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writes: Valentines is coming i'm in the middle of a divorce but the other women that i was with won't let me see her; she figures if she stays away i,ll get back with my wife it,s not gonna happen. I know this women has true feelings for me. I don,t want to push her away but do you think if i,d send her flowers and not roses for valentines with a small note that i appreciate her for doing what she,s doing would be ok? need some feed back
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI THINK TONIGHT MIGHT BE A GOOD NIGHT TO GO TO THE BAR AND DROWN MY SORROWS anyone from winnipeg want to come
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell she received the flowers and was thankful which I THOUGHT YAHOU but she wouldn,t text me back all night I wait for something so when I text her that I was gone to bed thats when she text me back i think she may actually have been out with someone else so I laid it all out I asked her if she new how I felt for her and she said yes then I told her that I couldn,t take it anymore I feel like I,M hanging from a frayed rope ready to fall I told her that I want to keep her out of the divorce proceedings and i,d give her some time if thats what she needs the only thing is she has to give some kind of hint because I,M falling apart and I told her that i love her and that I NEVER FELT LIKE THIS FOR ANYONE ELSE BEFORE EVEN MY WIFE i LOVED HER but not with the passion i love this one WELL she crushed my heart this morning she told me I had pushed to hard and she never wants to hear from me again now I,V TAKEN THE AFTERNOON OFF BECAUSE i just CAN,T FUNCTION I called a counsellor because NOW I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO dam what have I done to my life
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell I sent her flowers and chocolates for valentimes not roses but carnations green one because green is her favorite color and pink ones 18 to be exact with a card telling her that( I appreciate her friendship and all the talks we,ve had THANK YOU ) A buddy of mine says it almost sounds like a good buy note I didn,t want to be pushy but tomorrow will tell all if she thanks me we,ll be ok if she,s mad at me I think as much as it will hurt I gonna have towalk away while I,M still sane what do you think come on ladies I need your imput
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy can't you? Explain to me. Will the flowers I am sending hurt my relationship with her? Does this show like I'm pushing?
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reader, As it is  +, writes (11 February 2008):
Sounds like she could be fighting between her heart and her head. I'd leave her to come around in her own time. Send her a card telling her that it's her you want and you'll wait until she's ready, then back off and give her the time and space she needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): now i am in the situation of the girl u mentioned, for me m really confuse dont know what to do i love him and i want him to be mine but i cant
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlast night I talk to her on the phone and she had a few drinks she told me she wouldn,t be able to see me in the state she was in because she,d lose it around me I think she keeping all her emotios bundled up and by being drunk wouldn,t be able to resist me I should have sent her a big bottle of wine just kidding but this tells me that she still cares but doesn,t want to be in the picture till my divorce is final so do I or don,t I send flowers or a card or don,t bother what do you think thanks for all your answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy divorce is not at it,s end thats why I am wandering if I send her flowers and a card am I gonna push her away I can tell she doesn,t want to be in the picture while the proceedings are happening so she doesn,t look like she was the one that broke up my marriage i,ve told her many times that my marriage was on the rocks before I hooked up with her the other delema we both work in the same large school division and if seen together before my divorce is over people will put 2 and 2 together I think that she was the one that broke my marriage thats her biggest fear
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy divorce is not at it,s end thats why I am wandering if I send her flowers and a card am I gonna push her away I can tell she doesn,t want to be in the picture while the proceedings are happening so she doesn,t look like she was the one that broke up my marriage i,ve told her many times that my marriage was on the rocks before I hooked up with her the other delema we both work in the same large school division and if seen together before my divorce is over people will put 2 and 2 together I think that she was the one that broke my marriage thats her biggest fear
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): aw;) that sound nice and maybe write in the note IT YOU WHO I WANT!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): I think this sounds like a really great idea honey. It's not too pushy and forward, yet romantic and nice to let her know you're thinking of her on the day for lovers.
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reader, As it is +, writes (10 February 2008):
Is your divorce progressing? Is it close to being finalised? I think she is staying away because she is probably scared of letting her feelings go, only to find herself in a situation whereby you are still tied to your ex. If you are adamant that you are not going to get back with your ex, then that is what you need to convince her of. Unfotunately chocolates and flowers won't do that job! Proof of your divorce progressing just may! Talk is cheap, and it is actions that prove what you say. Send a card by all means, not a slushy stereotypical valentine's day one, but one of those ones with a hearfelt message, write it yourself if you can. Right now you can do nothing more than tell her you want her, and firmly tell her that you will be free to be with her because there is nothing more that you want. If she still refuses to see you, then simply keep her informed as to the progress of your divorce and she may just come round as she starts to believe in what you say. If she's what you want, then she will be worth waiting for!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): Is your divorce progressing? Is it close to being finalised? I think she is staying away because she is probably scared of letting her feelings go, only to find herself in a situation whereby you are still tied to your ex. If you are adamant that you are not going to get back with your ex, then that is what you need to convince her of. Unfotunately chocolates and flowers won't do that job! Proof of your divorce progressing just may! Talk is cheap, and it is actions that prove what you say. Send a card by all means, not a slushy stereotypical valentine's day one, but one of those ones with a hearfelt message, write it yourself if you can. Right now you can do nothing more than tell her you want her, and firmly tell her that you will be free to be with her because there is nothing more that you want. If she still refuses to see you, then simply keep her informed as to the progress of your divorce and she may just come round as she starts to believe in what you say. If she's what you want, then she will be worth waiting for!
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