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writes:So I just wanted some input from a guys perspective ideally . (Ladies, you can comment too. So I'm in my early 20s and this coworker of mine is 10 years older. He works in the same department of mine and he's a musician. A singer/songwriter and I am too. He ended up looking up my music place before anyone at work did. It was almost like he heard I was a musician through someone and did some extras research to find me. I didn't even notice until I met him that he was the same person who liked my page. Then I finally introduced myself to him. He started to office onsey me and flirt with me. I started inviting him to go on breaks with me and I became more and more attracted to him. He has a girlfriend and i have a boyfriend. He never mentioned his girlfriend to me. Whenever he would pass by me he would say "hey (my name)." I ended up getting engaged and after that I started to not go out of my way to talk to him and sort if ignore him. He would still try to chat me though. He knows I got engaged too.Now I'll see him in the lunch room sometimes ( my scheduled lunch changed to his scheduled lunch) and when I do he gives me that undivided attention eye contact the entire time. He's stopped chatting me and when he sees me he only says "hey" without saying my name. For example today he said "hey, have a good night.". I never greeted him by his name so maybe he is coming me? Maybe he's playing hard to get? Or maybe he finally understands I'm engaged. I still have a feeling he has a bit if a crush on me. What do you think?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 February 2014):
 I think if he ever had a crush on you, he's pretty much over it by the recent way he's been acting towards you. There, problem solved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I'm just wondering. I did not invite him on lunches. Just short breaks sometimes. And yes he would flirt me and hound me and ask me to lunch all that I have shot down. I'm just curious because honestly I like to dissect personality traits because its interesting to me. Did i once say I was attracted to him and think this could blossom into something more? My fiancee and I would be a whole seperate story that I could focus on. Keys just focus on the topic at hand. Maybe i wasn't detailed enough on here failed to mention just how much he was hounding me. I don't like the attention, just wondering what his intentions are.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (4 February 2014):
 You need to decide if this flirting and attention is worth risking your fiancé. Also you need to find another job and keep your distance from this guy if you decide you want to stay with your fiancé.
I cannot see any future happiness in this crush and you risk losing your fiancé and termed a home wrecker as he has a GF. Move on, no point in dreaming as it will turn into a nightmare.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2014): You are engaged, he hasn't made a move. Doesn't sound like there is much going on here to me. YOU introduced yourself and YOU invited him to lunches. He's not done anything, he's just gone along with it... 'Maybe he's playing hard to get?' Playing hard to get? Do you want him to ask you out when you're engaged? I don't think he is, I don't think he's that interested.'Or maybe he finally understands I'm engaged'It doesn't sound like he didn't in the first place, he's not made a move on you. 'I still have a feeling he has a bit if a crush on me' Who cares, you are engaged and it doesn't sound like he's constantly hounding you or anything.I don't really understand what's going on here. Do you WANT him to like you? It sounds like you just want some attention. I would stop worrying or thinking about this guy and worry and think about your fiance instead. Honestly, you don't sound mature enough or secure enough in your relationship with your fiance to be getting married to anyone.
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