Is it possible to be TOO nice to women?
Q. How do I avoid being nice towards women? I've had relationships but they always end in me getting dumped. My best friend says its because im too nice. what does he mean?...
A. 31 January 2008: Dude i've always been asking myself the same question and there are only two reason/responses i can give:
1.Be nice but don't be too nice.Do things to hurt them at times.It keeps them alert and curious and interested.
2.You just picked the w... (read in full...)
My bf said his ex was a very nasty person, then resumes contact with her. What does this tell about him?
Q. When you date a guy for 1 year and 4 months and he said hes totally into you, but when he starts talking to ex which he said "she was bitch and i never ever liked her." and plus adds her on myspace. what does that mean? b/c i dont want to tak...
A. 31 January 2008: If you broke up with him would you like to stop existing in his life even as a friend? When you date someone,you grow emotionally attached to that person and even after break up you can't just pretend they don't exist.However,be cautious and inform ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me then jumped into another girls arms, I can't stop peeking at his emails, am I going mad?
Q. If anyone could offer any advice I would really, really appreciate it...I think I am going mad and I don't know what to do. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me via email 3 months ago...we're both doing gap years and he's decided he wants...
A. 31 January 2008: You are still in a bit of denial and it's not doing you any good.Get away from his emails and stop seeing him so much.The pain is still there and when someone dumps you at a point you think things are ok,you are devastated,I've been there.Stop ... (read in full...)
I'm with a new guy but just found out I'm pregnant by my ex, please help me decide what to do!
Q. I am currently seeing a wonderful man who has a son from a previous relationship. I absolutely love his son and can really see this relationship working out. The problem is I recently discovered that I am pregnant with an ex's child. Apparently he ...
A. 31 January 2008: Boy are u in a tight corner.It seems that for you abortion is the 1st option.However,you really have to come face to face with reality.Tell your current bf your situation.He may also support you having an abortion.If he doesn't keep it.Take his ... (read in full...)
On facebook I said another girl is more attractive than my girlfriend, now she's dumped me, how can I get her to forgive me?
Q. Hi, i need a lot of help... About 9 months ago something happened on facebook between me and one of my friends. He told me this one girl was hotter than my girlfriend and i replied yes. It had not occured to me that it would lead me to this ...
A. 31 January 2008: I'm also wondering why you said it if you didn't mean it.I won't completely blame you.You gf/ex is also being childish.Why dump you now? I guess she may be using that as an excuse to get rid of you.I also suggest you keep apologising and if she ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a high sex drive, its driving me crazy, is there something wrong with her?
Q. this is a question mostly for the ladies- how high is your sex drive? I am asking because I am with a girl who is just about insatiable, we've been going out for three years and she's ALWAYS after sex. All the time! In the beginning we had it two o...
A. 31 January 2008: I understand your concern but believe me there are girls out there who think 2-3 times a week is too much and would think you a sex maniac! Talk to her.Tell her to slow down but i guess that'll have little or no effect.Some have suggested getting ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I made out with his best friend?
Q. okay me and my boyfriend have not been dating very long..and i now like his best friend..and he likes me and...well...at my boyfriends basketball game i kinda made out with his friend..and i now know that i dont like him and i really really like my ...
A. 31 January 2008: What a best friend he has! If he wasn't friends with your bf i would've told you to keep quiet but in my opinion you really have no option.Imagine once you turn him down,he runs to your bf and makes it look as though you were seducing him.You'll ... (read in full...)
Cheated before, I have the right to know if she has after we got married
Q. My wife is an oral sex freak, by that I mean going down on guys. Before we were engaged she told me she blew about 12-15 guys and wasn't sure of the exact amount because lots of guys she did lots of times. I overlooked this because her reas...
A. 31 January 2008: I understand how you feell about her friend but the root of the problem is with your wife and i agree that you need to sit down and tell her what you feel and think and the decision you've made as a husband.However,if your wife can't come to level ... (read in full...)
I am jealous of my boyfriends best friend that happens to be a female. Am I overreacting?
Q. I think i'm starting to get jealous of my boyfriends bestfriend. We are in a long distance relationship and have been together for almost 2 years. He has known his friend, which is a girl, for a long time he says and I get sad because they go to ...
A. 31 January 2008: Just be careful.Not all promises made are kept.My ex once told me that but here i am mending a broken heart.For your sake i'll be praying your bf is as committed as you are.Sometimes the people we trust the most are the ones that disappoint us.Leave ... (read in full...)
My vagina is too tight, sex is painful. How can I fix that?
Q. My ex recently told all my friends how "tight" I was. unfortunatly he's right. What can I do to stop being so tight? Sex is really painful, and its really starting to make me depressed....
