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anonymous
writes: my boyfriend and i split up after he cheated over one year ago we stayed together for months but it just blew up we're now trying to fix things again to get back together, i have depts and mortgage do you think he should help me out if we live together and what would be a far deal if any for both of us?
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reader, Darlingluv +, writes (4 February 2011):
As long as you both are on the same page, this could probably work out. But please don't reconcile on the strength of you needing help with your debt. As long as the love is there ( and it's mutual) and he's really hurt by the break up, then why not give it a shot. Good luck.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (3 October 2010):
he should pay you rent, but dont let him get his name on the deeds. anyway this sounds like it will all end in tears...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 October 2010):
This sounds like a mess. A big mess. He cheated, it blew up and ended, and now you're thinking about getting back together. Why? What if it goes wrong and you're left with even more debt or something. What if he does it again? Why did he cheat in the first place? There seem to be a lot of problems here, so please think very carefully about whether you want to get back together.
If you do, and you live together, then he should pay something towards the mortgage if he lives in your house. Your debts (i.e. credit cards, car etc) are your own and he shouldn't have to pay for them (one would hope he would help if you needed it).
But like I say, think carefully before you move in together.
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