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writes: Guys: Suppose a woman is over a certain age... say 25, or 30... and has never been in a long-term relationship. Let's say that she simply never found the right person, and had bad luck with a series of guys.Are her odds of EVER finding love pretty slim? If this woman was one of your friends, and you found out she'd never had a relationship or had full-blown intercourse, would it affect your feelings for her?Would this run off a possible boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (31 May 2009):
Dont mention it until things get serious. At that point, who will run away from someone they like because of something small like history. Anyway, its not such a big deal for a guy (some will like it). If you had too guys in the past, then that may drive men away. I think you have nothing to worry about. PS i am in exactly the same position, but its worse for a guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): Thanks for your answer rhythm-n-blues.Even though I never confirmed that I was saving sex for marriage... it's just that I don't want to have sex with just anyone, and I haven't been in a relationship with someone I truly love.Most people my age are married, but I'm not sure if they loved the guy they married or if it happened by default (ie, "it's time to get married, and here is this decent person who is available") I'm very stubborn but I'm holding out for that person I truly love to pieces. Sometimes I lose hear, but I don't like to settle; I like to get my way. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): What matters is what you think of yourself and how you value yourself. Being a virgin at 25 is not a death sentence, never having had a long term relationship is not that rare maybe a little, but it certainly does not indicate to people that there is anything wrong with you.
If you give off a vibe that you are desperate instead of selective, that will run off a guy.
The positive side would be that you have not met the right person and you want to wait until marriage to have intercourse, it may be old fashioned, but many men secretly don't mind this at all....they want to feel that you want him and that you value him and that you put importance on yourself and your most intimate gift...
Nothing wrong with that.
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