A. 30 January 2008: I think most people have made great suggestions but one last thing i can tell you is that you need to train your mind.The mind is the biggest and strongest sexual organ as it's connected to every part of your body.You need be psychologically ready ... (read in full...)
Is she stringing me along? Is her not contacting me even to ask how I am a bad sign?
Q. Hi all, Back here once again, in pretty much the same situation. I was going through a horrible break up with the same girl about a year and a half ago. But she came back saying she made a mistake, and i let her back into my life, and we were h...
A. 30 January 2008: Man don't waste your time and depress yourself about this girl.It's her responsibility to sort out her own life and there's no way in the world you can do that for her.I've been there and i can assure you,the months i stayed were the most painful ... (read in full...)
I am jealous of my boyfriends best friend that happens to be a female. Am I overreacting?
Q. I think i'm starting to get jealous of my boyfriends bestfriend. We are in a long distance relationship and have been together for almost 2 years. He has known his friend, which is a girl, for a long time he says and I get sad because they go to ...
A. 30 January 2008: It's such thoughts that caused me and my ex to break up.You need to allow him live his own life which includes having friends (male & or female).You too need to keep yourself busy with other things which includes friends (male & or female).In such a ... (read in full...)
I told her that the morning after pill is abortion, she hates me now, what should I do?
Q. Dear friends, I have been crying for a day now because of my best friend. I have known her for over 9 years now, and we've helped eachother so much. I moved in with her and her son from another state and lived with her for about 5 months and then...
A. 30 January 2008: Try to understand her too,she's stressed out about the pregnancy.I'm sure with time she'll be back to her old self.I believe she never meant all those things she said so don't be hurt.Just give her the support she needs but it's good you stood by ... (read in full...)
I left hubby now I want him back but he's with someone else now, is there any hope?
Q. i left my husband about a year ago. i thought i was unhappy with our life together and messed up big time. now that i realize my mistake i want him back but i think it's too late. he has been with a woman for around 8 months or so. the thing is he ...
A. 30 January 2008: You have ALL the right in the world to ask and even fight for him back.You are his WIFE.I suggest you practice a bit more patience here coz it seems your husband is afraid of leaving the other woman just like that.Continue talking to him.Try to ... (read in full...)
All I can do is picture my ex.
Q. Dear cupid, ok i have just started dating this guy, and everytime we kiss good night, i cry because all i can picture is my ex that i broke up with in october.. ...
A. 30 January 2008: Face the truth.You are not over your ex.October isn't that far away,so i'm not surprised.You must have loved your ex loads.You need time on your own to heal and move on.You are mistaking the comfort he's giving you for love.You need this guy as a ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep second guessing myself?
Q. My boyfriend and I had been in a long distance relationship for around a year (he lives around 4.5 hours away) and got engaged in December. We're planning on getting married this Sept and have booked the restaurant and told friends etc. We haven't ...
A. 30 January 2008: Don't make a decision that you'll live to regret and i see your parents are adding to your confusion.I know you love your parents ALOT and wish they were the only ones in your heart.However,you are no longer a small girl and need to make your own ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get wet just thinking about sex?
Q. Hi. i am new at sex and i was wondering if it is normal to get wet just thinking about it. like out of nowhere in the middle of class just get wet. also what do i do about it? ignore it or run to the bathroom and finger myself and get it ove...
A. 30 January 2008: What you are experiencing is very normal.The price you pay for growing up! Personally,i've never supported musturbation because it has a hidden effect on your future sex life but if it makes you feel better,go ahead.Just be strong and bear it,i know ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 30 January 2008: I like your moral standing.You seem to be serious life which is good.Just be careful,some people may make you lose those principles.
Take care.... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my 15 year old girlfriend, how can I speed things up?
Q. i'm 14 and i want to have sex with my 15 year old girlfriend. ive been with her for 3 months now, and i really like her alot for such a short space of time. you guys probably think im too young to know what love is but i do, i was with this other ...
A. 29 January 2008: The only way to speed up things is for you to slow down your thinking.Will you die if you don't sleep with her? She's too young.Either wait or waste! Why don't you find sum1 older and more willing to have sex.I've seen it takes a little while for ... (read in full...)
I have loved her all my life and now she is unexpectedly gone!
Q. Me n my ex broke up nearly 2 years ago, and i realy have tried to move on but it doesnt matter i cant. She was my 1st and only love, Now it all seems like a dream!!! She was my everything, we were young when we met (14 yrs) and we were together fo...
A. 29 January 2008: You never completely move on till you fall in love again.Why do you wana go see her?So you can feel depressed and sad? The less you see her the better.You should be busy healing yourself.
Take care.... (read in full...)
We fell in love 5 months ago, now he wants to end it, why?
