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writes:I ask, because a lot of women say they prefer bad boys to so-called nice guys.Is a bad boy someone who who has a harley, wears a leather jacket and sleeps around, or is it a sociopath? Would you date a sociopath knowing how confident and how handsome many are?What is a nice guy. Someone who treats women right, buys them gifts but doesn't go overboard and occasionally expects the women to pay on a date. Someone who would like a GF/wife but can happily live on their own and doesn't care that much.Or is a nice guy a doormat? Someone who can't live without some female attention. Crys like a woman and acts like a woman.So tell me, what is a bad boy and what is a nice guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010):
It's all a game of evolution.
Women are designed to get themselves pregnant with the children of alpha males. They are designed to look for beta males as husbands to do the providing & raising of those kids she's had (and sometimes still having) with alphas.
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reader, Appelle  +, writes (18 March 2010):
I think a bad boy is quite simply a man who is bad. A sociopath does not mean someone who is adulterous or mean such as most bad boys are. Some bikers can really nice and faithful, so interests and clothes can not be the defining factor. Also, I think that bad boys are often unintelligent and only get what they want through force.
Nice guys are nice but usually push overs. Which is okay at first but, studies have shown that women in steady relationships and/or at different times during menstruation want someone more dominate. It is a survival trait.
However, if I was not married I would date a sociopath, but not a bad boy. I think it would work with my personality.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1617143/ ---This is a link to an article on dominate men and why women are more attracted to them sometimes.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (18 March 2010):
 To me, I've always associated "bad boys" as like you mentioned - the leather jacket-wearing, motorcycle-riding man who is a ladies' man and doesn't respect his woman; lies, gets what he wants, sleeps around, etc.I assume a "nice guy" is a kind, considerate man who puts his woman's needs ahead of his. Is sympathetic and there for her when she needs him, is monogomous, does little kind things, like hold the door open for her, that sort of thing.I would never date a "bad boy" regardless if he was drop-dead gorgeous. I've always been a "nice guy"-type of girl.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 I wouldn't date a sociopath. I only found out what a sociopath is after having a relationship with one. A sociopath gives women a feeling of 2 unique people against the world, partners in crime; while a nice guy tries to conform to social standards and do the right thing. A bad boy knows how to push a woman's button and get her naked in one day. That does not necessarily mean he is not capable of loving and committing.A nice guy waits until the woman assumes he's just not interested or does not have the guts to ask her out. That does not necessarily mean his sex drive is not as high as the bad guy. The perfect guy gets the best of both worlds. Sexy, charming, yet patient, loyal and sensitive to women's feelings.
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