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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Sex with my well endowed boyfriend is painful

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - What can I do? My boyfriend is really large n when had sex it hurt so bad that I barely could breathe, its where he is too big n Im a lil small! I havent been sexually active in awhile n maybe I will get use to it but we tried again n it got so bad I couldnt finish. My boy... (117 words)

Is he flirting or just being his usual self?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I have a crush on a guy at our school, in my class for most things. I wouldn't say he flirts but he is really weird around me like today he walked past me at dinner and tapped my head with a bowl,he hugs me like loads and other times he just looks at me, we hardly ever make ... (135 words)

Married for sixteen years and he's cheated three times that I know of

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I have been married for sixteen years and with two children. One child is special needs. There has been three cheating incidences that I knew of during the marriage. The last one he left me for twice in a year and he came back. I filed for divorce. Two months b... (237 words)

Is there any hope for love without a better job?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Despite being a decent and honest man I've been single for my entire life. I've really struggled in life with depression and a lack of confidence and direction and knowing what I want out of life. I've only ever had menial jobs, or have been out of work. Currently I have a part ... (611 words)

What's going on with my FWB?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I am in a really confusing situation at the moment I have been fwb with a man for over 2 year now I liked him in the beginning but the way he treated me my feelings for him went now I have been away abroad for two weeks and I came back he also went away last year ... (124 words)

Boyfriend of 4 years won't stop going on dating sites. Is it worth trying to sort this out?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4266 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I am new on here and would really like some advice on what to do. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years. He wont stop going on dating sites. I have caught him doing it and seen it with my own eyes 3 times, I have also got to the point where I have now started to track his ... (167 words)

Am I a racist for not liking a black guy?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4269 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I’m a young gay man and I feel like I’m a bad person. I’m receiving a lot of attention from a black guy (I'm white myself). He’s being really nice, giving me small gifts and everything, asking me to go out with him. We’ve talked many times, he’s a wonderful person, but the ... (182 words)

Am I wrong? Our anniversary was ruined.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Yesterday was my boyfriend's and I three year anniversary. He went out to get something and got caught up and stayed out for two and a half hours. I got really upset because our time was limited and he completely wasted it outside. I kept calling him so that at he could come ... (246 words)

Why is he ignoring me and cutting me out of his life? What have I done?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Met a guy through my house mate. Everything was amazing ... He went away for 3 weeks with some friends, but continues to call and text me all the time whilst he was away. When he returned we spent 2 days with each other ( I thought everything was okay) then he calls me up and ... (202 words)

Is a woman being objectified in this situation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - If two guys happen to like the same woman, and one of them sees the other one as 'competition', does that not mean that he (the one who sees the other one as competition) sees the woman as a prize to be won, and is therefore objectifying her? A true story/situation.... (54 words)

He wants long term I dont

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Everyone, I just want to know what other people would do in this situation. I got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship 7 months ago and it ended badly i was heart broken. I got really really hurt but there's a guy who i went to high school with we werent really close but ... (244 words)

Problems in our sex life. I'd like to fix this, but how?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and things seem to be "not that great" during sex. Don't get me wrong my boyfriend and i are very attracted to each other and find plenty of passion during intercourse. But most recently the one thing being left ... (173 words)

He used me and I hate him, so why can't I get over him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Can someone explain to me why I can't get over someone even though he used me? We're the same age but I was still naive. Basically I fancied him, and he knew. He asked out one of my closest friends, and being a good friend she asked itf it was okay. I said yes so they went out. ... (247 words)

Will my mindset be a problem for me in the future? I want to be happy.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I am scared of marriage and children. I love children but when I see them I do not know how to even ask for their name. I sound mean most of the time and this scares them away. I and my twin sister, brother moved out of my fathers house when I was 7 years old. We were so ... (369 words)

How do I talk to my daughter without pushing her away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid My daughter of 15 years is acting weird lately. I know she is sexually active, found used condom in her room. I want to make sure she is not pregnant. How do I bring up this subject without pushing her away from me. Already she hates me cause I asked her to not to m... (96 words)

We both had a similar bad dream on the same night, does anyone have any ideas what this was all about?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys, I need some advice, or I'm not sure what I need, maybe some clue as to what this means... Alright, so last night, me and my fiance both had bad dreams, a little about us first; We've known one another for four or so years, it's been a online relationship, and ... (357 words)

Is he cheating or is it all in my head?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4267 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok so my boyfriend of one year got caught talking and seeing his ex girlfriend about a month ago I talked to Both I them and their just friends nothing happen, I told him that's fine but no more spending time with her. I should come first! But sense then my trust has went out ... (157 words)