Q. hi i met a wonderful man 5 months ago and the way we met we both believed it was fate. we clicked straight awy and fell in love he was always making me feel spcial telling me how much he loved me that i was the best ting to ever happen to him. we ...
A. 29 January 2008: Firstly my sincere sorry.Welcome to the world of heartbreaks.I used to believ in love at 1st sight but no longer do.Love grows and matures into reality.You guys were climbing the tree from the top branches and not the the bottom or trunk.You can't ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, he's a Jehovahs Witness I'm not, will there be any problems?
Q. There is this guy i like at collage, and i have a sneaking suspicion that he likes me too (have been shamelessly flirting with him lol). He is a Johavas Witness and im not. I was wondering about the 'rules' regarding JW's and non JW's dating. As i ...
A. 29 January 2008: Being a mormon, I understand JWs really well and most people here are right. How much can you sacrifice for just being with him? How strong is he in his faith? How much is he willing to sacrifice over you? In the end you'll certainly realise ... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I'm scared of sex, help!
Q. hi everyone, i have a problem.. i really really want and feel ready for a baby, trouble is i wont let myself be close to anyone as i fear sex so much, and as soon as i think things are going to lead that way.. i sort of freeeze! it sounds odd but ...
A. 29 January 2008: Let me take a different angle.There's nothing wrong with you.Everything is ok with you.It's really normal to crave a baby in your arms.First ask yourself how ready you are for a baby sometimes it may be a fantasy you live with.If 100% +ve you are ... (read in full...)
Can fighting/arguments be good for a relationship?
Q. Hi guys. I just have a general relationships question that I've been pondering for quite some time now and I'd really like some outside oppinions. Okay so, do you guys find that fighting/arguments are helpful or detrimental to a relationship? Is it ...
A. 29 January 2008: Nice question.In all honesty,a relationship where there are no disagreements or arguments is bound to fail.Too much of anything is bad.E.g When a man becomes too nice a woman becomes uneasy.Imagine a man finds his partner in bed with another man and ... (read in full...)
I don't want to make things weird between us.
Q. okay,i have a problem, this boy likes me but i like his friend, and his friend likes me and asked me out but i dont want to hurt the other boy because we are like best friends and i dont want to make things weird between the three of us...help ...
A. 29 January 2008: If he's truly your best friend he'll understand.You can't date him just beacuse you want to be nice and loyal.You'll hurt him more.Again if you don't go out with the other guy you'll always feel awkward in his presence.Tell the other guy 1st how you ... (read in full...)
Techniques to make it last longer.
Q. Me and my boyfriend of almost 5 months have started to have sex. It was his first time when we did it a while ago but my third. We have only had sex three times but every time we did he came pretty fast. like 5 miutes or so. this time it was rele ...
A. 29 January 2008: I know you don't wanna hear this but i'm gonna say it.Maybe it's a sign that you are not ready for sexual exploits especially on the guy's part.Chill a bit on the sex and get to know each other better.Is your relationship all about sex? Anyway,it's ... (read in full...)
Boy in class sexually harassing me.
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl, and i need some advice. This boy in my class has been sexually harrassing me again after he was suspended. he touched my bum. but the thing that scared me was when he zipped down my zipper. what do u think that he was trying ...
A. 29 January 2008: It seems he's a psycopath and has psychological problems.Since he's been suspended before,i think it's not enough.Report him to your school principal and this time ask your parents to make a complaint at the nearest police station.If all this ... (read in full...)
I worked hard, she let go and is happy, I'm hurt.
Q. I came out of a relationship just over 4 months ago. I guess my ex just decided she could do better and wanted to enjoy the freedom of being single. Since she split with me it's felt like there's been a dark cloud hanging over me. People have told ...
A. 29 January 2008: Welcome to the world of women.They are the most heartless beings on earth.However,my experiences with women have taught me alot.Love them too much,you chase them away.Women don't want a man who can't even hide his emotions and affections but they ... (read in full...)
Cheated before, I have the right to know if she has after we got married
Q. My wife is an oral sex freak, by that I mean going down on guys. Before we were engaged she told me she blew about 12-15 guys and wasn't sure of the exact amount because lots of guys she did lots of times. I overlooked this because her reas...
A. 29 January 2008: Be a man and face the bull by it's horns.You have every right to confront your wife about her ordeal and if she flips,know that she doesn't regret or respect you.Don't blame the other woman,your wife wasn't minor,whose head was forced towrds a man's ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can trust him after he cheated, I thought he was perfect for me
Q. Hi everyone, I could really do with some advice! I was in a long distance relationship with a gorgeous guy, who I love so much. He is gorgeous and kind - I loved seeing him at the weekends, and trusted him. Well, a year ago, he got a new...
