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writes:I've recently met a guy over the internet, who I've developed feelings for and he's also developed them for me. We've only known each other for about a month, but we are having a long distance relationship. The problem is, I was worried about sexual predators, so I didn't use pictures of myself when I sent them to him. I'm actually pretty, but I was just afraid of the many creeps that use the internet. We don't live close to one another, so we never see each other, which means the relationship is mainly based on personality anyways. Also, there's a large age difference (I'm 14, he's 24), but my mature level exceeds my age, so that never seems to be an issue. Should I quickly reveal that I lied about my appearance and let him see the real me or should I lead into it? Please voice your opinion of how I should handle this. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Did you lie about your age, too? Does he know you're 14.
I notice people are automatically assuming the guy is a sicko because he's 24. Don't jump the gun people, you don't know the entire story.
Bottom line: You lied. That's crap. You don't lie. A relationship built on lies--is not a relationship.
He's 24.
Right now, you're too young to be in a relationship with someone in their 20's. In 4 years, if you're still talking---go for it.
Don't lie. It's not at all attractive. It's wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): I'm very impressed that you had the foresight to keep your photo off the site and not let people see how you look.
If he knows you are only 14 then this sounds dangerous. Keep yourself safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Okay if you've only been talking for a month and he's that much older than you then you shouldn't send him a pic. You either wait a little bit longer until you get to know him better but to be honest he sounds like a sexual predator and I think you should be really careful. He's way to old for you no matter how mature you think you may be.
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reader, Anarchy666 +, writes (4 November 2008):
If he REALLY honestly likes you then he wont care what you look like he'l just be happy talking to you and getting to no you better. If you send it and hes mean or is'nt the same towards you you'l no hes shallow but I doubt thats the case if you started messeging each other before you sent the pic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): My honest opinion is this: you are too young to be involved with a 24-year-old. If you were 18 and he 28, that would be another story...but someone who is dating barely pubescent girls at his age should be a red flag to you to wonder why he can't or won't get with someone his own age and goes online to hit on young girls. Please be careful
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