the man that makes you feel alive..then go with your gut and try to build something with him.
Daniel Amis Author & Relationship Coach
www.relationshipadvice4you.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Go with the guy that makes you feel alive. The way you feel about ex-hubby will cause you to cheat on him which will eventually lead to a split anyway
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reader, bebe girlie  +, writes (14 July 2008):
why are u livin with ur EX husband? doesnt hat mean ur divorced? whats wrong with the world? why did u divorce him if ur living with him :S scary
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