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writes:Hi Everyone,I'm 23 years-old, and I'll be graduating with my Masters degree in May. I've generally kept to the "straight and narrow," so to speak--I almost always follow the rules, I've only had sex with one person (an ex bf), I do don't drugs, etc, etc. However, recently I've been thinking about being a nude model for art classes. I'll be moving to a new, big city in a few months, and I thought it could be a fun way to make some extra money, to appreciate art, and to improve the way I feel about my body. I would only do this for a real art course--not for an individual or anything like that.Both the nude models I've talked to and the artists I know who have drawn nudes have said that it is not a sexual thing, as the students were very focused on their drawings.However, I'm worried that if I do this, I might regret it in the future. My ex said he wouldn't like it if I did that because he didn't want others to see my body. His opinion doesn't matter to me now, but I am worried that a future partner would be upset to find out that I had done nude modeling, even if it was artistic and non-sexual.So, aunts and uncles, what do you think? Would you be upset to find out a partner was a nude model, or wouldn't you care? Should I go ahead and do it anyway, and hope that a future partner won't care? Or should I be more careful about it?Thank you!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): I modeled nude in the art college, and met my husband there. BUT, when we got engaged he was firm about me not modeling anymore. And I stoped, I didn't want to upset him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 February 2014):
 I think it'd be cool too.
I drew nudes (took art classes) and we had some gorgeous models and some really average (even one plump 60+ lady who was amazingly sweet and graceful as a model).
IT is DEFINITELY not about sex.
One of our model had her husband watch. He even bought a couple of the sketches because he was so impressed.
We've had couples pose together (non sexual poses) and they both wore undies (she wore her bra too).
Screw what your ex thinks.
IF you want to try it, then GO for it.
IF a guy you meet later on has a problem with it, MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, he isn't for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): I'm an art student. Having a nude model is only meant as an educational lesson. Artists need to explore all types of drawings, paintings, etc. I need to taking classes specifically designed to become aware of the human body. The person doing the modeling is getting paid. You know all they do is loose for students to draw or paint so why should that bother you? It's purely professional not porn related.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): Thanks Aunts and Uncles! (I'm the OP)
Frankly, I'm probably going to do it, because I want to!!
I just felt a bit torn…on the one hand, it seems silly to be afraid of doing things because they might upset a man I haven't even met yet…on the other hand, there has to be a line somewhere…If I wanted to be a stripper to make some extra money, the only reason I wouldn't do it is because my future husband would probably be upset about it. But if a future partner is upset about my modeling, then obviously he isn't the right person for me! As I certainly wouldn't care if the roles were reversed and he had been a model.
Also, yes, my ex was pretty controlling/possessive of me (one of the many reasons I left him).
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 February 2014):
I wouldn't care at all. In fact, if it gave you more confidence as you seem to be thinking that it would, then it's probably a good thing. A friend of mine once had a nude painting of herself done for her boyfriend, and whilst he loved it, she actually loved it more because it gave her a confidence boost.
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reader, llifton +, writes (2 February 2014):
 if my partner had told me in the past that she had been a nude model, i'd be intrigued. lol. i wouldn't be bothered at all! it wouldn't effect anything in the least bit.
as for if we were together while she was doing it? hmmm. i kinda see where you're ex is coming from about not wanting others to see you like that. at the same time, i'd also be super proud of her because it would do wonders for her self esteem! it takes a very secure person to do this. so i would completely support her! now if anyone tried to get her phone number afterwards?? i don't think so. lol.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (2 February 2014):
 I't would only bother me, if the pictures started showing up and she made it a whole thong that I would be caught in the middle of.
Also most people posing nude, don't think about who will be looking at the pictures.
There are loads of people you don't want seeing your body arn't there.
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reader, like I see it +, writes (2 February 2014):
 It would not bother me in the slightest unless I was a virgin seeking a fellow virgin... then it might be a bit of a gray area.
But I would describe myself as quite open-minded, and I also go to nude beaches every now and again - basically public nudity I'm not even being paid for :) It's not something I've ever concealed from a partner and none of them have had an issue with it.
That said, it is inevitable that some potential partners would be put off by this. Not knowing your upbringing and religious background, it's hard to say whether you're any more or less likely to date uptight men who would judge you for being naked before others in a non-sexual way. But they are out there. If you want every man you come across* to be a potential partner, don't do it.
*Some of the guys morally "strict" enough to care about art modeling will already have ruled out dating you right off the bat, based on the fact you have had a partner before them.
But if you are OK with weeding out the guys who would throw a fit over the fact that a group of men and women saw you partially or fully unclothed in the context of an art class, more power to you. I know that if I knew a guy held that kind of attitude it would be a turn-off for me in terms of wanting to date him - but again, I'm probably in the minority. We live in a culture where it's perfectly acceptable to see all kinds of violence and criminal activity on daytime TV, but heaven forbid a woman dare to expose the breasts that enable her to nurture new life. Ridiculous...
Anyway, good luck with your decision and best wishes whatever you choose :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (2 February 2014):
 I wouldn't care at all, I think it's way cool. I nude modeled in college and had a positive experience, a lot of my friends (male, female, all shapes and sizes) have done it too. Seems a bit jealous and possessive to say no one else can see your body even in the context of an art class! Did he have a problem with you changing at the gym too?
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