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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all of your answers!! - I would like to give him an ultimatum but fear I may lose him altogether!! (Not that I really have him in the first place)!!
But a man who is not after sex!?!! - That is a rare thing & I can only assume he is getting enough at home - right guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): hi therefunny you should ask this question, because I have a man who claims he is still in love with me. He hasnt seen me in 14 years and has a girlfriend of 2 years. He wants to see me and I refuse until he leaves his girlfriend. He says marriage is a possibility, yet he needs to make the move. Yearning for someone is one thing, You have to realize that: unless he makes that important step, he is not truthfully wanting you...men always want something they cant have..I want this man more than anything, but my morals say that what he is doing is wrong wrong wrong. He is cheating himself, and is not being honest to you.Give him an ultimatum, and break off ties.. until he can be a man.hope it helps.
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reader, Cherriepie  +, writes (5 November 2008):
 if they are not having sex its not cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): No, it's not cheating as such. But, it is taking advantage of a persons feelings towards him in a despicable way.
It's deceitful, abhorent and immoral, but not (IMO) cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): i do believe if she is showering him with gifts,its because he has given her hope of something more this is cheating
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Yes, I would regard it as cheating.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (4 November 2008):
 Yes it's cheating. He's fueling a fantasy that is based on desire, lust etc. It is not something that is beneficial to the primary relationship. He's pumping up his ego with attention from another woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Rabbit to turtle: Where are you going?
turtle:Antarctica
Rabbit:But that's so far
turtle:But the journey of a million miles begins with a single step
I rest my case.
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reader, undamaged +, writes (4 November 2008):
i think it not cheating but its pretty dam close it a very uninpropitate realationship that should never contiune they know the others intention and by stay friend with the lady its giving them signals of hope or something more
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (4 November 2008):
 I would be baffed as to why is this man spending money on this woman and not on his wife...
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