Weird family interactions making me wonder about my husband and his family
Q. So I went to my in-laws house for Thanksgiving. My husband has two sisters. One 18 and the other 16 they were both adopted. Long story short my husband smacked his little sisters behind. Later on in the day my husband touched a over her chest to do ...
A. 30 November 2022: "Grounds for divorce??? "
It sounds weird and inappropriate but also like something KIDS would do to each other.
My brother and I have chased each other around doing towel snaps IN OUR 20's! (gasp!) while doing the dishes after Christmas dinner... (read in full...)
Afraid I’ll regret ending this friendship. Is this a friend worth keeping?
Q. Would you stay friends with someone who has the following traits? I need an outside person’s perspective: PROS: -Caring -There for you emotionally when need advice or venting -Helps in my mental health healing process -Feel less alone b...
A. 28 November 2022: If I was your daughter what would you advise?
Friendships aren't always smooth sailing. And some friendships aren't meant to last. There are some people we GROW with and some we OUTGROW.
I think you have outgrown this friend.
And she doesn't... (read in full...)
This a ONS or sex on the first date?
Q. Background information: You are in your early 20’s. You met this person through a mutual friend at your friends house (10 minute conversation before you left the house). The person asked you for your phone number. You talk with this person a fe...
A. 27 November 2022: Sounds more like,
A mistake fueled by alcohol than an ONS or first date.
But I suppose it could have been "just" an ONS.
Would I think the sex would happen? I think IF I did (and I wasn't attracted to the person) I wouldn't have gone if I ... (read in full...)
Family always wants me to babysit
Q. I have a brother who is married with a wife and two kids. The problem is that my brother and sister-in-law are upset with me for always refusing to babysit. I have work, church and other activities that take up a lot of my time. My brot...
A. 27 November 2022: No, it's not wrong to babysit if you DON'T want to.
What they want is a FREE babysitter. That is why they keep asking and guilting YOU instead of finding an ACTUAL babysitter.
" Is there a better way of refusing to babysit by claiming that I ... (read in full...)
User'sAm I overreacting to my boyfriend's relationship with his daughters? title
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. He's been divorced for two years and I have never been married myself. He has two daughters and I have no kids. Our relationship is so wonderful, everything between us is perfect ...
A. 27 November 2022: I think you are seeing more of their dynamics the longer you two have been dating.
Personally, I think it's nice to see a father have a close bond with his grown children but are they close to him for what he PROVIDES - money, gifts, or out of l... (read in full...)
Should I inform my ex’s family & friends that I’m he’s addicted to drugs in hopes that they’ll help him?
Q. My ex and I are very much in love but broke up amicably. He’s developed a drug addiction. He’s high functioning but it’s something I cannot accept. He’s admitted to his addiction and understands why I can’t be with him. He’ll be moving out this ...
A. 22 November 2022: I can understand why you feel a need to tell them. He obviously needs help.
However, telling his family might not help at all. If he isn't ready to SEEK help and GET help - he isn't ready.
While I agree with Kenny, I would tell his mom (if she ... (read in full...)
He lied cheated on his partner then told me he never had feelings for me
Q. I’m in a horrible situation and would love some help please. I started dating a man back in June. We’d known each other through work for a couple of years and there has always been some flirtation between us so I was thrilled when he asked me out....
A. 22 November 2022: Oh OP!
His phone call to "tell you he never really cared or saw a future with you" was either made in front of his partner to PLACATE HER or it was because you rejected him AS SOON as you found out he was a cheating bastard.
His wee littl... (read in full...)
He can not cope with emotions?
Q. After getting divorced I had no intentions of meeting anyone but it happened, I met indirectly through work the most amazing man, he happens to be a consultant in a local hospital. I know in the beginning I put him on a massive pedestal and almost ...
A. 16 November 2022: He sounds manipulative and toxic, Op
If I were you I would in NO uncertain terms end it and then block him, perhaps even change my number.
This is not going to work out and it's not a healthy relationship for you. AT ALL. And you know it.... (read in full...)
Is it OK to take advantage of a groomer if they know you know what is happening?
