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writes:I'm 17 and have the money to buy a vibrator, but I have no way of actually getting one by myself. I don't have any friends old enough to take me some where that will sell them to people under 18, and I don't have a credit/debit card so I can't buy one online by myself. My mom and I have a close relationship and I know I can talk to her about almost anything, but I'm not completely sure about this. She's always been open with answering any questions regarding sexual health that I've had. I don't think she'll be too mad or upset, because I think she'd much rather me experimenting with something like a vibrator rather than another person. I just don't know how to ask her without knowing how she'll really feel about it. Should I just be as open and straight forward as I can be? Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2018): Haven't you written on here before? Do not talk to your parents about this. Just do it the old fashioned way or wait until you're older. So inappropriate to discuss with your parents.
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (17 September 2018):
 Just wait a year and buy it online and don't tell her. No matter what way you slice it, it's an intensely private thing.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 September 2018):
 No please don't! I had a very open and honest relationship with my mother growing up as well, which was great I could talk to her about anything. Yes she got me on the pill and spoke to me when I first got in to a relationship at your age. However as a mother I don't think she would be comfortable buying this for you. As honeypie said buy a gift card for amazon or ebay and order one from there yourself. Somethings should be kept private. Also if you are a virgin (which I assume you are from your post) a vibrator might be uncomfortable until you are more familiar with sex. You can buy small vibrators from pound stores that stimulate the clitoris therefore I would suggest starting out with something like that.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (16 September 2018):
 I wondered that at your age and the answer is no, you don’t ask. When you’re 18, you can get one for yourself. Until then, a shower or massager (like Cindy suggested) will be fine or take Honeypie’s advice.
Yes, it’s good to use a vibratory instead of a person at your age, but asking your parents isn’t the way to go. Get a cheap, small one first.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (16 September 2018):
Amazon.com dear. And sex devices are not just for adults.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2018): No, dear! You're living in her house, and she's not going to buy you sex-toys. Sex-toys are for adults.
You can buy personal-massagers right off the shelf in a pharmacy or department store. Choose the shape you think would be most effective.
Don't over-use vibrators of any kind; because they can cause tissue-damage and desensitize you down there. Use battery-operated; electrical-devices can get too hot, and you have to be careful not to get them wet.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (15 September 2018):
 Nope. I had a teen aged daughter and if she had asked me for one I think I would have freaked out and we were close and I consider myself quite open minded but its just weird and has that "EWWW" factor to it.
Get it online as Honeypie suggested...save embarrassment for EVERYONE
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 September 2018):
 EDIT
I meant to type:
No, you shouldn't have your mom buy you a vibrator.
Darn new phone.....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 September 2018):
 Just go to a CVS or Rite-Aid or Walmart and get one those traditional wand- shaped " massagers ": they are not marketed as sex toys, but as " personal massage appliances " or " health aids " ( well, you can actually also use them on, say, a pulled muscle in your leg ) so you won't need to be carded.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 September 2018):
No, you should have your mom buy you a vibrator. I have 3 daughters and while I'm NOT a prude... I'd be mortified.
BUY an AMAZON gift-card and get one online.
IF you think you really NEED one. To be very honest.. you don't. You have two hand and 10 fingers (I presume) so you really HAVE what you need to get yourself off.
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