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writes:Hi, Could any of you take someone back who messed you around in the past? I was with someone for 3 weeks, not very long I know, but we connected straight away and we were fairly intimate. I really liked her a lot, and we would chat on IM at work all day and text each other during the evenings. One evening she tells me that her ex wants her back and shes confused about who she wants to be with. I left her alone for 5 days, but she still couldn't decide who to be with. I decided to end it with her as she still had feelings for him. Would anyone give her a second chance if she ever came back because it didn't work out with her ex ? (again), or would you be too worried that it will happen again in the near future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice, and yeah I do feel like i'm on standby, which is why i'm finding it hard to move on. It feels like the relationship shouldn't of ended and maybe I should of put up a fight instead of walking away.
I'm not sure if I could ever trust her again tho, when I first met her she told me she had a lot of male friends, I didn't think anything of it at the time tho.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): I might, but I'd have to be damned sure that she was finally over with her ex. Sounds like she can't make her mind up and you're on standby just in case things don't work out with her ex.
I think you were right to end it. Three people in a relationship doesn't usually work too well. I'd get on with my life if I were you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): I went through sorta the same thing about a year ago with my current boyfriend.
He asked me out, we went to the movies, and as soon as we got there, his ex was there waiting for him.
I kinda let that slide since they had just broken up.
He asked me to be his girlfriend,
then during our maybe a week and a half relationship he broke up with me, then i find out he cheated on me.
Not to big of a deal, it still sucked though, so i deffiantly know how you feel.
But we got back together a couple months after that and we've been together for about a year now and things are going pretty good, i dont regret giving him a second chance at all.
So i say, go for it.
Talk to her about it, make sure she's completely over her ex and let her know you're not playing games. It's you or him.
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