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He has a gf but there's something between us. Is he playing around with me or what?

Q.   Ok, I'll try not to be vey long, but I have a guy I have developed more than "friendly" feelings for. We've known each other for two years and about a year ago he got himself a girlfriend. Now, I know that this is territory I shouln't invade, but ...

A.   2 January 2008: Baby girl this is what is called emotional manipulation.He knows how much you care for him and he's abusing that knowledge.The earlier you do say something,the better. All the best.... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   2 January 2008: It's good to hear there's been progress.I've been busy sorting out my personal life.I knew there was a way round this and all that was required is patience and perseverance.I really wasn't asking you to search the whole town for her but to relax and ... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   21 December 2007: We are here to help and not compound someone's problem.We all have choice on which posts to reply to and are not compelled to answer any.Hence,if one has a problem with any post the best thing to do is avoid it.I can't claim to reply to every post ... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   19 December 2007: First of all how are you? I must say i'm amazed at your ability to lose faith.Do you believe you can date a really hot chik e.g a super model?I really think you lack patience when things are not going your way.Perseverance and patience is the name ... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   18 December 2007: Look at it as a puzzle you have to solve.If you are so into her,then you should be after her."where there's a will there's a way".If you think chances of seeing her are next to zero,why are you still trying to contact her? Isn't it because you wana ... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   17 December 2007: U know what one thing about being a man is to be in control.I often feel that way when i'm texting my girlfriend and end up snapping at her but that doesn't help at all.You are really not the patient type,so i've seen.Why don't you visit her more ... (read in full...)

I slept with her, and now she's dumped me. How could she do this?

Q.   im a guy and im quite sensitive when it comes to how i feel bout someone. i got with a girl and lost my virginity with her early ( too early) and she suddenly stoped replyin to my my textes. she dumped me soon after and makes out im messed up in the ...

A.   17 December 2007: I really feel for you my brother.It seems she thought you were more experienced and it seems she's disappointed.Tough luck man.These things happen.Give her space as well.If she comes back see what you can do and if she doesn't move on.The chik has ... (read in full...)

Messed up big time, and I may be pregnant now! Please help!

Q.   hi........i need help,big time..im 16 years old living in greece but im english,got a boyfriend for 1 year.hes 17 and finishing school now.he really cares about me and i really care about him to i am in-love with him,anyway we made love one night ...

A.   17 December 2007: Well i hope you've learnt a lesson.I always say don't have sex if you are not ready for the consequences such as pregnancy.As for the pill,your female counterparts have more than reassured you that there's still hope for the pill to work but what if ... (read in full...)

Do all men prefer anal sex and why? I do it to quench my husband's curiosity that drove him to an affair.

Q.   please do all men prefer anal sex and why, i dont care for it my husband does....i am having a hard time because he was in an affair in trying this anal stuff out i think this is the curiousity that he proposed to some whore on the net and ended up ...

A.   17 December 2007: Although i do fantasise about it i really don't bother my gal about and know she'd really be puzzled if i asked for it.So personally i'm not a fan of anal sex and do not think of touching it even when heving sex.It's really upto you,if you can enjoy ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a tightwad - what shall I do with him?

Q.   Ok.This is my situation,for which I Kindly please ask for any advice/opinion.I do not doubt that I love my man,as i do not doubt he Loves me too.I broke with him,Becouse of his inconfidency and inconsistancy.Im Urban Girl He is Village Boy.My ...

A.   17 December 2007: Conflicts are a product of unagreed imaginations in our heads.I strongly believe there's a chance for you guys to work it out but if you feel like giving up that's your choice.If you truly care and love him,it would be better for you to help him ... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   17 December 2007: My goodness,relax your nerves.You really have little amounts of patience in your system,heh?Call her more.Some girls don't like texting alot and prefer being called.It's good that you are no longer drooling over your ex but be more patient and don't ... (read in full...)

What are these 2 lumps on my vagina?

Q.   hi, i really need some help, i know you are not doctors and stuff, but i have noticed a lump, about the size of 2 peas entwined, on the right hand side of my vagina, it isn't painful to touch but i don't know what it is. i am not currently sexually ...