Q. This is about a dude I know at the YMCA where I go after school for 3hours every day. I am 16 and he is 31 and it is like he does not need to work and has money and like is constantly working out and chilling at the YMCA. He is like openly gay and ...
A. 16 November 2022: Is it wrong to take advantage of someone who is acting inappropriately toward you? That is your question.
And I'd say yes. Instead, FILE a complaint that this dude is being inappropriate and is making you uncomfortable.
Because they might be gu... (read in full...)
Relationship has soured and my partner is emotionally unavailable
Q. I have an emotionally unavailable partner. We've been together 18 years. What attracted me to him from the start was his kind and gentle nature. He was (seems ironic now) emotionally caring and my best friend. He ENJOYED spending time with ME. ...
A. 14 November 2022: I think it can happen to MANY relationships over time.
You have both taken each other for granted to a point where YOU can do nothing right because you apparently can't read his mind on top of everything else.
I would consider suggesting coupl... (read in full...)
Years later still feel betrayed that father moved away after the divorce
Q. Me and my dad have had a rough relationship since i was about 16 years old it really all stemmed from my dad moving arcross the country. i always resented him because I young and needed a father still and just the simple fact i felt a parent never ...
A. 9 November 2022: Talk to him?
He can not read your mind and it doesn't sound like he moved away because he didn't care, but to take care of his mother. Who probably needs more help than you?
"I just really breaks my heart that my dad will never do what he has... (read in full...)
He gave me chance after chance
Q. I used to enjoy flirting on dating apps and kinda having text and online relationships. I was in love with someone at the time. He found out about it, left, came back after I had convinced him it was nothing which was exactly what it was and I ...
A. 9 November 2022: "I wonder if really he still loves me and if there is any way back after four years."
Probably not.
I hope he has found someone who CHOOSES to be faithful and who isn't in need of constant attention and validation from other men.
Maybe, j... (read in full...)
Do we really have a future?
Q. Hello there. I am Calvin and I have posted some things to give advice and I posted before for advice on me and my girlfriend Susie about some other stuff about being virgins and dealing with haters at school. She is two years older than me and we ...
A. 6 November 2022: I forgot to add, since you asked.
Being a virgin is not something dirty or wrong. It's a choice (for some) and I think a smart choice. Adding sex to the mix for young people who already have a LOT on their plates with education, puberty, and figu... (read in full...)
Cheating with an unattractive person due to alcohol
Q. All the names in this story are made up. My female friend Kelly asked me a question: I didn’t know a good answer to give her. Background: Kelly is in a 2 year relationship. Kelly, myself and Devin (guys she slept with- weighs 300 pounds, u...
A. 6 November 2022: " She asked me should I tell my boyfriend?"
I 100% agree with FA.
There are 2 options for sure, but only ONE is the "right one" in my book and that is OWN YOUR SHIT and tell the BF. HE deserves to know and make the choice to stay or go.
S... (read in full...)
Pregnant and sex uncomfortable. How do I make husband understand
Q. I am five months pregnant and sex with my husband has been very painful. He wants to have sex once a day which we did when I was not pregnant but the further I get along the more painful it is. I am not sure how to stop. I just want to cut it o...
A. 5 November 2022: OP,
YOU need to talk to him. He needs to RESPECT this boundary. Many (especially first-time moms) are terrified that sex can hurt the baby, and others are just not physically able due to the changes in the pelvic floor. HE NEEDS TO LISTEN a... (read in full...)
I really want my ex back
Q. I was married for seven years. My ex and I have a child together but I still have feelings for him. He broke up with me because we did not have sex for months. He was also upset that I spent to much time with my family. I have 5 siblings and 9 ...
A. 5 November 2022: "How do I get him back ? I believe I can still try. "
OP, your ex is not a toy you can put down and pick up at your whim.
You got engaged before your divorce was final?!! Who does that?!
How desperate are you to have a husband?
I thin... (read in full...)
Do we really have a future?
Q. Hello there. I am Calvin and I have posted some things to give advice and I posted before for advice on me and my girlfriend Susie about some other stuff about being virgins and dealing with haters at school. She is two years older than me and we ...