A. 29 January 2008: I agree with collaroy.A relationship without trust is a relationship with no "spine".You are trying to convince yourself that it can work.We accept the fact that you love him but my dear,in a relationship,love is not enough.You'll end up depressing ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 29 January 2008: I sense a fear in you of growing closely intimate with any girl.You need to open up and that's exactly what she's doing.You never know just telling her about your inexperience may make her trust you more but again she may look at you in a different ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking we're better of friends than lovers
Q. I really need advise. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He is 26 I am 31. I am very sexual and had great self confidence in bed until now. He always had issue with sex from the begining. Couldn't get it up or keep it up. I don't ...
A. 29 January 2008: You really care about this guy! When i was in that situation,it only took months for me to get dumped and you gave him 2yrs and are willing to allow him have some experience elsewhere then come back to you? I wish i had met you then! I honestly saw ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's past involved threesomes, 2x rape, or was this just 2 big mistakes? What am I to believe?
Q. Hello there!! I have this little problem with my girlfriend. Only recently after her many lies she told me that she had two times on two different ocassions sex with 2 guys. But it gets much more complicated than this. The first time it happened...
A. 28 January 2008: Well dude whether you believe it or not the 1st thing you should do when you learn of such a thing is to offer your sympathy and support.Proving is for later.After reading your follow up post i see a problem.Your desire for minute details is also ... (read in full...)
I have loved her all my life and now she is unexpectedly gone!
Q. Me n my ex broke up nearly 2 years ago, and i realy have tried to move on but it doesnt matter i cant. She was my 1st and only love, Now it all seems like a dream!!! She was my everything, we were young when we met (14 yrs) and we were together fo...
A. 28 January 2008: This is one thing women blame us on.We are so poor at reading in between the lines.She stopped loving you some time back and was merely offering friendhsip support.That's why she waited for you tobe stable before leaving you.Along the way she fell ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about her.
Q. hi can anyone help me im sick of feeling alone and depressed most of the time i split up with my gf first week in december after she cheated on me shes had 2 bf since yet why carnt i stop thinking bout her plz help...
A. 28 January 2008: I feel your pain bro.Up to this day,i still feel the pain.I also got dumped around the same time and i felt as though it was the end of my life.I felt as though i had been sentenced to eternal sadness.I agree with Laura1318,when a door closes ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't trust me! help!
Q. in the pass, i have done something unforgiven! i am very regretful of it! i wouldnt let him down again! never! we got back together, we had a baby and got married! he works away, and i rearly go out! occasionally when i do go out, he dont approve ...
A. 28 January 2008: My dear it takes time and ALOT of it to repair trust.However,you need to make him feel comfortable with trusting you again.I personally feel you are trying too hard to please him and win his trust back and in the end you frustrate your original ... (read in full...)
I've been seeing one of his mates for 5 months.
Q. I have been with my partner for 5 years and we recently got engaged! But he doesnt know that I have been seeing one of his mates behind his back for about 5 months!I know what I am doing is wrong and we have tried to stop it so many times but we ...
A. 28 January 2008: WHYYYYYYY???? Sorry to ask you this but as a man who's been cheated on,i always tend to ask this question.What does this other guy have that your fiancee hasn't got?What keeps drawing you to his friend every time you decide to stop?Does his friend ... (read in full...)
How long to get over someone
Q. How long does it take to get over someone? Its been really hard for me to try to forget about this guy...I haven't talked to him since October 14 2007 I know its been a very long time but I can't help it I still think about him every once in a whi...
A. 28 January 2008: It really takes time to get over someone better yet stop thinking about them.I don't know what's really keeping you apart but if the other person really hurt you,the pain will be there for a long time to come.There's really very little you can do to ... (read in full...)
Two people in relationships kiss, touch another person
Q. I am in a relationship that is bad-the past month and a half we have almost quit it about seven times. The other day, I went to watch a football game at my friend's house and we all ended up drinking too much and a guy kissed/touched me, as I did ...
A. 28 January 2008: The first thing you should be concerned about is your bf.You guys seem to be going through a rough patch and it's better you seriously ask yourself if you love him or you are better off breaking up with him.Sometimes,an unfufilled desire could lead ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking we're better of friends than lovers
Q. I really need advise. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He is 26 I am 31. I am very sexual and had great self confidence in bed until now. He always had issue with sex from the begining. Couldn't get it up or keep it up. I don't ...
A. 28 January 2008: If it really bothers you that much,better you end it and ask that you remain as friends.However,having been in a similar situation before,i would suggest you have more patience with him and sit down with him and talk it over.Ask him if there's ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 28 January 2008: It's really not a good idea to start going out with someone just after a break up but since it seems she wasn't so in love with the guy,you are on the safe side.To anwser your question,you need to be her friend first of all.You really can't force ... (read in full...)
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