A.   13 December 2007: Hey relax remember we don't have the full details.Maybe you can post a photo to show us!! Just kidding.Yes i agree with you go see a doctor especially that you've noticed it's grown bigger. Chao... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   13 December 2007: It seems that the most painful bit for you is that even her new relationship seems so much of a LDR to you and that you knew the guy all along.Tough luck mate some girls are just like that.You really shouldn't be trying to find out what she's been ... (read in full...)

He has a gf but there's something between us. Is he playing around with me or what?

Q.   Ok, I'll try not to be vey long, but I have a guy I have developed more than "friendly" feelings for. We've known each other for two years and about a year ago he got himself a girlfriend. Now, I know that this is territory I shouln't invade, but ...

A.   13 December 2007: For your sake,RUN! Look what makes you think he's likely to end things with his girlfriend and come running to you? He finds your company really satisfying and is scared to want more.I've broken a number of girls' hearts just like the way the dude ... (read in full...)

I worry that my gf is texting other guys! How do I deal with my insecurities?

Q.   i am a guy and i have issues with insecurity. i get worried when my girlfriend texting other people, just incase its another guy, it wouldn't be the first time a girl has cheated on me. my past two exes hace both ended up going out with my best ...

A.   13 December 2007: You really need to get a grip on yourself.I know a man is viciously jealous of what's his and coming from such a past i understand your fears and insecurities but you need to trust her more and lead your own life.I really wonder if you can survive a ... (read in full...)

A lot of questions about our first time sex experience...advice needed.

Q.   Hello, My bf and I have been dating for over a year. We love and care about eachother. We enjoy spending time together. We like to make out and kiss. We are both virgins. We have been talking about sex. I think we will end up doing it. We hav...

A.   13 December 2007: LOL Girl are you nervous.Why don't you go in stages.Try giving him head for starters or you could do a handjob,more like musturbate him using your hand.He could also use his fingers to pleasure you.When you are more coomfortable with each other you ... (read in full...)

What are these 2 lumps on my vagina?

Q.   hi, i really need some help, i know you are not doctors and stuff, but i have noticed a lump, about the size of 2 peas entwined, on the right hand side of my vagina, it isn't painful to touch but i don't know what it is. i am not currently sexually ...

A.   13 December 2007: Better safe than sorry.Get checked by a doc.I really don't wana freak you out that it may be an STD but for how long have they been there? I'm sure you were not born like that.It could be that it's a reaction to some irritation or even an infection ... (read in full...)

Is it right for us to live together.

Q.   I have got a gf ...I knew her for the last 10 years of my age(I am 20),but we started love before a week.we are in two different campuses 5 Km apart,and as soon as we started it she asked if she can live with me in one house,and I can rent it...but ...

A.   13 December 2007: Personally i've never understood the logic of living with a girlfriend.If say before you marry you have 5 partners,how many are you going to live with? I really feel it's an emotional strain to see each other every day especially in the same house ... (read in full...)

Why do we keep breaking up when we argue?

Q.   Is it possible to know how much someone loves you? If you love the person you are with, and feel that they don't love you as much, is that okay? Sometimes I get a feeling just by looking at him, and listening to some of his comments that he doesn't ...

A.   13 December 2007: Too many break ups are not good for you.Tell him to stop doing that because it hurts your feelings and warn him that next time he breaks up with you.you'll leave him.The sweet thing about a relationship is to hear the word sorry but thinking of ... (read in full...)

What can I do to keep the relationship in tact.

Q.   we'll me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a month now. and i really think she could be the one. but things have been feeling wierd lately and she's planning on breaking up with me and we are hanging out this weekend and she told one of m...

A.   13 December 2007: What does she mean when she says "if it doesn't go good"? I hope she doesn't mean the bedroom activity.You can take a horse to a river but you can't force it to drink.You really can't force her to love you.You'll be much happier if she stays with ... (read in full...)

Is it safe for guys to choke the chicken in the shower? Or could it make subsequent lady users pregnant?