A. 4 November 2022: Calvin,
None of us can see the future and know whether you and Susie will last. I have met a few couples in their 40s, 50s, and older who met in middle or high school and are still together. And I have met people who didn't last more than a month ... (read in full...)
Is 30 too old to date?
Q. Hi there, this is my first time posting on here but I see people give really great advice. I am currently going through a divorce with my husband of 9 years. Nothing messy, we have just grown apart over the years and I put that down to being so...
A. 2 November 2022: I'm sorry it didn't work out for the two of you.
I don't think 30 is too old. But I don't think THAT should be your focus right now, nor keeping your S-T-B-X-hubby around as a friend. He isn't your friend, he is your ex.
You will both sabota... (read in full...)
How to get over dissapointment of being so close to finding The One?
Q. I fell in love with a guy who has so many characteristics I am looking for. He is so much of what I’ve hoped to have as a husband but never thought would exist out there. Long story short, he has three big deal breakers to him. These things are...
A. 2 November 2022: In the end, you need to shake this off and not think - I was SOOO close" but OH I really dodged a bullet here!!!
3 big red flags are huge.
You also need to realize that you are NOT stuck in love with him, you are STUCK in love with the POTENTI... (read in full...)
Partner invited friend over to stay while I am away
Q. It being less than month since I moved in with my boyfriend and I’m thinking I’ve done the wrong thing. Last week, he blurted out in an argument that he had invited his friend over to stay for the night whilst I’m away working. I have never met h...
A. 2 November 2022: Oh, it WAS a mistake to move in with him!!
Time to move right back out. And end this.
He has sleepovers with another woman while you are at work?
Why would SHE come to have a sleepover at a friend's house? She is a GROWN aSS woman! Unless ... (read in full...)
My mom found my boyfriend and i's naughty texts
Q. Hi! I just found out my boyfriends mom went through my boyfriend and I's text (they were not very PG), she found out yesterday and she acted completely normal and even let my boyfriend come to the house but today my Dad asked me if my Mom had ta...
A. 2 November 2022: Absolutely agree with FA,
While you SAY you are "all talk" FOR NOW - talk leads to actions. Maybe not now, maybe not yet, but more likely than not.
And even if it doesn't you know ANYONE who reads those can not tell that you two are "just ha... (read in full...)
Need advice on how to proceed in my relationshi
Q. My partner and I have been together 7 years. We have been engaged since 6 months in. I cannot bring myself to take the next step and get married because I’m so terrified of marriage being surrounded by family members in unhappy marriages. Plus ...
A. 28 October 2022: OP,
You already were given answers last time you posted this question.
He is not a good fit for you because YOU have kids and he doesn't LIKe kids (or at least not yours).
How do you think that will affect YOUR children growing up?
... (read in full...)
Too much
Q. Ok, so I have a issue , uhh I may or may not masturbate, and I might have gotten addicted it just feels so good! But I kinda gross myself out, does anybody know how to stop? ...
A. 27 October 2022: Self-control, honey.
While I get that masturbation is not necessarily a bad thing to do, I think moderation and self-control are good lessons to learn. It is a normal function of your body. Part of puberty is sexual drive and the bodily changes ... (read in full...)
How do I come out to my female partner
Q. How do I come out to my female partner? Hey people, any help will be appreciated, I'm looking for advice on how I can get out of a situation I've stupidly got myself in. So, I'm gay but have a girlfriend and I really don't want to hurt hurt, but the ...
A. 27 October 2022: You say you don't want to hurt her but then you flirt with men online and go out and have sex with an almost stranger?!
Just rip off the band-aid! Tell her, I'm sorry I have come to realize that I'm gay. I can't string you along, it's not fai... (read in full...)
What if you are turned on by your physical therapist?
Q. Hi. My first name is Tanner. I injured my right shoulder in a fall trying to do parkour on some concrete structures. I am obviously not as good as I thought. I had other injuries but the shoulder is the big deal. So right now I am doing physical...
A. 26 October 2022: "Should I text her at all other than my therapy?"
Nope, not at all.
