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writes:Hi, a question for the men:-Is a man who is into casual sex with a girl, always interested in having it with that person?If I turned a man down for sex for whatever reason - whether it was because the time wasn't right, or I wasn't sure he was the right person etc etc, would the same person be suddenly be interested If I said yes to him in a few days or weeks time, if I was ready then? Or does pride get the better of them? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 November 2014):
 If all he wants is sex, why wouldn't he say yes to casual sex even IF you turned him down previously?
However, I think YOU want more, and HOPE that by HAVING sex he will want more too... YOU will be SORELY disappointed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2014): A guy dead-set on having sex has a one-track mind. It certainly depends on the type of guys you're into. Aggressive-types don't really like to be strung along, intellectual-types don't play games; and easy-going types, like myself, know when we're being manipulated. It depends on your motives, and what signals you're sending out.
A man who thinks with his penis doesn't worry about second chances with the same lady; he'll just go find one who's willing then and there. He might try again for the thrill of the challenge. Maybe.
In response to your question directly; it certainly depends on the timing and circumstances.
Just because a girl puts out the first time doesn't make her a bad-girl. Just because she holds-out doesn't make her necessarily a good one. Pride is an emotion. Feelings don't come into play when a fella is out for a one-night stand.
Both sexes should take their time to consider if you're both on the same page. Not just as far as sex goes; but whether or not someone will attach feelings to the act, and someone might not. You both have to be on the same page.
It's not necessarily about pride whether or not he gives you a second chance. It's about how he really feels about you, or just how determined he is to get into your panties. I guess you have to follow your own judgement and gut-feeling. If you turn him down, he might not try again if sex was all he was interested in.
I don't think a horny guy is overly-sensitive about the rejection per-say. He gets pissed if he gets turned down after being teased along. His pride has nothing to do with that. No one, male or female likes to be played along. If he knows there is the possibility of a rain-check, and he really thinks you're cute. He'll be a gentleman, and respect your wishes and ask you on a date.
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reader, Anonny +, writes (29 November 2014):
Anonny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks - he knows I still like him - but he seems less keen these days - possibly because he's found a stop gap. I don't want to come across desperate either - or it may scare him off completely!!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (29 November 2014):
Someone that's interested in easy sex will probably still be interested in it later. If he had a desire for something more that's another story.
You'll probably have to make it very clear that you're willing because he may not try again, he might assume you're still not interested.
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