Q.   Is it safe for men to masturbate in the shower? Like safe for ladies who use the shower?...

A.   13 December 2007: Unless you use the same water for bathing or she joins you just after you musturbate.If you are using the shower chances of sperms remaining are slim but clean afterwards to make sure.In da shower,chances are slimmer but in a buth tub chances are ... (read in full...)

Does sperm have protein in it? Is it healthy to eat?

Q.   well sice we give head dont we get spmthing out of it. i mean if we swallow dont it have protein in the sperm so we canbe healty,well idk if it does but i would like to know so i would givehead more often or not.....

A.   13 December 2007: Personally,i really wouldn't support you eating sperms as if it were food.Proteins are the main content of sperms and actually if your boyfriend released inside of you,most of them would turn into proteins in your body after a while.How long i ... (read in full...)

Worried I'll aim for the wrong entrance when I try and have sex... is it hard to find?

Q.   hi im chris and i am a virgin. i have turned down many opportunities for sex bacause i am scared i will stay limp or not be able to find the correct entrance.. is there any easy way to find the right hole when your in intercourse? Chris...

A.   13 December 2007: You should turn down sex because you should be worried that you'll become an addict and mess up your life and not because you'll be limp. That's another problem of starting to have sex at an early age.You are so excited that you can't even rela... (read in full...)

I fantasise about guys, not girls. Does that make me gay?

Q.   Hi yeah i am only 16 years old I like girls but when i get horny the first thing that comes to my mind is gay sex, but when i am not horny anymore my mind tells me i am not gay,but i start to think and want guys in my life sexually everyday.....i ...

A.   13 December 2007: Well dude the fact that you fantasise about it may be a sign that you are gay.Try getting intimate with a guy and see if you'll enjoy it then you'll know for sure your gay status.You've even noticed that girls don't turn you on as much.The earlier ... (read in full...)

How to make my husband last longer during intercourse?

Q.   Dear cupid. I have a question about my husbands problem. We have an ok sex life but he only last a couple seconds its no longer then 5 min. We tryed all the sprays to last longer and even got him off befor sex but he still dont last long can...

A.   12 December 2007: Be patient dear woman.Rome wasn't built in a day.I suggest he sees a doctor as there may be a complication you are not aware of.Try having non-penetrative sex for a while because if i were him and you stop being sexual,i'd think you are getting it ... (read in full...)

He's seen me naked but we haven't had sex yet and I'm scared about progressing...

Q.   I'm a virgin, and my boyfriend is coming back from college, and I haven't seen him in 3 months. I've never done many sexual things. He's seen me fully naked, but I'm kinda scared. He asked me if we could go ahead and have sex. He has way more ...

A.   12 December 2007: Well for the practical advise leanne.od has summed it up but on the psychological part,i wana dwell.I really understand that it feels good to be in love and romance with our loved ones but you really need to take things slowly and not be pressured ... (read in full...)

Is this possible? Penis fracture during sex when certain positions are assumed? (e.g. cowgirl) Also, can it be recuperated?

Q.   Hi all, I am a 23-year old virgin who has read up quite a bit on sexual matters. I have heard that the male penis can snap when certain positions are assumed (e.g. cowgirl), under certain level of intensity. May I know how this can be successfu...

A.   12 December 2007: What it means is that when you engage in a position not comfortable for your penis there's a danger of you damaging the tissues there.If it's that serious,yes you can damage the tissues and will possibly have to rely on surgery but before you can ... (read in full...)

I don't want to lose him! Can you help?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. I have been hurt in the past with other relationships so in the early part of my current relationship, I kept my "options" opened (my fault) but saw how amazing of a man my boyfriend is and ...

A.   12 December 2007: Firstly i gotta disagree with rhythmandblues2.Your boyfriend's hurt and is trying to deal with things.I don't think he's trying to make an excuse of leaving you.Probably the guy was more committed than you from the start.Give him some TLC and just ... (read in full...)

What happens when a girl gets turned on by a boy?

Q.   What happens when a girl gets turned on by a boy?...

A.   12 December 2007: I hope you are not asking bcoz some guy's touching you everywhere.The next time some guy starts touchin you as though he's looking for a lost coin on your body,RUN! All i can tell you as at now is that it feels good though i'm not a girl i know how ... (read in full...)

