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Would you share your resume with a coworker?

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Question - (12 December 2013) 6 Answers - (Newest, 13 December 2013)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

A coworker of mine who I talk to frequently was promoted to my previous position couple of months ago. Although we are in the same building, I also got promoted and work on another floor.

I have helped her across the way when she emails me with various questions concerning my previous position.

Last week, we she sent me another email which reads "Hi ...., can you please send me a copy of your resume which includes the work I am doing right now. No, I am not looking for another job, I just need to update my resume for my re-certification. Since you have done the same work before, I didn't think I should reinvent the wheel. I understand if you don't feel comfortable to share"

I don't know what you all think about this. I have never asked anyone for their resume And If I do, it will be a family member or someone I am really close to.

I appreciate that this lady feels and says that I was a big shoe to fill and the fact that she almost want to follow my footstep but isn't a resume personal?

Should I or should I not?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2013):

If you have it, you can send her only one section of the resume, the part she wants help with.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2013):

She needs to think for herself and present herself on her own CV. and she may be trying to compete with you. its not reinventing the wheel, it's describing the job as she, rather than you, sees it. don't fall for her flattery.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (12 December 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntPersonally I WOULD, but that being said... the reason is because of the type of job I have and the openness of our salaries and positions (I work for a very large federal agency). Everyone knows what everyone makes... and what the job descriptions entail.

I think I would help a friend in private industry but I'm not so sure about an up and coming person.

Although the fact that she said she understood if you said no tells me she knows she's slightly over the top in asking.

Personally I would ask too if i felt insecure about my resume generating skills.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (12 December 2013):

Honeypie agony auntNope, I have DONE that in the past and the person (who was a friend) applied for the same position as me. And worst of all she lied about it.

I helped her out so much with her resume, how to word it in a better way, how to make it look better, more organized and she turned around and applied for the same job I was applying for, one that I had waited 1 1/2 to apply for.

Neither of us got it, but I dropped her as a friend.

YOUR resume is personal.

I would tell her to mail her hers and you can look it over and come up with suggestions, but nope I would NOT let someone have my resume so they can basically copy it.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (12 December 2013):

YouWish agony auntIf I were in your position, and this co-worker and I were in a good working relationship where she's come through for me and vice versa, I'd copy and paste the wording of the specific job experience of the resume to email to her. Since we both shared the job, I'd copy the text of that shared job.

If she was simply looking for an idea about how to word the job experience, then that would be sufficient. As for the entire resume, I agree with you. I wouldn't send an entire resume to her.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2013):

There is no right or wrong answer. I've swapped my resume with friends before. But that was because we both wanted something we wanted from each other and we are not direct competition.

If you are not comfortable don't do it because yes, it is personal.

What I would say to her is that you are happy to have a look at her CV and answer any questions she may have for you. Your CV is your intellectual property and as such, you have no obligation to share it.

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