I'm a no-nonsense person, could this be mistaken for pride?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I am a very proud person. I have tried therapy and combating this problem all to no avail as it often affect my relationship with other people. I remember being nice and loving when I was younger till my parents separated I became a monster. I never knew I was proud till people ... (147 words)

He is my one regret in life - should I call him even though he never answered my message on Facebook?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm so confused. There was a guy I had been seeing a while back but I wasn't in a good place in my life and we stopped talking. We started talking again later on but I had just move over an hour away and had no car or anything so we never hung out. I started seeing someone ... (473 words)

We are still dating but havent called each other in months, should I just break up with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I met this cute tall handsome looking guy at my birthday get together. Since then we had been talking and started dating shortly. I was so happy dating him cos he was everything I wanted in a man physically. I often dreamt about us having a future with him since he's so ... (262 words)

I'm from a broken home and find myself attracted to older men but I don't want to be!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I am a person with a very mature mind tho I act my age sometimes but my reasoning is very well above my age. I feel older I do not know why like I have been in some past life and I am a reincarnation of my self. Even people who meet me for the first time think am older. This ... (259 words)

Was my mom a victim or did she just make a bad choice? Should I ask her now what is wrong with her or wait until I'm older?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I and my mom are very alike in character, we are both strong hearted and strong willed. When she met my father everything changed she was duped of all her wealth and became a slave to my father. He sent us packing. Since then my mom feels unworthy of being called a parent. Even ... (222 words)

Need help understanding depression....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - need help really to understand depression. sometimes i feel i cant do anything or dont want to but i would say lately im fine and can get up early go out and about and happy to do daytrips and things i enjoy like swimming. i still feel in myself a bit sad at times and a bit ... (249 words)

Why does she keep sharing so much about her ex with me? What is she trying to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend and I have been together for some time. She loves me dearly so do i. Things are going great but sometimes she show me her ex's messages, pics, about their relationship, and sometimes she gets very emotional when she share music or come across that is related to ... (150 words)

I threw my husband out due to our arguing disturbing my very sick mother. Is there a way to make things right again? Or move on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - hi guys im in need of some advice and would love some help with this situation . going back 6 months ago i found out that my mum had breast cancer which was a major shock to the system however my two sisters and I have helped her through her ops and treatments (she is currentl... (403 words)

Guys, is Virginity really important to you? I'm scared to lose my virginity. But wish I had.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4268 days ago

7 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I am not a person who goes with the crowd but most of the time, I am scared of losing my virginity before marriage. Now I probably regret not having sex when I was younger, because I had always wanted to have sex. What's the difference even if one has waited years and still ... (182 words)

I hate the people I call family. How do you suggest I approach my father and my family? Or do I walk away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - My twin sister's birthday and my birthday was coming up which would cost 10,000 dollars. I told my sister that we should not do the birthday thing, but use the money to do something more productive, since we are the least favored of all our father's children. My sister refu... (412 words)

Does she want a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so there's this girl I have been talking for a while online and we meet and it was great. Well anyways I really liked her and explained to her that we won't be seeing each other for while, so in my desperation I asked her to be my girlfriend. She read my message but she ... (225 words)

Toxic father and less than optimum mother. Any suggestions on how I can move forward, to live a normal life, without resentment clouding every moment?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I hate my father. He has always offended my sister, my older brother and i. He has 7 women as wives of which 6 had children for him. He completely ruined the lives of most of these women. We recently started discovering some more children. Before my sister and I were bo... (372 words)

My boyfriend and I have different opinions on working, who is in the wrong here? How do I motivate him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. Please help with this question. My bofriend is 8 years older than me but we have a huge difference of opinion on working. I work for a salary and almost everyonee in muy company as well as friends and family have the approach that we turn up and work and we are ... (195 words)

I want to make him dump me so no-one blames me for ending the relationship, how do I do this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hello everyone. Its been more than a year since i have posted here.Well my life has been wonderful in the past year.The last time when i needed help it was about dating my cousin's ex and i got only one reply saying not to.But it was my bad that i totally ignored went in to a ... (262 words)

I cant tolerate my boyfriend drinking or smoking, yet he keeps asking me if he can. What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4269 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i am in a committed relationship since 38months. my bf knows that i dont like drinking.still whenever he parties with his friends he always calls and ask whether he could drink a little.i always say choose 1 and he chooses me. last month he drank with his friends after 2.5... (114 words)

We decided to give it another go despite him cheating on me, but I'm struggling to move on....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - After it came to light that my boyfriend had cheated a year later we agreed to try sort things out. We had issues and we had been working the whole year to try fix things but I just can't move on. It hurts so much, I've even started having nightmares about him having sex with ... (208 words)