Her calling you stud might be to also make light of the situation, to show you it doesn't bother her that your body reacted.
You MIGHT want to wear a pair of compression sh... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sabotages me looking good.
Q. My boyfriend ignores what it takes for me to feel like a woman and to feel confident. We are in a serious relationship for a very long time now, we share finances and it's gotten to the point where he just doesn't think it's necessary for me to get ...
A. 24 October 2022: WHY are you sharing finances?!! you are NOT married.
Why are you letting a BF control you with money like this?
WHY are you with this guy at all?
He sounds like a self-absorbed controlling asshat!!
" He says I make a big deal out of no... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating
Q. Been seeing a guy on and off for almost 2 years met through online dating. My friend is also on the site I was on. She told me a guy matches everything that my boyfriend is its certain things only he does its very rare things. The profile matched ...
A. 24 October 2022: You are seeing this guy on and off - so maybe he sees you as a CASUAL partner?
Do you know his full name? - is it his REAL name? Do you know where he works? Do you know where he lives?
Have you BEEN to his place?
And why haven't you met any ... (read in full...)
Why won't he block her
Q. So I’m in a new relationship and things are amazing he’s the most amazing man I’ve met. We have such a laugh together and he says he hasn’t felt like this in a long time and we had a mini break together which was fantastic and we message all day ...
A. 24 October 2022: Two things OP
1. It's not up to you to "demand" who he can talk to and who he can not. The same goes for blocking. Just as HE can not demand you stop talking to anyone or that YOU block anyone.
2. If he can treat HER this way, don't you think ... (read in full...)
My sister inlaws mom wants my friends phone numbers
Q. My sister-in-law's mother is a control freak. She has all of my sister-in-law's friends numbers, all of my brother's friends phone number, and their neighbor's phone number. She claims that she needs it just in case there is something wrong,...
A. 24 October 2022: WiseOwlE,
it's not OP's mom. It's his brother's wife's mom who wants the phone numbers... which makes it even more nuts.
... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I don't want them in the room whenI give birth?
Q. I am the youngest of 4. I have 3 older sisters and they have 3 or children each. Anyway it is my first time being pregnant. I remember going to my sisters doctors appointments and seeing them give birth. My parents made me watch my sisters give ...
A. 23 October 2022: Talk to your doctor, and set your BIRTHING PLAN now.
Include in the birthing plan that you ONLY want hubby in the room NO ONE else. TELL the OB/GYN as well - HAVE IT in your records. And they won't let them in.
"My sisters and mom were already... (read in full...)
My sister inlaws mom wants my friends phone numbers
Q. My sister-in-law's mother is a control freak. She has all of my sister-in-law's friends numbers, all of my brother's friends phone number, and their neighbor's phone number. She claims that she needs it just in case there is something wrong,...
A. 23 October 2022: Jeeez!
NO, absolutely NO you do not OWE that crazy lady, your number, or those of your friends! I mean WHAT THE ACTUAL F!!
Stand your ground. Tell your brother that it's ridiculous and they can stop asking. They need to set some boundaries ... (read in full...)
Too far behind in life
Q. This is terrible because I know I should be happy for my health but my mental health suffers. So Nearly 35 haven't had sex in 12 years had bad experiences with girls when younger I tried just flings but felt bad if they started to like me more so ...
A. 23 October 2022: I think you are presuming that IF you had done X,Y,Z 15 years ago you would now be at point D, and you feel you are still at point B - however, it's impossible to really know if you would have made it to point D if things had gone differently.
... (read in full...)
Should I marry him? Wait or leave?
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for 7 years and I’m still afraid to get married. He purposed at 6 months and I said yes because at the time things were going good but as time progressed it seems to have gotten worse. We are so different. He’s ...
A. 20 October 2022: I think you are unsure for a reason.
That reason is that you KNOW deep down that this isn't working out.
He doesn't like your children?!! That should be a total deal breaker! At least to me. I get that he might not feel super connected to the... (read in full...)
Low libido?