Poll question: duration of the sexual act?

Q.   Hey i would like to know how long on average a man can have sex for, i just want to compare. can you give me one number or 2 instead of saying it varies please? Thank you so much xx...

A.   12 December 2007: I'm also wondering if you are running a competition.I sometimes last 20-30 minutes and sometimes go the whole 1hour and forget time exists.... (read in full...)

Should I choose my boyfriend or his brother?

Q.   I am in a completely odd situation. Along time ago I met this guy I thought was so hot. I of course flirted with him and gave him my number. He called me and we talked a lot, sometimes late into the night. And then everything just ended. He never ...

A.   12 December 2007: You really both amaze and amuse me.I wish i could see you in person because it seems you are a very unbending woman who doesn't easily give in.I always ask people in relationships.Do you want things between you and your boyfriend to work? Do you ... (read in full...)

He lives 20 miles away-will it work?

Q.   I recently met up with a guy, and we just clicked. I hadn't felt like that since I had broke up with my ex and I couldn't find one fault in him. One problem, he lives in a different city, although it is only 20miles away, it is much more of an ...

A.   12 December 2007: If you were much older i would say it can if you really love him but at your age love is too much to ask.Unless you are really much more mature than your age,i know you'll very soon end up cheating on him.So don't start something you can't see to ... (read in full...)

He lives 20 miles away-will it work?

Q.   I recently met up with a guy, and we just clicked. I hadn't felt like that since I had broke up with my ex and I couldn't find one fault in him. One problem, he lives in a different city, although it is only 20miles away, it is much more of an ...

A.   12 December 2007: If you were much older i would say it can if you really love him but at your age love is too much to ask.Unless you are really much more mature than your age,i know you'll very soon end up cheating on him.So don't start something you can't see to ... (read in full...)

I really want a baby. How to speed it up.

Q.   i realy want a baby but i seems like its guna take ages for me to get preganat . is there any way u can hurry up gettin preganat ??...

A.   12 December 2007: Are you married or you just wana have a feel of how it feels to give birth? You really need to take your time and think broadly about other issuses that may come up after giving birth.Are you prepared,financially,emotionally as well as ... (read in full...)

He came on my jeans and it soaked through - could I be pregnant?

Q.   So I'm new to this whole thing, and I am pretty sure this is going to be a really stupid question...but here goes. The other night my boyfriend and I were making out and he was on top. After we were finished we just layed there talking (all clo...

A.   10 December 2007: It really gladdens me that there are teenagers out there that make such bold decisions and stick to their principles and live them.Basicall don't worry much,chances of you falling pregnant are almost zero.You'll have to force them down your vagina ... (read in full...)

He keeps asking how I want it. What does he mean?

Q.   i just got out of a 3 year relationship, recently i started to have sex with my friend he keeps asking how i want it while we are having sex. what does he mean by that? my ex never asked me that!...

A.   10 December 2007: Out of curiousity,are you sleeping with your friend so that you get over your ex or you are just trying to find sexual satisfaction? What kind of a friend is he if you are always sleeping with him? I'd strongly advise you to take a chill pill and ... (read in full...)

What is he hiding from me?

Q.   My fiance,whom I had known as a good friend, a pentecostal and a colleague with no ties binding us for two years before he expressed his romantic feelings for me has now been insisting on premarital sex from the first day when he expressed his ...

A.   10 December 2007: Ya he sounds like a guy with a master plan and it's good you didn't give in too easily.From a personal point of view,the guy has no serious religous standing and is a hypocrite.Honesty is always important with oneself and others.This guy had been ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a tightwad - what shall I do with him?

Q.   Ok.This is my situation,for which I Kindly please ask for any advice/opinion.I do not doubt that I love my man,as i do not doubt he Loves me too.I broke with him,Becouse of his inconfidency and inconsistancy.Im Urban Girl He is Village Boy.My ...

A.   7 December 2007: Imagine if you were the one coming from his background,how would you feel if you were dumped because you can't buy expensive gifts or because you don't wear the latest fashion.Love knows no boundaries and it's about seeing the good side of a person ... (read in full...)

