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*oldenchild
writes:I need some help with talking, opening up, and nervousness? Every time I attend to approach this girl lets call her Amber I freeze up or everything I was getting ready to say just disappears. I know I like her a lot and I've been working on self improvement for a while now and its helped a lot. I just can't seem to over come this procrastination of mines this freezing up as I call it. When I'm class with her I'm just in a trance. Lol I can't help it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2014): You are really wise.I tried to add a classmate of mine on FB.He freaked out and removed his page.I found the way he freaked out really funny though ..
All the best for tomorrow.I am a complete romantic.Your story seemed really sweet...Do keep us posted about what happened..It would be great to hear some happy ending
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reader, Goldenchild +, writes (4 February 2014):
Goldenchild is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks WiseOwlE. I wasn't planning on using Facebook I think that makes you scary and you can't develop any way using that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2014): Careful not to be too dependent on using Facebook, or texting! That's a way of encouraging yourself to hide.
You still have to develop the nerve to interact; and talk to her when you're around each other. She will look at you funny; if you're brave through social media, and speechless when face to face. Awkwardness comes from over-thinking. It gives you a brief paralysis; because too many things are in your head at once for anything to intelligently come out your mouth.
Use your natural charm. If you can get her to smile; allow that to give you courage. Smiles are a good sign.
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reader, Goldenchild +, writes (4 February 2014):
Goldenchild is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think your right a little bit Sugarplum about the expectations. I'll get a chance tomorrow.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (4 February 2014):
 If she is on face book or whatsapp , befriend her, Start chatting, so when you meet face to face it become natural. Try asking her to meet for coffee , start light and try just friendship, you are expecting too much on the first engagement hence the freezing.
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reader, Goldenchild +, writes (4 February 2014):
Goldenchild is verified as being by the original poster of the questionVery true I understand but how do I get rid of the awkwardness? I don't want to approach anyone else. I know I need to get over it and I'm willing to try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2014): What are you going to do once you get her attention?
If you're too nervous to even have an opening conversation with her; you're going to make her feel uneasy to notice that you're so awkward in her presence.
Bear in mind, she is going to expect you to carry on a conversation. If you're speechless just approaching her; perhaps you might need to approach someone you find less intimidating.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (4 February 2014):
 I think you just need more practice talking to women in general. The best way to do that is in a relaxed situation where there is no pressure. Like work, church, activity groups ect. There are no tricks. You just have to do it enough so it stops causing anxiety.
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