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writes:I seriously need help. And I have absolutley nobody to talk to so if u could, tell me ur advice.I turned 18 and moved a state away from my whole family to be with a 34 year old man. Now, don't get me wrong, I love him with all of my heart. And I think he loves me too. Somtimes I believe it and at others, I don't. We have been together for almost 2 yrs. And I couldn't live without him. Here is my problem:He is prescribed a nerve pill, and I understand he has to take it. But he usually runs out b4 time to get more. At that time he is seriously a butthole. And he admits it and says he is sorry the next day, but they r getting old. He is always sending his aunt to pick me up from work and when I come home from a 9 hour shift, he is in bed. And he don't even work. I kno that's bad right there. But he is halfway looking for a job. Anyways, he acts like he loves me one day, the nest day I'm a bitch from hell. And in reality, I do everything for him. Cook, wash clothes, clean, and everything else. I never express my point of veiw cause I'm afraid he will get mad. Cause he does. I don't kno what to do. Most ppl would say leave him, I'm young and have a life to live. But u gotta understand, I can't live without him. I love him so much. I'm so confused. HELP ME PLEASE. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): He is a man to envy.... has got a gf who works long shifts to keep him, cooks for him, cleans for him, gives him sex, he treats like a dog when the mood takes him......Gosh and you say he loves you.... welcome to the real world.. he is using you and in 5 years from now he will still be 'looking' for a job......Time to wake up and stop wasting your life.....
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 Whenever a post contains a sentence that uses love as an excuse, you know that it ain't going to end well.
If you need to use an excuse to stay with someone, then it ain't right and if that excuse is love... then it is time to run.
You give no reason to be with this man, other then love. It ain't enough.
If you can't give any reason to be with him other then 'but I love him so much', then you can only move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Oh my.... I feel so bad for you sweetie. You need to get out of there, and go back to your parents!
I know you think you love him, but it is not love dear, it is that you are young and vulnerable and you want to be loved.
You should be having the time of your life right now, instead you are practically a slave living a miserable life.
Please give what people say on here some consideration, I am rooting for you that you get the strength to leave and start to build an exciting life with a promising future, it can happen, and believe me no matter what you think about this guy.. when you get out of there and move on, your love will soon change to something else...
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 December 2009):
 Your parents failed you they need to be slapped i dont care if you where 18 when you left. after raising clothing feeding and sheltering my daughter for 18 years you could bet i would kill her before i let her run off with a psychpatient
The good news is you seem to atleast realize your screwed your not in denial. You just dont kno what to do about it and youve gotten your self into a mess that at 18 your not fully euipped to get your self out
If you where to pack up and leave this guy you would feel extremly guilty huh well take that feeling dig a hole and burry it
I may sound harsh but in truth i dont blame you your just a kid 18 is still a kid and kids and young people make mistakes. I want to help,
If you can call whoever gave birth to you begg them to come home tell them you made a mistake and I imagine your home life must have been pretty rough for you to have done something like this but your parents are better then this guy. I hope
WHatever you dooo dooo not get pregnant by this guy.
you came on here seeking help here it is all you gotta do is listen,
I can make only one gurantee your gonna have a miserable life if you stay with this guy.
You seem like a great girl to me you work then come home cook and clean while this bum lays around all day, I saw a crippled little person today he was walking with a horrible limp making his way to the train wearing his janitorial or mechanic overals complete with name badge, if he has a job what the hell is your husbands excuse, personaly think working sucks i mean if you have a girl working and taking care of you why work.
Listen its time you go home man if my sister was talking to some 34 yr old guy id well lets just say she is your age and it just wouldnt happen the way i see it you dont just throw the youth out to the wolves because they hit a certain age hell you cant even rent a car buy a drink or run for president how grown up can you be.
Now go call your mom so she can get oyu a plane tiket hopefully youll be home for christmas
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): I really think you should leave this guy alone and find yourself someone of your age because even if he was not sick and unemployed, he is way too old for you.
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reader, anotherjoeshmoe +, writes (22 December 2009):
It sounds like he is Bi- Polar (manic- depressive). It is a serious illness and he probably can't help the way that he's acting. If you really care about your relationship, then you should go see a psychiatrist (not psychologist) together. It will probably be expensive, but worth it in the long run to see a professional.
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