Is my wifes' self esteem really the issue?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for 4 years. We have been together for the better part of a decade. My wife has been sexually and emotionally unattentive to say the least, for a few years now. I understand that sex declines with the length of a ...

A.   7 December 2007: You really do have a problem at hand and one thing you won't be too pleased in hearing is that you need LOTS of patience with your wife.As long as you are sure her behaviour's not a result of cheating on you,you really should suffer the ... (read in full...)

Am I the perfect size?

Q.   Does size really matter? Recently in a coversation about penis size my fiance made a remark that bigger was not better. i naturally replied that she sounded like she was speaking from experience. bad response cause she said she did not want to lie. ...

A.   7 December 2007: I really feel your pain.It's something most (99%) men would like to find out if their members are the right size their partners and i've always been tempted to ask but usually stop myself because i'm afraid of feeling like you are right now.I'm the ... (read in full...)

I messed around all night - could I be pregnant?

Q.   i am a college student and one night a little over a month ago, when i got beack to my dorm room, my roommate had some of her friends over, there wsa this really hot guy and we messed around all night and we were drinking too...but im worried about ...

A.   7 December 2007: If only you girls could really play it safe then you would have less problems like this."we messed around all night and we were drinking too..." I really don't mean to criticise you but what do you actually mean by messing around? Where you in his ... (read in full...)

Why can't he see a future with me?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for two years now and we love each other alot, but everytime I talk about the future he says he doesn't want to get married or have kids and to enjoy right now together. He says he wants to achieve alot in life, bu...

A.   7 December 2007: He's just told you what he wants and it's up to you to accept it or not.You really can't force him to see things your way.Relationships are more about compatibility rather than compromising to satisfy the other's wishes.In other words you are not ... (read in full...)

Does he lie about other things?

Q.   Yesterday my bf was on his psp, and i asked him if he was looking at porn. (I know he does, he says he doesn't) anyways.. he told me no. So today i was going to use his psp for the internet because the net on my computer wasn't working right. And ...

A.   7 December 2007: Most guys look at porn.I have pictures of the vagina,vulva and labia because i wana learn it's anatomy more.However,some guys are just so into porn that they live in fantasy island that they would trade their girlfriends to be pornstars.Whatever ... (read in full...)

What to do to increase my libido?

Q.   Hi am having some problems with my body, i havent been feeling horney if a guy touches me or i talk with my boyfriend on the phone or anything, can you tell me what i can use to make my self fell horney again, its a really big situatio...

A.   7 December 2007: My girlfriend was going through a similar phase just like you and it used to irritate me at times but saw it as an advantage because we are in a LD relationship and wouldn't like her to get too horny when i'm away.I call it a phase because i belive ... (read in full...)

She says she can forgive me but I need to earn her trust. How can I win her back totally?

Q.   I have been with my current girlfriend for 10 months and when we were together for 4 months i stupidly kissed another girl at a party i also met up with her once but did not sleep with her,last night i confessed to her last night and our ...

A.   7 December 2007: Dude no matter what you say or do.Her trust won't come back like a magic show.Accept that you hurt her and try to make things better by showing her that you still love and care about her and i can assure you,with time she'll forget about it.The fact ... (read in full...)

Can anyone make sense of this and help me?

Q.   this is complicated but i NEED to find this out. so me and this girl like each other. and I was going to ask her out but I waited a few weeks. after the awhile she seemed to loose interest...so I became worried and confused. then this week her best...

A.   7 December 2007: Dude you waited too long and always listen to the chik's friend,they can mislead you at times.By my estimate,you still stand a chance so just be extra nice to her and sweet and she'll back to the way she was at 1st but you gotta make your move ... (read in full...)

How long do guys normally last

Q.   Once you get past all foreplay etc, once intercourse has started- how long is the avg time before a guy ejaculates??...

A.   7 December 2007: It really depends and i can promise you.you won't find a specific answer.But generally,if you rarely have sex or you are doing it for the 1st time,don't be surprised if you come much earlier than you expected but the more experience you gain the ... (read in full...)

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