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writes:Is this a good way to lose my viginity?My friends gave me advice for this: have him go down on me until i orgasm, and then we have sex and he gets off and I possibly get off more. I love the idea, but I've never had a guy go down on me either. How would I ask for something like this and not be awkward?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 August 2016):
 Blimey! Not sure who the anonymous female is but not EVERYONE's first time experience is as painful as she is trying to scare you into believing! Yes, it can be a bit uncomfortable, especially if you are not turned on enough, or your partner is too quick or rough (or even large), but it certainly shouldn't be as painful as that post. If it is, someone is doing it wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2016): Oh boy.You really need to educate yourself about how the first time really is.It is way better to wait until you are in love and have a patient man.He will have to know when to stop and go real slow why I will not sugar coat this like everyone else here does but let me tell you you are going to hurt.your first time and maybe even a few after it is gonna hurt and hurt so much you have no idea.you will not cum you will scream and maybe even cry in pain.it does get way better but you need to understand you will have pain like you have never felt beforehand better to have someone who really loves you help you through it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 August 2016):
 One thing I also want to point out...
Not every guy wants to go down on a girl. So have a set notion a to how you think it should go down may not work.
Why make it a hook-up? Why do with with someone you don't really give two F's about?
It's NOT like there is an expiration date on "virginity". There is no hurry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2016): Thanks for your answers all. I got this advice from female friends. I'm fine with a hookup; I've been waiting so long but it was due to health reasons, not really any romantic ideals.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (27 August 2016):
 If I understand this right, the 'friends' are gf and the 'him' is hypothetical atm? Because I agree, if this suggestion was from a male friend it's more self serving then for your benefit. If not heres my advice, why not wait till the opportunity comes about more naturally because, to me, it would be less awkward and more fluid. In my experience, most guys love oral sex and make their way down there at some point without the need for words.
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 August 2016):
 There's not point having sex with someone just for the sake of it just to lose your virginity because you're probably going to regret it afterwards.
Just wait until you feel the time is right and with someone you want to lose it to. It's not a game who can lose it the quickest, just relax.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (27 August 2016):
I am puzzled. Is this a specific (male) friend suggesting this, or are your friends saying this is the best way to lose your virginity with some generic male?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 August 2016):
Your friend wants to have sex, that is why HE mentioned it.
Why would YOU want your first time to be with someone who is JUST a friend? You DO realize that having sex doesn't mean he will want to date you afterwards, right?
Why not wait till you met someone you CARE for in a ROMANTIC way and who CARES for you in return, and not just a friend how is hoping to get a notch in his bedpost by having sex with you?
And honestly, OP... There is no guarantee that you will get off from him.
What is the hurry to have sex?
It sounds like a meaningless "hump" to me.
And I do think you will regret it down the line, having your first time with someone who doesn't love you and whom you don't really love.
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