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writes:Hello!!!In Just going to get straight to it, would I be nasty if I received oral sex from this Guy if I use to have sex with his friend? OK me and the Guy who I use to Have sex with we don't talk, haven't talked in Like 7 months. They both liked Me, but the Guy who wants to give me head is not my type. He's nice tho and I Just want something!!!! I haven't been touched in 6/8 months and I'm going crazy. I'm 19 and I've. Had sex with less than 5 guys and im not going to lie I love sex and I'm not going to act Like I don't. And you may say maybe I should find someone else but there is nobody!!!!! I hate guys with kids and disrespectful guys and that's Have been coming to me. I wish Me and the friend was still having sex but he did me wrong and he don't want me so Whatever. I'm a very beautiful Girl and Im not trying to sound stuck up but Its the truth, so I'm Not going to sit here and cry about the past. And I miss being wanted. Toys does Nothing for me, and my fingers HA!! After I use them Im like is that it? So nooo to them too. I do want a boyfriend nut I Not the type to wait 10 years For a Guy to Finally come into my life. Hell no!! And if its hard now to find a boyfriend I know for a fact when I'm 30 I may be gay, not trying to be rude. I love ppl. So what do you think? I don't want the Guy who wants to give me oral sex but I need something, I would be happy with him fingering me too lol I really need something.... and I'm hard to deal with so yeah Would I be gross? Because I Just started having good sex and I'm way to young to be sexual frustrated..
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reader, PeterNorth  +, writes (20 March 2011):
Hey, I think as long as you tell the guy straight up that it is oral sex and oral sex only with no strings attached, if he's cool with it, then go for it. You sound like you know what you want, so just go for it. I don't think its nasty at all. I love masterbating and sex, but then again I'm very open minded and will always try new things. So to me it ain't nasty at all and i say go for it! I took a chance in highschool and tried masterbating with my 3 best friends and haven't looked back. We've been doing it for two years now and still love it, even GF's join in these days. So just go for it
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have told him that. And he said OK. And no I wasn't going To return the favor. He told me he didn't want me too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): Just let him know before you do anything that this is just for your sexual pleasure, not any kind of relationship. Does he expect you to give him the same pleasure or is this a one sided thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCeltic_tiger I only had sex with 2 guys, you read it wrong but that's OK. I said I've had sex with less than 5 guys.
And about the kid thing, I don't want kids at all. I can do without them. And Maybe I should be patient but that sucks lol I don't Like waiting all the time. And I am judgemental I need to work on that.
And maybe I shouldn't use him just for that. But hey he wants to give it too me but your rite :) Thank you
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Sometimes in life, you have to be patient and wait for the things you want.
You are only 19, yet you have already had sex with 5 men? Thats quite a lot! Keep going at that rate, and you will end up with a reputation, and may become one of the mothers of the "guys with kids" babies. You seem very judgemental of others, yet you do not seem to look at your own behaviour with the same eyes?
In answer to your question, yes it would be nasty to use someone just for your own sexual pleasure when you know the guy has feelings for you. By doing that, you are no better than the "disrespectful" guys you say you hate so much. By letting him do that to you, you are showing that you like him, and feel comfortable letting him be sexual with you, when all you really want is to get off and it could be any man, doesnt matter who. Its unfair, mean and very selfish.
As the others have said - if you are that pretty you shouldnt have any trouble picking up men for sex. Nice guys generally dont want no strings attached sex. So if you want a nice guy, you either have to be patient and wait it out, or go and find someone slightly lower in the pecking order to fulfill your sexual needs. It's your choice. But you cannot have it all ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd Ummm didn't I say thank you?
Exactly!!
Any who, birdynumnums I agree with you. I do want a boyfriend but the only guys that I Have been meeting are guys with kids And disrespectful ones.
CindyCares thanks for the advice but I'm not looking for sex with no strings attached, I just wanted something to hold me over until well If I ever meet a Guy who likes me and that I like ;)
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Lol.
You said nothing about any of the advice that was given to you which related to your question. I still stick to the advice that I gave you and the other two people gave you. It all basically says the same thing.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Maybe not nasty , but.. better to avoid if you can.
But, I don't see the problem. If you are a beautiful girl, who is only looking for no strings attached sexual encounters, just go out ,send some sexy vibes around and you should have them queuing around your block !
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSincerely Yours hmmm if I don't Like guys with kids than that's me. I don't care what you think about that comment. If you didn't like it you shouldn't have left a comment. Simple as that! I tell it like it is. Oh Well lol but thanks for your comment.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 When having "casual" sex - avoid relationships that have involvements with other parts of your "life" in general. Including your past. It just makes the FUTURE simpler.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (11 March 2011):
I would firstly just like to calmly point out that saying " i hate guys with kids" is somewhat ignorant and a rude generalization. "hate" is a nasty work and a guy having a kid doesn't make him someone worth hating.
And in regards to your situation, just know that whatever you do with him, can and will spread around, because he will tell people, including your ex.
Personally, I would stay away from anyone who likes me, if I don't like them back. If you know he likes you and you let him please you, then you're leading him on. If you want a friend-with-benefits, then go for it, but I don't think you should do it to someone who wants to be with you. That's also involving his heart and potentially hurting him. e
If you are a beautiful girl like you say, and you're just looking for sexual interaction, then you should not have any problem finding a guy who's just in it for the pleasure.
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