Q. I've been married for 30 years. Recently we had some friends/relatives over for a day at the lake. My wife's cousin, more like a sister to her, has a new boyfriend (we'll call him Dave). He was there. Earlier in the day a fish bit his nipple and we ...
A. 20 October 2022: I don't think you are being overly sensitive, but menopause is a BITCH.
I think she was a little jealous of her cousin and the BF - she is seen this "new love" and wanted some attention too.
Her behavior WAS odd. OK a fish bit his nipple but w... (read in full...)
Uninvited from friend’s wedding
Q. I've known my friend "Lisa" since high school and we are both 30 now. We weren't each other's best friends but were still close. We started hanging out more often in 2019. That was the year my ex-fiance and I broke up. She invited me to several ...
A. 20 October 2022: How do you deal with it?
By being realistic.
You know the friendship was dead in the water for a long time and you still tried to throw it a life raft, she just didn't make time to pick it up. Because SHE also knew it was over.
It can ... (read in full...)
Son not going to college or working, does not help around house
Q. Hi and thanks So my son is 21 years old. After he graduated at 17, he's had no motivation to get a job or attend college. I have tried countless times to talk to him about it. I believe he suffers from anxiety. He's always over think...
A. 18 October 2022: I'd sit him down.
Give him a choice. Chores or get a job. OR move out and be homeless.
Give him a set of rules - such as, He cooks for himself, cleaning up after himself, do his own laundry.
I have a kiddo (22) who works 30 hours a week AN... (read in full...)
Did I answer her question wrong?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing someone for around 3 months everything is going great and im starting to really like her, however the other day she asked my if ive ever had a one night stand and immediately got up and left afterwards, I answered honestly and ...
A. 14 October 2022: Also, I forgot to add this earlier.
IF you were HONEST with her, you didn't answer her question "wrong".
She might not have WANTED to hear that you had casual sex and one-night stands but the reality is that you HAVE done this, like so many oth... (read in full...)
Did I answer her question wrong?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing someone for around 3 months everything is going great and im starting to really like her, however the other day she asked my if ive ever had a one night stand and immediately got up and left afterwards, I answered honestly and ...
A. 13 October 2022: I agree with Kenny,
I don't see an issue with asking that question, but I also think you should have asked HER about the same.
Also, it might be something to consider to talk about whether you two want to dig around in each other's past or ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to attend our high school reunion. I am worried about how we will be treated
Q. My husband. Zach, and I graduated from a all boy Catholic school in 2003. We didn't know each other was gay in high school since we both didn't come out of the closet until after we graduated. I always love spending time with Zach, even in hi...
A. 13 October 2022: Have you guys been in contact with anyone since graduation?
If so, don't they know already?
Accept that there are some people who think they have to judge others (I'm sure you have met some already in your life)
And if you want to go, then ... (read in full...)
Tired of being hurt give my love to animals instead
Q. I'm an introvert. I live with my partner who likes his space as well. As a true introvert, I'm happy and completely content in my own company. I'm self employed and happy plodding on with what I need to achieve each day. I walk my dog and always p...
A. 13 October 2022: "Anyone else feel like this?"
Not really. But I can relate.
The thing YOU haven't learned is setting some boundaries.
1. you CAN tell your mom to PLEASE call or text before popping in.
2. You can decide how LONG you want to sit and lis... (read in full...)
He is asking me for ideas on how to propose?
Q. I have a new partner (all started long distance) who I have been with on and off for 8 months - started in Feb - broke up on Mar 24 then he went home - came back in June - lived with me till mid Sept - then went home to get space and is back to me ...
A. 11 October 2022: The LEAST of your worries right now is HOW he should propose!!
Deal with your ex and the court case FIRST.
Secondly, a relationship that is OFF/ON is PROBABLY not going to work out long term, someone who "needs" breaks in a relationship is ... (read in full...)
He is asking me for ideas on how to propose?
Q. I have a new partner (all started long distance) who I have been with on and off for 8 months - started in Feb - broke up on Mar 24 then he went home - came back in June - lived with me till mid Sept - then went home to get space and is back to me ...
A. 11 October 2022: test
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