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writes:Just a quick question. If you thought that someone you know had heard a stupid rumour, which involved you and them, and it wasn't true, would you try and put things right?I don't know if this person i know has ever heard the rumour, but as they are quite popular i am presuming they have because ever since they have been very blunt and nasty with me. Its beginning to affect parts of my life. I want to put it right and tell them i've never ever said i hate them, which is the rumour.Would you try and tell them that they have been mis-informed?Even if it meant you might be disbelieved or just dismissed out of hand or worse, ignored?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, rocknroll  +, writes (25 May 2009):
I would do what i could to unravel the rumor, and also disclose the ones who started it. Don't get to mean about it, just set the reocrd straight.
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reader, slrbabes +, writes (25 May 2009):
 Is or was this person a friend before this happened? If not then don't bother. The bluntness and nastiness are most probably a way of getting some form of revenge. If they were a friend before-hand, then take them to one side and ask them for the reason they are acting like this? This person is probably hurt by what they have heard, and are more likely to forgive and forget if they are told the truth by you.
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (25 May 2009):
Eh, i would say try to talk to them one time. Give it one chance. They may believe you, they may not.
All you can do is tell them "look, i know this is out there, and it's NOT TRUE."
From there they have to make a decision on whether they believe you or no, and it's out of your hands.
All you can do after that is go about your life and try not to worry about what other people think or say.
The sad reality is people are ALWAYS going to talk, and not everyone in the world is going to like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): Giving attention to a rumor often gives new life to it and makes it bigger, not lessens it. Leave it be and hold your head high. If someone said you were a purple grasshopper would you run around trying to convince people you weren't?
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