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male
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36-40,
*etsgofishing
writes:My mother is diagnosed of a disease and lives in a different part of the country. I usually fly out to meet her.I have one good friend in my city. since my mother has been sick, i have not felt like being very social. this friend has been getting very insecure and jealous and feels i am purposely not giving time to the friendship. i have told him several times that it is because of my mom and i am not in a mood to have fun. for some reason it doesn't sink into him. he constantly accuses me of doing things with others and not caring for him. it is not like i am having fun with others as well. but he feels i am lying as i do give time to other things/hobbies i like to do since it gets my mind off of things. our friendship died down because of all of this.would you ever forgive him if he sincerely realizes and apologizes?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 With friends like that, who needs enemies?
If he comes round and sincerely wants to be a true friend, take the high road, but it sounds like he is being uncaring.
He's not being a friend.
I'm so sorry about your mom, and I do hope things work out for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): He is being selfish and only thinking of himself. Has he actually apologized or are you hoping he will?
Forgiveness is a personal thing. It comes from the heart.
It's more of a feeling than an action. You have to come to terms with that.
I am very sorry about your mother. It is understandable that this is having an affect on you and your social life. It is also understandable that you need to have something to take your mind off it at times such as a hobby or something you like to do. There is a huge difference between that and going out and socializing!
If he can't understand that, then he's a self-centered, selfish person! Friends need to rally around the friend at a time such as this!
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reader, letsgofishing +, writes (16 February 2009):
letsgofishing is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe actually even told me i do not think you are bothered even if your mom dies. you just don't want to give me time and you are using it as an excuse.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (16 February 2009):
I would forgive your friend if he were to apologize, as long as it is a sincere apology.
I feel bad for you because your friend doesn't seem understanding or supportive.
I hope your mom will be all right.
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