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writes:I'd be grateful for advice please.A colleague who works in a different office has said that she's willing to meet up with me. She's said that she'll text me at the end of next week to arrange meeting up. I'm really keen to see her before the end of next week and I'm kicking myself for not suggesting to her that we meet up before then - was too shy to be honest. Would I appear desperate if I texed her and suggested meeting up before the end of next week or might she be touched? Also she's 25 and I'm 40 - does that make a difference to the answer???Thanks in advance!
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reader, boo22 +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Hi again. There's something I'm going to have to wait for now in my life for 9 days and there is nothing I can do to alter that. I know how it feels.
My guess is you like her a lot more than she likes you right now. Why is the ball in her court anyway to phone you?
Why didn't you take the lead and make the arrangements?
That way you've got the control. It's not a criticism by the way, it just isn't the normal way of things usually.
Need more info really. Feel free to send me a private message
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks boo22 for your advice. I've got butterflies and feel so desperate to contact her - why can't I just forget about her for now - would be so much easier and less anxiety provoking?! I'm wishing my life away - not healthy! I will wait though as you suggest. Thing is...she said she wasn't up to much this weekend - why didn't she suggest meeting up this weekend? Can't figure that one if she really likes me...
What would the expectations of a 25 year old girl be? Should I treat her with respect and open door to pub for her etc etc or should I act a bit 'rougher'. Just don't quite know how to act... I know the answer may be "just be yourself...", but I be grateful for a few pointers...
Also, I got divorced 10 years ago - when should I mention that? What I don't want to happen is if she does like me and I leave it too long she may feel upset that I wasn't upfront with her initially...?
Thanks again.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (19 March 2010):
I know you're kicking yourself hun but do nothing for now and play the waiting game. You don't want to scare the horses as it were. She said she'd text you so leave it and see what happens. At this early stage you don't want to risk anything, especially as you really like her.
Short term pain, long term gain would be a good strategy to adopt now. Frustrating isn't it? lol Good luck x
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