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writes:28 year old female. Three months ago I was heartbroken and had moved on. I feel like a complete different person. I'm happier, in control and excited about new challenges ahead.Although I'm free and single and I get asked out alot, I cannot bring myself to actually go to the dates that I unfortunately accept and last minute cancel or re-schedule.Eventually, I've decided not to date for a while and I know I got other priorities. But I'm a little bit confused with myself, eventhough I made the clear decision not to be "on the shelf" I also miss the male company. I've wondered when will I ever find someone I like again?I do wonder if I'm attracting the wrong men, it seems that the men that are interested in me are not my type. Perhaps, if I did attact the right men then it would be easier for me to fancy them and actually go on a date...Have I become too picky? have I set me standards too high? am I JUST pushing them away?I don't know! Have you ever thought the same??? Is this some kind of healing process??? am I damaged goods???
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Emilymarie, it makes a lot more sense and sadly, I'm glad other people go through it. It make the whole thing abit more normal than it was lol. Thanks again and hope you your special man will find you soon.
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reader, emilymarie26  +, writes (24 October 2009):
I am in the exact same situation! After an awful breakup from a year and a half long relationship, I decided to just not date for a while and get my life back on track. That's done now, and I've been considering the idea of dating, but I just haven't found anyone worth my time yet.You aren't being picky, you just know what you do and don't want! Now that you're in touch with yourself and your personal needs in a relationship, maybe you're subconsciously pushing away the guys who just won't stack up, men who will just end in heartbreak or disappointment. Could be the case that although your brain is mentally preparing you for the idea of dating, you aren't ready for it yet emotionally. Just don't force yourself into spending time with someone you really don't want to.
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