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writes: Hi I am gettting married in August this year. My partner is my soul mate and best friend and I really do love him. We have a great future together.But, I have always fancied one of his best friends. There is a chemistry between us, and it came to light not so long ago that he feels the same way and he would like to take us a step futher with no strings attached. I really do want to go there just the once as I am going to be married for a long time and if I just get this out of the system I would feel better. We phone each other on a regular basis and exchange texts and have snogged but it just makes me want him more. Please help, I dont know what to do? Should I or shouldnt I? I am desperate!!!
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (23 May 2005):
I gotta go with emah on this. I'm not saying it's wrong to have two men, if they are both alright with it. I doubt this would be the case with your fiancee, since most people planning on getting married don't swing like that. Going for this ruins your integrity, and is a very bad way to start off a marriage. This is just like when us guys want to have a bachelor party, then end up banging a stripper the day before their wedding. Odds are you would suffer extreme shame and already have one dark secret locked away from your new husband. No way to justify it, unless he is cool with the deal. Please for his sake and your own reconsider.
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reader, emah +, writes (20 May 2005):
It's a fantasy and there will be many more in your lifetime. Control yourself, and if you can't, then maybe you're not ready for marriage. But hey if you wouldn't care if he slept with your friend or if he has been calling her on the side then who cares? Some best friend and soul mate you are.
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