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writes:Hello, I was wondering if anyone could help me...I am a 38 year old women who just had a set of twins boy and girl by my formal lover...We where never in a committed relationship, so when I got pregnant he wanted a abortion I chose not to..Well he just started coming in the babies lives they are only 2 months old...My question is this..Would it be wrong to not have nothing to do with him, since I can't get him to tell the truth about anything. He is already not keeping his word about when he will see them and just bought one item since there birth.. really hardly any support with caring for the babies. I'm trying to get my life together for me and the babies..and this guy keeps taking me in a tail spin.
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reader, lisalove +, writes (19 January 2010):
lisalove is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much for your help...I really needed your feedback on my situation..and helps to know people still care about others...your answers gave me strength to be stronger for my children...thank you again
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (18 January 2010):
 It wouldn't be wrong for you to have nothing to with him, its his own problem if he can't man up to take care of his babies. What would be wrong to do is to keep the children from him. You don't have to be in a relationship with him, but make sure there is a window of oppurtunity that allows him to be a father and see his children. He may not change, but he is their father, so let him visit them and such. But don't wait around for him, if he's not going to be on time. If he says he's going to come and he doesnt come within a half hour of the time he said he would, then simply go about your business. If he tries to give excuses, and state that he was there, tell him that if he's going to show up he needs to be on time (and if he's more than a half hour late, well then thats just absurd.) and if he's running late, then he simply needs to tell you. Now all it takes is phone call or txt msg, not horribly difficult.I hope that helped good luck and best wishes to you and your babies!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 January 2010):
I can see why you're worried. Well done for sticking up for your beliefs and having the children. I'm just sorry your partner is so truly worthless. I think you best option would be to speak to a lawyer. Normally, I would say it's important to have a father in children's lives. But having had a crap father myself, I know it would have been better without him. I think you should speak to a lawyer and see what can be done.
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