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writes:Hi Dear cupid.The question I would like to ask is: Would it be disrespectful to my dads new wife if I had a photo of my Mother and Father together in a photo frame on display in my house? (when I move)My mother sadly passed away two years ago.I only consider my dads new wife, his wife. not my step mother. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (14 January 2021):
 You have every right to display family pictures in your home. Regardless of the fact that your dad has moved on, your mother was and is still your mother. That did not change all of a sudden. You have a right to love her and put your parents on display. It's your home and your mother is a part of your life. I'm also so sorry for the loss of your mother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2021): Of course you can put up a picture of your mum and dad in your house. You can paint it polka dot if you like. It's your house and she was your mum. Your dads wife should not be offended by this. Its fully understandable that you want to have some memories of your mum and dad together. If you are worried about it, maybe you could get a photo of your dad and step mum together too and put that somewhere in the house as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2021): The more you try to please people the more people expect from you. Nobody has the right to tell you how your home is arranged. Nobody has the right to expect you to replace your mother. Your dad is entitled to be happy and him getting married again in a way has nothing to do with you and how you feel and what you do about your mother, they are two separate things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2021): In your home, you may put-up whatever pictures you wish.
If your intention is to offend her, then perhaps she'll pickup on the negative vibe or meanness of spirit. Maybe she'd figure you were trying to send her a message; if you wallpapered the house with pictures of your parents. Otherwise, I don't see how she'd have any right to be offended. It's your house!
It's your mother and father, and they are the reason you're here. Who cares how she feels about it?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 January 2021):
 I'm so sorry for your loss.
And no, you can have pictures of your mom, your mom and you, your mom and your dad, ANYWHERE in YOUR house you want.
I don't think that is disrespectful to your dad's new wife. She was your mom and always will be.
*hugs*
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reader, kenny  +, writes (5 January 2021):
 I'm sorry for your loss.
With regards to the picture I don't see it being a problem putting a picture of your parents up. It's going to be your house.
Your dads new wife is surely mature enough to realise that they are your parents, and of course you are going to want a picture of them in your house.
Put the picture up if you want too, it's your house and nothing to do with your Dads new wife.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (5 January 2021):
 Sorry for your loss. A mere two years down the line, you must still be grieving your mum's passing and missing her terribly.
I have to ask, what is this really about? Do you simply want a photo of your mum and dad in your home but are worried about upsetting your dad's new wife, or is this a subtle yet effective way of sticking a finger up at your dad's new wife and making it clear she is not a replacement for your mum (which you make a point of mentioning in your post)?
Your mum will always be your mum and nobody can replace her. You have a right to put up a photo of your mum and dad in your own home if you so wish. Your dad's new wife is obviously aware he had a life before they met. However, such a photo should not be used as a weapon against your dad's new wife. If this is its purpose, then I think that would be disrespectful to the memory of your mum.
I get a feeling there is some sort of bad feeling between you and your dad's new wife. Is this why you are moving out? I wonder, is she trying to remove all traces of your mum from your family home? As your dad is already married a mere two years after your mum's death, it must be quite painful for you. Do you feel he has moved on too fast? Were your mum and dad together till the end or were they separated? It might help to bear in mind that people who have been happily married are often the ones who move on the quickest after losing a partner, as they try to replicate what they previously had. I am sure your dad is not trying to replace your mum but, rather, he is trying to find again the happiness he shared with her.
Have you talked to your dad about your feelings?
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