She ignores me for months then flirts with me, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4270 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this girl and we talked to each other for awhile at first and even said that we like each other..but than she just stopped talking to me all of a sudden and i saw on facebook that she's talking to this other girl. so i decided to forget about her Anyways, we di... (204 words)

When will it be safe again to have sex without extra precautions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - just over two weeks ago i was taking my pill, with the only drink i could get hold of, coke, and i am unsure whether i swallowed it, bear in mind it was a can of coke and i could not see inside. so just incase how long should i take extra precautions for, i have now finished ... (110 words)

I'm only 18 and have slept with 28 guys, do I have a problem?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4266 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so I am an 18 years old female. I will be 19 in November. A few weeks ago I was thinking about exactly how many guys I've slept with. I wrote it down and came to 28. I know its a really high number and probably makes me look like an anonymous whore but. I can't help it. I ... (90 words)

Anyone else feel energized after having sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4272 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I was reading a mens' health magazine online one day and noticed an article about what to do/say to your partner after sex etc....There was quite a bit about how 'it's normal for a man to want to sleep after sex due to brain chemistry'....and it got me thinking, I'm the ... (133 words)

I've been so upset because of my boyfriend's relationship when we were on a break that I ended up cheating on him! How do I come clean about this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I did something 10 days ago and I regret it sooo much,its killing me inside..I know people will judge me here but its ok I have to learn to deal with it.. I have been seeing my boyfriend for the past 7 years,he is very caring,loving he looks after me but in ... (227 words)

My boyfriend is lying about who he is out with and where he is going, what is going on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My boyfriend has been misleading about where he is and who he is with such as what golf course he is at and what tee times he has and who he is with and says that he is at his friends house but I find out later that he is at a bar , what's up with that??... (58 words)

My boyfriend's friend was hitting on me so I told my boyfriend, he got angry saying it was my fault!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - i dont know if im over reacting. I used to talk to my bf's bestfriend just a conversation stuff like that than all of a sudden he starts hitting on me telling me to come visit him, have a few and mess around and telling me not to tell him about anything. Course i went and told ... (177 words)

Thinking about her sleeping with guys who have bigger penises than me is driving me mad!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4266 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok so my fiancé and I had takin a break for 3 weeks about a year ago. During that she was hanging out with a guy she had texted when we had broke up for couple days a few months prior. The text were about how they wanted to hook up. But when we got back together the second ... (330 words)

Is stealing a shirt really such a horrible thing? Will this affect my job application?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 4187 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello again, I posted a question a few days ago about a test I had to take for a job. Well I passed the test, yay! But now I am into the background check and then onto a lie detector/polygraph test. I have a couple questions about this. One, has anyone taken a lie detector t... (284 words)

I can't get over this male model but he doesn't like me in that way. Should I lose my virginity to him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I am a lost person at the moment. I had a thing with a male model we romanced three times with one almost leading to sex but I refused because I knew he did not like me. I still like this guy, even when I forgot him I dream about him and that makes me think about him more ... (175 words)

Can the way a person hugs be a sign of how they feel towards you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I have a question about...different types of hugs. And the reason why is because, well, I've seen articles about how you can kind of tell how a guy feels about you by the way that he hugs you. This is an interesting subject for me, because, as expected, there is someone th... (438 words)

After 4 years his personality has changed and we have no sexual contact. I'm so confused.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I started talking to this guy in 2008 we met on myspace I was just getting out of a bad relationship when we started talking...when I first started talking to him we got along so good he was like a breathe of fresh air after my last relationship I thought about getting married, ... (222 words)

We were flirting once upon a time but haven't spoken since. Will this be awkward when I see him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4263 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm going for a meal with my friend and her friends as her friend is leaving for uni. However myself and one of the guys that is going had a phase of flirting, texting and that sort of stuff but haven't spoke since and I think it's going to be awkward. what should I do? should ... (63 words)

Boyfriend makes threesome jokes, is he interested in his co-worker?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4272 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. To me, we seem to be a happy couple, and rarely argue. Recently, my boyfriend has been joking about having a threesome with a co-worker that he's been good friends with for a long time. He will send her suggestive texts... (318 words)

Boyfriend leaving state on internship for 4 months, should I let go?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been dating this guy for about a year. We have been very happy together, rarely argue, and always have a great time in one another's company. We're both in college, and go to different colleges. We miss each other during the week, but set aside weekend time to spend ... (217 words)

I don't know my sexuality -- I think it's bisexual??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

7 September 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I am seventeen years old and i dont know if im gay bisexual our straight??I masturbate over both sexes i am male but in public by looking at men and women i only get an erection from a male very rarely from a women however i do masturbate over women im worried????please help i ... (66 words)