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Would this be termed as cheating???

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Question - (4 November 2008) 10 Answers - (Newest, 5 November 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

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A man (who is in a relationship) secretly stays in touch with another woman who he knows loves him and is forever showering him with gifts (but doesn't ask her for anything more - ie sex).

So would you say this man is cheating on his partner?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008):

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Thanks for all of your answers!! - I would like to give him an ultimatum but fear I may lose him altogether!! (Not that I really have him in the first place)!!

But a man who is not after sex!?!! - That is a rare thing & I can only assume he is getting enough at home - right guys?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008):

hi there

funny you should ask this question, because I have a man who claims he is still in love with me. He hasnt seen me in 14 years and has a girlfriend of 2 years. He wants to see me and I refuse until he leaves his girlfriend. He says marriage is a possibility, yet he needs to make the move.

Yearning for someone is one thing, You have to realize that: unless he makes that important step, he is not truthfully wanting you...men always want something they cant have..

I want this man more than anything, but my morals say that what he is doing is wrong wrong wrong.

He is cheating himself, and is not being honest to you.

Give him an ultimatum, and break off ties.. until he can be a man.

hope it helps.

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A female reader, Cherriepie United States +, writes (5 November 2008):

Cherriepie agony auntif they are not having sex its not cheating.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008):

No, it's not cheating as such. But, it is taking advantage of a persons feelings towards him in a despicable way.

It's deceitful, abhorent and immoral, but not (IMO) cheating.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008):

i do believe if she is showering him with gifts,its because he has given her hope of something more this is cheating

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008):

Yes, I would regard it as cheating.

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (4 November 2008):

eddie agony auntYes it's cheating. He's fueling a fantasy that is based on desire, lust etc. It is not something that is beneficial to the primary relationship. He's pumping up his ego with attention from another woman.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008):

Rabbit to turtle: Where are you going?

turtle:Antarctica

Rabbit:But that's so far

turtle:But the journey of a million miles begins with a single step

I rest my case.

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A female reader, undamaged  United States +, writes (4 November 2008):

i think it not cheating but its pretty dam close it a very uninpropitate realationship that should never contiune they know the others intention and by stay friend with the lady its giving them signals of hope or something more

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A female reader, Miss Potter United Kingdom +, writes (4 November 2008):

Miss Potter agony auntI would be baffed as to why is this man spending money on this woman and not on his wife...

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