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writes:I've already asked this question but I didn't outback detail in to it so I'm gonna try again! Is it wrong for me to be falling in love with my soon to be step uncle ? I've recently turned 18 and he's recently turned 21. My uncle is marrying his sister in December 2018! No we are not blood family and we didn't grow up together. I get along with his side of the family really well I talking to all of his sisters and looking after their kids so we get along really well, nothing has ever happened between us as I have a boyfriend when I met him which was this year btw. We have loads in common and we are always hanging out but it's been months of us hanging out together and I have started to fall in love with him. Nobody started it off we both just started flirting then hugging then holding hands then kissing not once has he mention sex or anything to do with sex. I forgot he was going to be family soon so I spoke to him and asked him if it's wrong for us to be kissing and everything and his reply was, "We ain't blood related. We ain't doing anything wrong" and all that then he said when the time is right we will tell people. I don't have a mom or dad to ask these sort of this to so this is my best option! Should I stop things now or do I carry on?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 November 2017):
 I can understand why your uncle might feel a bit unhappy but it is your life and your business. I am happy that you have told your family and I hope all goes well for you.
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reader, Katie1999xox +, writes (19 November 2017):
Katie1999xox is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just want to say thank you to all the answer.
Little update we told the family and Everyone but my uncle is happy about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2017): There is nothing wrong with it. You could think of the potential consequences of furthering a relationship with a relative-in-law. It would kind of be like a workplace romance, where if you end up hating each other, you would still have to see each other and be cordial at family events. That can be tough.
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reader, holeymoley  +, writes (19 November 2017):
 Go for it. Hope it works out for both of you. There is nothing wrong or sordid about this. Apart from not being blood related there is enough degree of separation to tell any one interested in voicing their opinion to mind it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2017): You've pretty much done everything but have sex already. He's not blood-related, and you don't have any parents to answer to. You asked the same question, and the answers are the same.
There is nothing wrong with what's going on. It might raise a few eyebrows among the people who are judgemental; but that isn't likely to stop you anyway.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (18 November 2017):
 OP, these details could just have been added to your last. The responses won't really change.
Just tell your family - don't hide it. Keeping any relationship a secret is a bad idea.
As for sex, he may not have mentioned it yet, but please make sure you're prepared for safe sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2017): You are not blood related and your ages are suitableso I can't see any reason why you shouldn't be together. The only problem is that if the relation between your uncle and his sister go sore it can effect yours too.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (18 November 2017):
 There is absolutely NOTHING - legal or otherwise - to stop you two from having a relationship. If your uncle hadn't met the lady he is marrying, you two would possibly not even have met.
Some family members may, however, find it a bit "keeping it in the family" though so you need to be ready to point out, calmly and politely, that you are in no way related and that, had your uncle not met this guy's sister, there would not have been any family connection.
If your relationship works out, the other relationships could become a bit complicated (and fun to explain). For instance, your aunt could also be your sister in law, and your uncle could also be your brother in law. However, that is way down the line and, honestly, not a reason not to see where this relationship takes you.
Good luck.
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