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writes:There's a girl I really like in my school, (I'm a freshman in high school) and she likes me too, but her parents won't let her date until next year when she turns sixteen. What should I do? Should I date other girls? Would it be weird if I waited a whole year whilst her knowing I liked her that whole time and no one else? I'm in no hurry for help, and it's not that big a deal if I don't get any, but it's nice to hear another person's opinion or solution to the matter. Reply to this Question
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 November 2014):
Since most kids date whether their parents like it or not, it may be an excuse. Obviously you wouldn't be able to have a relationship outside of school but a non intimate relationship in school doesn't seem out of the question.
Either that or she's a good girl and actually listens to her parents.
I think if you really like her you can wait for now. Then if, while you're waiting you start to really like someone else you can reevaluate the situation.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 November 2014):
 I'm going to depart from Honey's advice a bit. Not that her advice is wrong, but Let's look at it from her parents point of view. They have a rule that is not all that unusual, no dating until 16. One of the reasons for that rule is to keep Teens from getting too attached too soon. So if you just "wait" for a whole year, you would essentially be in an exclusive non-dating relationship with her. If she returns your affection then she would be breaking the spirit of her parents rule if not the letter.
So can you deal with being exclusive with her when she is not allowed to be exclusive to you? What if she isn't ready to be exclusive yet?
My advice is to have lots of friends, both girls and boys. Put off Exclusive dating until you are in a position to make a long term commitment. say 18, 22, 27, As honey said What is the big Hurry? I think teens (16 - 21) should date non exclusively. I know that in much of western society there is no word for dating without an exclusive relationship. Back in the day we just called it dating.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 November 2014):
 I wouldn't date someone else if SHE is the one you really like, that would be fair to whomever girl you "date".
Is there a big hurry for you to date? Or is it important for you to date someone/anyone?
I know the classmates of both my 14 year old and 12 year old daughter "date" which seems a little early for me to be really dating.
If you over the next year decide that there IS another girl you actually like better and WANT to date, then why not?
My advice don't be in such a hurry to do grown up things. Plenty of time ahead to do them.
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